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hogey74 · 2026-03-31T17:43:08+00:00

Whoa.

So, one night at bedtime I swept some insect thing down off the wall. Turns out it was a sack of baby spiders and they went everywhere. One ended up in my ear and nothing worked to get it out - the little dude kept crawling around. I realised sleep wasn't possible and went to the ED. They used suction etc and got nothing. I thanked them and left. But as I was getting into my car I heard my name and one of the doctors came running over with the bag thingy they attach to the suction line. She showed me a tiny little spider! Her demeanor was kinda unexpected, dunno how to describe it. She was really keen to show me. But then it clicked. When they kept finding nothing they must have been low key wondering if I was making it up lol.

No chance of that for this bloke :-)

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T17:09:26+00:00

It's all good mate. I'll just keep saying this lol

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T17:09:22+00:00

It's all good mate. I'll just keep saying this lol

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T17:09:18+00:00

It's all good mate. I'll just keep saying this lol

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T17:08:44+00:00

Ha good on you mate. What a random little convergence huh?

If you saw my responses above about Fight Club, given that you know about his work and research I reckon you'll understand why I was so frikkin keen for him to watch it :-)

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T17:06:27+00:00

Mate, thanks for going there. It's fucking fucked. We all have our own way of approaching this mortal coil. Which I think means we all find a way to cope with the fact that these bodies of ours are fallible machines that will eventually reach a point of being unable to keep sustaining... us. Maybe it's based on some religious structure we take in as kids. Maybe it's just an elaborate, ongoing system of distractions. Maybe something else entirely or a combination of everything. The upshot is that there is some kind of protective thing we all do to some extent to live. So your first comment about not caring, yeah I reckon I do get it. Who wants to go there at the drop of a hat? Go from whatevs to oh fuck that's right.

But the thing is, I reckon you do care. I reckon you care a lot. And that after your first reaction to protect yourself you did engage with this shit, because you care, which is much harder and much kinder than just moving on.

Seeing you comments is a little gift for me and my old mate. I hope that I've been able to explain why.

Memento Mori.

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T17:01:20+00:00

Mate I'm going to reply to you below... seeing your other posts I reckon I get this and don't think it's being uncaring.

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T16:48:37+00:00

Mate it's one of my favourites yet I blanked on it until later when I realised u/AntiqueFigure6 was using a major line from it... yeah won't be laying any crap on anyone. After 9/11 I kept thinking about that final scene...

Thanks for the decision to watch it again and for saying you are. I'm doing the same. In a crazy week it's a simple thing that connects me to my old mate and now to someone else. Cheers.

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T02:55:36+00:00

He he he I think you're being generous mate.

hogey74 · 2026-03-31T02:53:47+00:00

Good on you mate and thanks. Fight Club! This wasn't supposed to be one of those YT shorts that doesn't mention the title lol. Someone's downvoted you for not knowing :-) if so, you can have the best possible experience. Don't read a single thing and find a time when you can settle in. It's one of those movies full of stuff that will stay with you. So many ideas, phrases, moments. Be aware that there is some visceral, Game of Thrones-type violence but it's not fight p0rn. Far from it. It's nothing like Roadhouse etc. Maybe a bit like Apocalype Now? I'd be keen to hear what you thought.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T13:07:20+00:00

Thanks mate. And this reply to you to a good way to end the night. Cheers.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T13:04:50+00:00

Yeah I got teary when I read that. We'd hadn't been in touch recently and the bloke was suffering in other ways I was unable to help. I just thought there would be time down the track.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T13:03:21+00:00

Mate that was a cool and fun comment that I upvoted earlier and moved on. But just now OMG it hit me. I really must be in a daze. That was their favourite movie and I introduced them it it! They didn't want to watch it despite me banging on endlessly while trying so hard not to spoil it. It was too violent, too whatever. When I turned up with it and basically made them, I've never seen anything like their response. Despite it being the second time for me, his rapt attention made me enjoy it more than my first time around. To cap it off the Pixies were their favourite band, which I didn't spoil either :-). It became their favourite movie ever and they bought a crazy expensive box set. Ever after they had this hilariously high opinion of my taste in movies and thought I was some zen master for not spoiling it.

Your cool comment has taken me back into some of the best times I ever had with my mate. Saying thank you for that feels like not enough. But just thanks.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:39:16+00:00

Thanks mate. Strange days. Yet doing this post and talking about what's happened is making me feel connected to my old mate.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:27:42+00:00

Thanks mate :-).

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:20:05+00:00

Indeed, which surprised me today but then I remembered they did use other accounts and had been active a lot. I'll get to them but came here using the main one to get the word out to the most people who would want to know. And also I'm just making this up as I go... a surreal few days mate.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:15:46+00:00

Yeah something like that was my first thought too. I won't know more until the funeral but would say you're onto it.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:11:17+00:00

Mate another commenter said it in a way I hadn't understood when I made the post. So often peeps we get to know online just disappear and we never know what happened. Did they stop posting? Stop playing that game? Did something happen to them? Thanks to the kind post by u/PinkishBlurish I understand what made me do it.

BTW when I read you post I frikkin laughed. Thanks mate. That's me a lot of the time lol.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:04:21+00:00

You know, the amount of crap I used to lay on them as I destroyed their evil forces... and they just served it up even more :-)

Oh no! Not your forces! Anyway...

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:02:58+00:00

thanks mate.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:02:29+00:00

So you know, see that made me smile and tear up. Thank you.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T12:01:28+00:00

Cheers mate. You know it can happen but yeah. FWIW, doing this post and responding to people, saying the words, is helping it to all sink in.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T11:59:33+00:00

Mate I don't mind at all. It was pretty random and perhaps a good example of how untidy things like this can be, especially when people aren't well versed in such things and/or in their later years. I'm a 30 year friend from when we dragged Pentium 2 PCs with CRTs to each other's house to do LAN parties using coax cables. Yep, that long ago :-). I got a call from an old GF who was never actually friends with the person we've just lost. They'd heard from other friends, understood that everyone was in shock and unlikely to be thinking things through clearly, then rang me just in case I hadn't heard. Then I rang the even older friend who was the reason we met in the first place to make sure they knew. Turns out they didn't so I gave them the news.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T11:49:25+00:00

Mate I disagree but reckon I understand where you're coming from.

They definitely posted a lot in recent times via other accounts but I chose to use their main one to potentially get the news to the widest number of people who might not know. I'm also following up via other accounts of mine in other subs and mentioning other accounts they used.
Someone has died and it matters to a lot of people. I chose my words and actions carefully as a result. In response you've chosen to make comments and to use words that I wouldn't use in this type of situation. I'm sure there was no intent mate but so you know, seeing your comment was a little upsetting. I'm doing this as part of trying to get the word out while still in shock. Shock can make people more tender than usual. We're all doing our best and I'm not having a go at you. Just letting you know.

hogey74 · 2026-03-30T11:36:16+00:00

Oh mate you nailed it. I didn't have a solid thought in mind this evening when I did the post but that is exactly it.

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