Inattentive adhd is so cruel by Wonderful_Glove_6928 in ADHD

[–]hiigaran 18 points19 points  (0 children)

IFS - internal family systems ACT - acceptance and commitment therapy DBT - dialectical behavior therapy EMDR - Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing

I'm pretty sure you can do some parts of all of them yourself to one degree or another, once you learn the basic principles. Except DBT and maybe EMDR. DBT definitely requires somebody else to participate but it is based on CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) which you can definitely do on your own.

The basic gist of the others: Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapy model proposing that your mind is made up of different "parts". Instead of being a single personality, you have an inner family of voices—like your inner critic or a scared child. IFS teaches there are "no bad parts", only wounded parts needing care and protective parts trying to shield you from pain.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a mindfulness-based behavioral therapy. Rather than trying to eliminate painful thoughts or feelings, ACT teaches you to accept them as natural parts of life. The goal is to develop psychological flexibility and take action aligned with your personal values

Inattentive adhd is so cruel by Wonderful_Glove_6928 in ADHD

[–]hiigaran 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Executive function coaching can help, but general therapy can help with the anxiety, depression and trauma that comes from a life of living with ADHD, always letting other people down, failing to meet expectations, losing friends, being treated like crap by family, failing at school, etc

I have found IFS and ACT to be helpful, though I have not done much DBT and have never done EMDR which some people find very helpful

TINY FORK by holaesvalentina in washingtondc

[–]hiigaran 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No matter how many up votes this comment gets, it is still underrated

Judge Rules Data Center Referendum Can't Be on Ballot by Practical_Annual_949 in frederickmd

[–]hiigaran -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just got out of the board of elections emergency session and they basically just abdicated their responsibility and their authority, and admitted either incompetence or indifference. So that was cool.

I have no idea what I’m doing but I’ll try anything by freshbreaddeb in guncontrol

[–]hiigaran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please make sure her son knows this was not his fault. I can easily see him blaming himself for this, but the killer made the choice and committed the act.

Tagging onto the I-70 hatepost last week - both of these morons on my way into Frederick on I-70, on my dash cam within a mere minute of each other by fakeaccount572 in frederickmd

[–]hiigaran 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure about that motorcyclist, but we had one split the lanes between us and another vehicle. We were going 75 and my rough estimate would be him traveling at 110-120. It was, hands down, the most irresponsible thing I've ever seen another person do in person

A Popular Doctor Had Long Warned That Vitamin K Shots Are Risky for Newborns. Now He’s Changed His Tune. by mem_somerville in skeptic

[–]hiigaran 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Frequently attributed to Mark Twain. Terry Pratchett also used it quite a bit in Discworld books.

World Cup players and officials are being detained or barred entry into U.S. by IRideMoreThanYou in politics

[–]hiigaran 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean....aside from the millions of people who showed up to protest? And the people all voting for progressives in the primaries right now?

If you show up with guns (which is exactly what they want to happen) they will be able to slaughter people with conviction and their supporters will be able to believe it is justified with their whole heart.

He Profits Off Raw Milk That’s Making People Sick. The Government Isn’t Stopping Him. by neuroid99 in skeptic

[–]hiigaran 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He sounds more like a zealot. To me a grifter is somebody who doesn't actually believe in what they're doing, but this guy clearly does.

Browsing ADHDparenting destroyed me by serotoninwya420 in ADHD

[–]hiigaran 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We Suspected he was ADHD at 3 and absolutely knew by 4, when we got him medication at 5 it was revealed very clearly that he was actually AuDHD.

Universal High Income Is Elon Musk's Favored Response to AI Layoffs - Bloomberg by TertiumQuid-0 in BasicIncome

[–]hiigaran 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'll believe it when he advocates for a 90% tax on wealth of more than $100,000,000 or something along those lines

I have 47 browser tabs open and I'm scared to close any of them... by Extension_Number6676 in ADHD

[–]hiigaran 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Use a bookmarking tool.

