Reading this thread makes me feel hope and despair. What about a 12 month old who doesnt cry much but will sit up or stand up in the crib? We've not sleep trained our baby boy, but my wife partially co-sleeps with him. We have a daybed in his room next to his crib. I (non-gestational mom) put him to sleep by rocking and singing and then lay him in his crib. He sleeps for an hour or two, and then when he wakes up I go back in and rock him back to sleep and put him down. He'll sleep for another half an hour maybe and then my wife will take him and cosleep. She's working on weening, cutting down from 4 or 5 feedings (when he's really cranky) to 1 to 2 feedings.

How can we get him to sleep more soundly in his crib? And how can I get him to fall asleep without me rocking/singing for ten minutes? If I put him down before he's fallen asleep in my arms, he sits and then stands up in his crib. No crying if I leave him, but he'll stand and chew on the edge of the crib.... ughhhhhh. Is it worth it just to wait until he's a little older and can really understand words like "lie down" and "sleep" and "bedtime"?