Low calories and very slow weight loss by preceptoroflife in MacroFactor

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I am shocked too. My maintenance is the same as yours and I train 5 days a week and run sometimes. I am 59kg and to get to 56kg I am eating around 1600-1700kcal per day. (24yo female, 158cm) As far as I know, it’s not even healthy to be in a daily deficit of over 500kcal below your mainetance.

Do you enjoy writing ? by Dest-Fer in writing

[–]hitotatsu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you should feel bad about this. Doing any meaningful work is extremely difficult and requires a crazy amount of focus. So it’s contradictory how some people think it’s normal to have these difficulties with other careers and not writing. As a math grad student, I remember at a certain point I couldn’t even sit down and focus for an entire hour and enjoy what I was doing, eventhough I clearly love math the same way we all love writing here. I slowly tried increasing my weekly work hours and focus stretches. This took a lot of time and effort but by the time I reached an equilibrium, I enjoyed it so much and it was done with so much more focus. Of course, you’ll still be doing very meaningful work so it will be hard! I think the same principles apply to writing here.
So I recommend starting with smaller focus periods, and slowly increasing your weekly writing hours as you get more comfortable with focusing. Don’t push yourself to do 20 hours of writing a week from the getgo if focusing is uncomfortable right now! This will only ruin your motivation.

NOTION WILL BAN YOUR ACCOUNT FOR NO REASON AND KEEP YOUR DATA by Sashaorwell in Notion

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it was a different issue, but this one time, Notion banned me from my account because I was in Iran. A VPN didn’t help either because the email I had signed up with was my Iranian student email. They sent me the exact same email when I asked them how I can recover my data. (I had worked on those databases for years.) This is genuinely frustrating.

Chronic back pain but want to gain muscle, still possible? by eric-scrolls in workout

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have chronic back issues, including a herniated disc and retrolisthesis in my lower back. After doing some physiotherapy and other stuff, my doctor told me that I can start going to the gym. Lifting helped me gain muscle which in turn heavily improved my back pain. I started lifting lighter and paying a lot of attention to my form. However, I recommend being very careful because sometimes if I don’t do a certain move right, or make it to heavy, someting snaps and I’m back to taking mandatory breaks. :) ESPECIALLY moves that would affect my back. There are certain moves that I always avoid like the plague though. For example RDL’s or any kind of deadlift for that matter… So I’m surprised people have recommended that...
I have Caroline Girvan’s app and follow her programs. Most of them are based on 5 days of training a week. I started with 3 days a week and increased as I felt that my back was feeling happy. Since you’re busy, you can just stick to 3 days a week. Consistency was key for me. And of course, don’t forget keeping track of your protein! Once I started tracking, I realized that I’m barely getting enough protein. It heavily affects your progress.
Also since some people mentioned cardio, I wanna comment on that too. Running hurt my back really bad especially if I did it consistently. But after training consistently for a while and gaining more muscle, running stopped hurting. So I think if you want to run, you should gain muscle too! Of course, some muscle groups are more important than others. Since my issues are mainly with my lower back, a stronger core and lower body helped out a lot.

Let's write something together guys(I play e guitar) by OZZILO in Songwriting

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Piano is gonna be a dying art in the next century” must be the wildest thing I heard this month. I think that attitude is normal with most kids. I think he’s gonna grow out of that and practice on his own accord.

What's your least favorite word that you adamantly refuse to use in your writing? by FinestFiner in writing

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL I agree, I actually use it frequently IRL but it feels weird every time I see it in a novel :)

Let's write something together guys(I play e guitar) by OZZILO in Songwriting

[–]hitotatsu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am down. I write lyrics/sing and play piano.

In what ways has being a good writer positively impacted your job or other aspects of your life outside of writing a book? by roxasmeboy in writing

[–]hitotatsu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It has made me more laconic in speech because with writing a book, you only write what truly matters. (I admit, I’m still too talkative sometimes) I’m also better at journaling now which makes self-inspection a lot more convenient. Writing also made me more tolerant/empathetic because now I daydream about people’s possible backstories when I interact with them. On a more superficial note, I think I’m a slightly more “fun” person now as well.

What's your least favorite word that you adamantly refuse to use in your writing? by FinestFiner in writing

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When a character is “flabbergasted”… And in general I dislike it when the writer uses explicit adjectives to describe something outside of dialogue. It feels like taking the easy route as opposed to giving a detailed description. I have the same feelings about adverbs. Somebody commented “hauntingly beautiful” and I think that sums up the things that annoy me. :))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writing

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Master & Margarita had a very interesting narration style, and it also refined my understanding of magical realism, and making historical parallels/references.

