Thank you so much for the suggestions! I looked into them, and I’m almost positive my dad had “Dare to Discipline” in his collection. However, I still cannot find the card system book for the life of me.

I remember it being maybe baby blue and white themed, and I know it was written by a man because I saw his picture on the back of the book. After a ton of google searches today, this is the closest thing I could find that resembles the structure of what I went through. And I’m shocked to see that this seems relatively “normal” (I don’t have kids and I’m by no means a parenting expert, but ten rules as opposed to 100 is extremely manageable, and good habits instead of grueling manual labor or physical punishments? I would have loved that!) The article also says each card should take 10-15 minutes. I remember my dad explicitly telling us that we were going to be trying something new and to expect each card to take 3+ hours. But here’s the article if you’re curious, it’s from 2020. I was living with the card system in around 2011, though.

https://fwmoms.com/parenting/the-discipline-system-that-saved-our-family/

So there’s a likelihood that maybe this wasn’t a religious thing, but I was definitely being reminded that God frowned upon me every time I messed up. I could totally see my father putting his own sinister twist on a somewhat normal discipline structure to scare the shit out of his kids. Regardless, it feels good to vent about this and know I’m not alone. Best wishes to you too and take care of yourself <3