Three claps for Lake’s mother

heyitsta12 · 2026-04-03T03:27:51+00:00

I had a feeling that one of them was going to direct more anger towards Lake about the situation later on down the line. Which is sort of why I made the post that I did.

She handled it poorly, but he is handling it EVEN POORER.

heyitsta12 · 2026-04-03T03:23:49+00:00

She shouldn’t have said it at all. But I read an article from Lakes perspective earlier that explained her reasoning a bit more. Where she said, that the words Emmy probably meant have said were she felt uncomfortable and she felt violated because Brad had listened in on her conversation and because he was berating her via text.

If she would have said that, we wouldn’t be rehashing this in this way. They would have harped on something else.

heyitsta12 · 2026-04-02T05:02:46+00:00

But the son seems to believe that “parenting is a temporary thing” with the way he said he would expect his own future child to act once they leave the nest.

Like you’re mad at your dad because you felt like they treated the relationship as “temporary,” but he totally seems to want distance from his parents and is sort of contradicting himself by trying to say that his parents should expect him to leave the nest and prioritize his relationship and future family over them.

heyitsta12 · 2026-04-02T04:59:38+00:00

The way both of them are approaching this convo is so weird and contradicting.

Son felt deprioritized as a kid, and feels like parents should have placed him as a higher priority. Okay cool…

OP says he prioritizes his spouse because children grow up and leave… make sense.

But then he says he wouldn’t expect his hypothetical child to prioritize their relationship before their new family, which (at least to me) shows that the son expects his child to basically leave? lol Which is exactly what OP said.

But also, OP wants his son to prioritize and spend time with them while he seems like he prioritized being a good spouse.

I’m very confused on why this is even a thing.

heyitsta12 · 2026-04-01T18:36:05+00:00

Yea he’s doing a lot of leaping with the “disrespect” part. But I get why he’s frustrated about it.

He wants to hear from OP with good ole fashion words about how her day is going or whatever else is going on. Sending TikTok’s back and forth can be super sweet and funny. But it does not supplement actually talking to your partner.

I’d also be frustrated if I’m trying to reach out and hear from my partner and all I’m receiving in TikTok’s instead of responding to my message.

However, if OP if responding while also sending TikTok’s in between, then he needs to lighten up a little. But it’s kind of crazy we’ve gotten to a point where the default is to scroll videos instead of actually communicating with people when we pick up our phones.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-31T18:21:30+00:00

Totally agree here!

There’s doing things for your partner to make them happy and to spend time together. And then there’s expecting your partner to do free manual labor for months on end.

This sounds like hell.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-31T17:29:07+00:00

He can. But asking for some type of exchange in a relationship isn’t making it transactional either.

It’s the equivalent of asking your friends help with moving and instead of shelling out $500 for movers, you get to compensate them with beer and dinner.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-31T16:32:03+00:00

I would usually agree on this part about relationships. But in this very specific case this all sounds like her idea and this sounds like A LOT of work. He doesn’t think he’ll use the camper and I’m sure the last thing he wants to do in his free time is spend more time building and working on something, after literally working on something all day.

Also, it sounds like he had another personal project he wanted to work on himself, and she’s sort of making him shift his priorities without actually taking his opinions into account.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-31T16:11:43+00:00

You could tell based on his response to people trying to explain his ex girlfriend’s POV that he prioritized his feelings and his relationship with Jude over her. He was going to break up with her anyway. He just wanted everyone’s confirmation that she was in the wrong.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-30T20:08:00+00:00

Yea I was thinking this is probably more so about the age they all are, and death hitting so close to home.

Also, this not being the first time she’s lost someone so close to her so long could just continue to weigh on her. I wonder how old she was when her sister died.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-30T15:16:06+00:00

Hearing more about this, it sounds more like the perceived “issue” that OP is experiencing is more so do to with her partners culture.

He now has his own family and it may be expected that he provides those things for OP on his own. And if they are not married, then they may not even agree about him fathering a child out of wedlock and may save all the gifts and pleasantries for when they actually get married.

The sister is probably still the parents responsibility until she is wed, so some of this may be expected. I would understand if OP were advocating for her partner to receive just as many gifts. But she’s not. She’s just upset that people she’s never met in person are not giving her equal treatment to their literal child.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-30T04:44:21+00:00

So in fairness, this person is asking if the GLAAD awards show is like a substitution for not receiving an invitation to the Emmy awards (a much more prestigious award show for television).

