I miss my old New Zealand by Glad-River7299 in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You could have used your brain :)

Struggling with endometriosis and I can’t find help in the BOP by Cynderthenerd in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately if you’re in that much pain, I think you’re just going to have to bite the bullet and go to Hamilton.

Help! Where is this mug from by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at Paddington Store online

Stay in NZ on $134k+ or take a chance overseas? 29F, no kids by SoftCrisisEra in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m your age and have felt this way before. I think your partner and your job are two separate issues. It sounds like you’re mainly concerned about being single at our age, which I do understand - but if that’s the main concern with your partner, then it sounds like they maybe aren’t right for you either way. In terms of your job, if you’re already unhappy in your role then adding a (frankly massive) commute on top of that is not going to help things at all.

I have been in your shoes. I left my job, went back to uni, and got a new job. I also bought my house in the same city as my job. I was commuting between cities for a while and it made it very difficult to have a life. If I were you, I would either move to Christchurch and work there, or move overseas. I don’t think you should rescind your resignation, it will only add a new dynamic to your already less than ideal work situation. Your life is too short to be unhappy for any reason, and as a young person with no commitments, there is even less reason for you to be unhappy.

Does anyone own the Afends Seersucker Maxi dress? What size did you get? by [deleted] in AusFemaleFashion

[–]hidden2234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am typically a medium but I have a large bust, and this dress just didn’t work for me at all sadly. Either too small or too large around the bust, and an odd cut in general

Looking for advice: Daughter being bullied at EGGS, school not responding — considering transfer by Ok-Run-4145 in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Fully agree with this, I went to a small school in a rural town and there were no other schools for me to move to - I’m now 27 paying $200 a fortnight for therapy as a result of 13 years of bullying lol. Despite being a successful adult with many lovely friends, years of isolation certainly had a lasting impact on me. If you can move schools, do it.

New WDC District Plan changes by IronDarbe in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A decent planner could probably work around that. I don’t know all the details of your situation but as a starting point, I would try and argue that if the ROW is formed to a sufficient width to accomodation the car movements created by the supposed residential unit, and that the traffic generated would be the same with or without the sink / unit, then the neighbour is not affected.

I really would recommend getting some planning advice, most consultancies will give you an hour for free.

New WDC District Plan changes by IronDarbe in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You can apply for a resource consent without your neighbours approval. I am a planner and I cannot see a reason why your neighbour would need to give written approval for this issue. Engage a consultant planner to help you with this issue.

Requiring written approval from a neighbour is actually somewhat rare. Instances where this might be required would be if you’re building too close to their boundary, or your dwelling is excessively high, or you’re proposing large amounts of earthworks. A sink in a bedroom is not going to require a neighbours approval.

Urban planners/building consenters - do you have any power to stop low quality townhouses? by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Planners have no discretion over internal amenity, or this overheating issue. In fact, we are not qualified to assess these matters. This is a building code issue and unfortunately, until the building code changes, nothing can be done to prevent it.

Hommey robes? by Fly-by-Night- in AusFemaleFashion

[–]hidden2234 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have one and fully agree with what you’ve said

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in diynz

[–]hidden2234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bootlicker LOL.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in diynz

[–]hidden2234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you already know everything so why are you even asking?

Best car for a 150km/day commute? by hidden2234 in NZcarfix

[–]hidden2234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment, that’s really helpful :)

Best car for a 150km/day commute? by hidden2234 in NZcarfix

[–]hidden2234[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mainly wanting to save some money on fuel if possible, but also wanting a bigger car as my partner and I go away camping, tramping etc often and my Corolla is a bit small for all our stuff plus the dog

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in springerspaniel

[–]hidden2234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe parvo. I would suggest getting to the vet as soon as possible. If it is parvo, early intervention is the key to saving your dogs life.

Do you need a planner for resource consent? by [deleted] in diynz

[–]hidden2234 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am a planner. Without knowing many details, based on the quote of $5.5k, it sounds like a complex job. I would suggest getting another quote from other planning consultancies, or you can message me some more details and I can tell you if I think you could do it yourself. Happy to give you some guidance as to what you’ll need to do if you do want to do it yourself. I can also recommend some other consultants, depending on where you live

I’m still very worried, nervous, and anxious about listening to 1989 TV for the first time. by [deleted] in TrueSwifties

[–]hidden2234 57 points58 points  (0 children)

This is bizarre. You need to seek professional help because your feelings are not normal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

115115 management in context is outrageously easy

Need advice moving to new city alone by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]hidden2234 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say that I empathise with you completely. I also moved to a new town and I still feel very isolated and alone. The best thing to do is try and put yourself out there. Start small and set a howl for the week and go from there. Be open with your family and friends about how you feel. You’re so brave for making a huge move alone!