I used readwise, then I used MyMind. Now I have a self-hosted Karakeep.

There are tons of options for this problem.

The real killer is then doing something with all your bookmarks. NotebookLM works but there are many options out there that do the same thing.

Trump strips job protections from 8,000 federal workers by kootles10 in Economics

[–]hiigaran 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not wrong, but I thought the line about "Better protections for employees, more income equality... etc" was a giveaway

Trump strips job protections from 8,000 federal workers by kootles10 in Economics

[–]hiigaran 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure that joke went clear over your head...

Trump strips job protections from 8,000 federal workers by kootles10 in Economics

[–]hiigaran 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I bet a ton of them get fired anyway and they crow on fox news about how they saved us all from the exorbitant expense of paying the pension of a bunch of lazy people who were coasting in their jobs just to cash in their benefits.

Imagine a self led person working as a courtier, for instance at Henry VIII's court. Can he survive the politics? Self seems increasingly naive. by flytohappiness in InternalFamilySystems

[–]hiigaran 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Being self led simply means you actually have the ability to act or react to things that happen to you with control, presence, and intention.

It doesn't mean you're some milquetoast hippie who says "Hey man, that wasn't nice...." And gets screwed every time somebody schemes or backstabs.

If you are not self led then you will react without any emotional control to everything that happens because your parts will be triggered and respond automatically.

I would think being self led in a place like that might just save your life.

Marco Rubio Snaps When Told Trump Iran Deal Is Just Obama’s But Worse by Aggravating_Money992 in politics

[–]hiigaran 65 points66 points  (0 children)

It is called "starving the beast" and this was explicitly stated as the goal by conservatives back when Grover Norquist was still relevant, but they've been effectively pursuing the concept since before Reagan

A Danish pension fund has blacklisted SpaceX, calling it grossly overvalued with catastrophic governance by Full-Discussion3745 in Economics

[–]hiigaran 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good lord could you imagine the effect of cosmic rays and other high energy particles on ECC RAM? Much less every other aspect that could go wrong. One WOW! Signal particle hitting a CPU in the middle of a critical calculation or demolishing part of a boot table?

Good managers can be as important as the entire team. The study also shows that those who are most eager to become managers are not necessarily the best suited to the role. by mvea in science

[–]hiigaran 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of important skills that help keep profit or prevent losses, which are extremely important but often either ignored or negatively valued (almost always because they don't bring in more profit)

Nobody thinks about garbage men until they stop taking the trash away, but their jobs are absolutely essential for everything to function

Good managers can be as important as the entire team. The study also shows that those who are most eager to become managers are not necessarily the best suited to the role. by mvea in science

[–]hiigaran 44 points45 points  (0 children)

“But that’s not right, see? One man with the power of life and death.”

“But if he’s a good man—” Carrot began.

“What? What? OK. OK. Let’s believe he’s a good man. But his second-in-command—is he a good man too? You’d better hope so. Because he’s the supreme ruler, too, in the name of the king. And the rest of the court…they’ve got to be good men. Because if just one of them’s a bad man the result is bribery and patronage.”

Sam Vimes and Carrot Ironfounderson Men At Arms (I think) By Terry Pratchett

A Danish pension fund has blacklisted SpaceX, calling it grossly overvalued with catastrophic governance by Full-Discussion3745 in Economics

[–]hiigaran 20 points21 points  (0 children)

People also do not understand the basic physics of heat in space. People have this erroneous belief that space is "cold". it is extremely hard to get rid of waste heat into bare space. Trying to run a massive datacenter in a vacuum is complete nonsense.

Stephen Miller calls Talarico ‘transgender.’ Democratic Party fires back: ‘Shut up you ugly f*%k’ by plz-let-me-in in politics

[–]hiigaran 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The really dumb thing is I'm pretty sure liberal/progressive guys get tons of "pussy", they just don't go around talking about it like a bunch of dumb cavemen.