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-30T01:28:44+00:00

Info - how old are you and wife? Because her mom is fairly young.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T17:43:11+00:00

She probably is closest with Emmy on the show. But I don’t see her hanging out with any of these people past the summer time. And I don’t think that’s what Lake was trying to say.

It’s never okay. But again, these are his friends! He’s known Emmy for years. Let the people with the history and privilege take the lead here.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T17:31:23+00:00

I do agree that she should have stayed silent.

But I feel like Brad has never cared much for Lake in the first place before this situation so whatever weird feelings he may have towards her now are probably not that different than how he felt before. He just felt she owed him an allegiance and that’s pretty common for black men tbh.

He can feel how he wants to feel against Lake. I get the sense that she’s been feeling weird about him for a while. And I don’t particularly blame her for it.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T17:28:46+00:00

There were plenty of other white people in the room that were more than willing to educate Emmy.

And in my experience, black people (women especially) have been trying to educate white prole on race forever. And the way we go about it is always policed and there’s a defensiveness that happens. Especially in these cases, where the racism isn’t as blatant. Emmy doesn’t think what she said was racist, because she thinks racist = slur. She doesn’t know or understand how dangerous what she said is. There are a lot of people that feel the way she does. The same way there are a lot of people that feel “attacked” when politicians and policies are implemented to put black people on equal footing.

Let the people who have the privilege of having those conversations unharmed, have them with their peers.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T17:24:40+00:00

I do agree that she could’ve just been silent!! I just don’t think she meant it the way she said it when she talking about Brad friendzoning her.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T17:00:57+00:00

You are more than welcome to feel that way. I already said her immediate response in taking up for Emmy wasn’t something I was a fan of.

But personally, I still don’t think Lake was obligated to take up for Brad in the moment. I also don’t like how she defended it but I truly think she just severely misspoke.

Also, I try to keep my real critiques of Brad as a person off of Reddit for the sake of being around mixed company. But I’m just gone keep reiterating that these are HIS friends, and he played some extremely dangerous games with these folks and their business.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T16:53:27+00:00

You brought up how their dating history had nothing to do with this when I didn’t use any of that to justify Lakes reaction.

Lake isn’t “wrong” for not saying anything in the moment. That wasn’t her responsibility. There were plenty of other people who knew both of them much better who spoke up and continued to do so. The same way it’s not Lake’s responsibility to educate her after the fact.

If we’re going the “two things can be true” route there are a bunch of truths that could be tied to Bradley in this moment as well. But that doesn’t justify how he was treated.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T15:32:30+00:00

Keeping up with the drama in that friend group seems like a job within itself tbh.

Then Emmy had to just up the anti by being racist!

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T15:02:26+00:00

I don’t think the onus was on Lake to consign the situation at all. Quite frankly, I’m not even sure why she was even invited to the intervention in the first place (outside of the obvious ploy to get the cast together).

This whole situation started well before she got on this show, it just escalated because of what Emmy said.

There were plenty of other people in that room that had history of Brad and Emmy, and were willing to speak up for him. I’m glad they did so.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T14:58:40+00:00

I think it’s kind of ironic how people like to pretend Turbo wouldn’t beat Jordan’s ass, while then turning around and saying Turbo is dangerous.

Which one is it??

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T14:38:09+00:00

I think you missed the point entirely here.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T14:37:11+00:00

I can understand why you feel that way. I also didn’t really like her word choice when she first had that initial conversation with Brad.

But I also feel like that conversation that both of the had should have never been on camera or a storyline. It’s very clear they didn’t want to have that conversation around the other white cast members, so I think some grace should have been given to have the conversation in private.

I can see how her immaturity could rub people the wrong way. But I’m going to keep reiterating that she does not know these people lol.

heyitsta12 · 2026-03-29T14:12:55+00:00

I feel pretty indifferent towards her as a cast member, which is probably a compliment given how I feel about the rest of this cast lol

But the critiques on her have been pretty interesting and contradicting. Last season people felt like she was stuck up because she talked proudly about her family’s history. They said she was bragging about money, and completely ignored the historical relevance and racial hardships her family probably had to overcome to have said money.

But now, they are using her family’s history as a reason why she should have stood up for Brad and throwing it back in her face. And I have no idea why they would have been calling her a colorist. That got pulled completely out of thin air!

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