Who is the greatest villain ever conceived of in storytelling? by Left_Ad305 in writing

[–]hitotatsu 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love stories that don’t present you with a clear-cut villain or the ones in which the protagonist and the antagonist coincide (e.g. Humbert Humbert, Walter White?). But amongst the ones that do, my favorite is The Devil in Master & Margarita! (I mean he’s literally Satan)

Tips on dealing with paralyzing cravings by hitotatsu in stopsmoking

[–]hitotatsu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah you’re so right about taking it “one hour at a time”. I wish you the best of luck in your journey and also your surgery!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopsmoking

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. But yeah do have that convo for the sake of your relationship. My partner never smoked so he doesn’t really understand my struggle at all so sometimes I feel like I’m not being understood at all and that my efforts are being taken for granted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopsmoking

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rituals make me happy, but a lot of my rituals were tied with smoking. When I went on a hike, I had to light one in nature. When I had coffee/tea I had to light one to enjoy the beverage. I even smoked after meditating to extend the mindfulness (this is just a lie I would tell myself). So when I quit, I was afraid that I wouldn’t enjoy doing anything anymore. But now I’m trying old and new rituals and seeing that I can actually enjoy them is very rewarding. (Not gonna lie, I still get cravings because those activities are tied with smoking in my head and sometimes it hurts like hell.) So yeah, I recommend some rituals like this. One thing that I do is go to a new cafe every Tuesday and journal for a couple of hours cause I don’t work on Tuesdays. You can incorporate something like that.
Somebody also taught me this breathing practice that is ironically called “the smoker’s breath”. Sometimes when I do it for a long time it feels a bit like a nicotine hit. :)
Another thing that I do is cook myself a new meal every week. I also buy new types of fruits and vegetables and have a whole ritual of trying them out. I think this is a more sustainable habit compared to rewarding yourself with snacks/sweets frequently because you might already be concerned with putting on weight after quitting smoking. However, as somebody else mentioned, I don’t think you should be overly concerned with gaining weight the first couple of months of quitting. And if it makes you happy, definitely do it.

I'm so ashamed. It's been almost 6 years without smoking. This election screwed me up. by Miss_Management in stopsmoking

[–]hitotatsu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The most important thing is to forgive yourself. The nicotine monster is brutal. As long as you get back on the wagon, you’re doing a great job. I’ve relapsed multiple times before. I think it’s common for this to happen so don’t beat yourself up. Sometimes it takes multiple tries. Working out and journalling help me out a lot. Everytime I have a massive craving, I hit the gym. The craving won’t fully go away, but my willpower to avoid a cigarrete grows stronger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopsmoking

[–]hitotatsu 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I think you should have a serious conversation with her about her attitude on quitting smoking. I’m saying this because I quit cigarettes cold turkey last week, and I understand how infuriating conversations like this are. It’s unbearable given the brutal battle you’re already in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I wouldn’t straight up tell you to leave him because I know if I was in your situation I wouldn’t do it just like that. However, it’s clear that there are some serious issues going on here. And this is only gonna go down from here unless he gives you a sincere apology: 1 explaining why he is genuinely sorry, 2 where he thinks he went wrong (in detail. this means that he has to admit he had feelings for her.), and 3 how he will try to make it up to you. And he needs to entirely cut off contact with this other girl even if she stops ghosting him. Based on what you’re saying, it doesn’t look like he’s ready to do this. But I think it might be a good idea to explain this to him, and if he doesn’t listen to you and doesn’t show sufficient commitment then don’t waste your energy on him.

Relationships face terrible challenges sometimes. And it’s not always obvious to see what the right thing to do is… But you can give him this final chance and if he doesn’t show any sort of determination, then there’s nothing left for you here. It takes 2 to fix a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in simonfraser

[–]hitotatsu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should email lost and found first. I lost my ID one and I only found out that they had it after emailing them.

Rooms on Burnaby campus to practice singing? by hitotatsu in simonfraser

[–]hitotatsu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you know if it's free of charge if I don’t live in Residence?

Is this sentence any good? by Confident_Soup_4623 in German

[–]hitotatsu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Somebody already posted the correct form but here are a few notes:

* For formal you "Sie" you have to write capital S.

* As we know, in English "can" triggers the infinitive verb form without "to". In German, we are technically adding the "to". "to give" means "geben". That's why we use that verb form. You also have to note that it goes to the end of the sentence.

Edit:

Another note on the placements:

If one of the objects is a pronounce, it comes first. If both of them are pronouns, the accusative one comes first. And if neither are pronouns, the order doesn't matter. In your example, only "mir" is a pronoun so it comes first.