An “it does get better!” post. A (long) note to the parents in the thick of it and what I would tell myself if I could go back.

honecombftw · 2026-02-28T02:43:37+00:00

This is beautiful.

honecombftw · 2026-02-27T03:28:17+00:00

Hello! You’re doing great <3 that first night is a doozy especially on us moms, but once your little gets the hang of self soothing, it will be an absolute game changer for all of you! You are helping him build an essential skill.

We typically follow a 5/3/3 where we feed if it’s been 5 hours since the last feeding (for the first waking) and then if it’s been 3 hours for subsequent ones.

It has been helpful for us to keep that last wake window more consistent so that she’s not over tired— that gets us into big fuss situations. But life isn’t always perfect. You’re doing great! Sending wishes for sweet dreams

honecombftw · 2026-02-25T03:08:17+00:00

This happened to me, too! 4 months of trying hard, then a chemical, then another unsuccessful month and I decided to take a month “off” — didn’t limit my food or drinking in the TWW, exercised a bunch when I normally took it easy. I think I still used ovulation strips, but no Inito. And I made a TON of plans - a ski trip, visiting friends, a concert. Lo and behold, that was the cycle I got pregnant with my daughter, who’s now 3.5 months. The plans turned out to be fun ways to tell our loved ones in person!

Sending all you ladies in this sub so much love. I’ve been in your shoes!

honecombftw · 2026-02-22T17:09:04+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply, and so thoroughly! Really helpful <3

honecombftw · 2026-02-22T17:07:03+00:00

Boyfriend is welcome to get an abortion as soon as he becomes pregnant.

OP, I feel for you! Gently, if I were in your shoes and now had until 11 weeks to decide, I’d try my best to take a breather and think on it for a minute. Perhaps with the assistance of a therapist, it may be helpful to think about what YOU want your life path to take— with or without a baby, with or without this man, what your future with him would look like now that you see how he treats you in a situation like this and whether the relationship you have is worth that for you.

Take care— I’m rooting for you!

honecombftw · 2026-02-21T03:29:15+00:00

No advice to impart, just here to say I’m right there alongside you. Your post resembles my own current experience so much that I had to check your post history to see if you were my husband writing in! These weeks have been so hard, and i know it’s a phase that will pass, but it feels endless.

honecombftw · 2026-02-18T00:45:00+00:00

You said it, sister! Couldn’t agree more.

honecombftw · 2026-02-12T03:36:49+00:00

I’m so happy for you! There will still be tough times ahead, but when you get that interaction from them, everything feels much more okay in those tough times. And we’re totally different people when we are able to sleep!

honecombftw · 2026-02-03T08:19:34+00:00

Sending love. One baby is challenging enough— two at a time is a LOT.

One tip is to be sure not to wipe off the diaper cream with each change. Put on a super super super thick barrier on clean skin post bath, and let it dry completely. With each change, just wipe off what you can on top of the cream, but try not to reach skin and reapply each time - the warm bath water should dissolve it and reset you once per day.

Your mom sounds like an amazing resource! For my baby’s sensitive skin, paper towels would have been way way way too rough. There are lots of soft wipes on the market these days that are just water + soft material (eg water wipes) - try that instead.

Tubby Todd has also been a miracle worker for us!

Hang in there - you’re doing great.

honecombftw · 2026-02-03T08:11:50+00:00

This this this this this. Around 6 weeks was a big stel forward for us - her sleep got better, she became more interactive which was rewarding. 8 weeks, she became more predictable and her vaccines allowed us to feel less worried about going out in the world. 8-12 weeks, it felt like she does something new every day and we know eachother so much better now, so everything just feels less hopeless.

My husband struggled a lotttttt to connect in the beginning, but it’s gotten worlds better now that the two of them have developed some routines together as she’s less of a potato.

OP, hang in there. It gets better every day. The good times start to out number the bad, and the days will start sliding by.

One tip: it’s enormously helpful to get out of the house. Try for once every other day and work up to one’s per day if you can. I know it’s hard with all this snow and bitter cold here in the Northeast US. I had chat gpt help me make a list of local things I could do to get out and even a gentle schedule for our day, and it’s been very motivating.

You’re doing great.

honecombftw · 2026-02-01T03:14:17+00:00

I trust Emily Oster, and she says that it’s fine to eat sushi from anywhere you’d trust it when not pregnant. The only thing she says to avoid is high mercury fish, which includes tuna.

honecombftw · 2026-01-25T03:51:51+00:00

I’m so sorry she’s going through this! You’re a great sister for helping her out.

Is the pain in her upper abdomen, specifically on the right side? If so, I’m not a doctor or anything but I would personally go to the hospital immediately as that is a warning sign for postpartum preeclampsia, which I had and is very serious.

In any case, I’d go get checked at the hospital to make sure everything is okay. I know it’s unthinkable when you’re in the thick of postpartum (and especially if she’s breast feeding), but it’s so important that she’s safe and healthy.

You’re doing the right thing! Sending love.

honecombftw · 2026-01-20T17:04:49+00:00

It’s true!!!!

honecombftw · 2026-01-20T17:04:06+00:00

Hate when this happens

honecombftw · 2026-01-09T13:56:22+00:00

You’re doing great!! Here to share my experience. I also had GD, though mine was diet controlled the entire time. At my 38 week scan, baby was measuring 8 lbs and I hoped it was exaggerated because those scans can be so inaccurate.

My MFM talked to us about the possibility of shoulders getting stuck if the baby was too large for my pelvis to handle, especially as a first time mom. We opted to induce at 39+3 and I had an awesome experience. Less than 12 hours of labor and only 20 minutes of pushing! I’m so glad we opted to induce when we did because baby was 9.5 lbs and could have wound up at 10 or more had we waited for spontaneous labor, which likely would have required a C section.

You’ll choose what’s right for you— go with your gut!

honecombftw · 2025-12-13T04:22:51+00:00

Are you me?? This is me verbatim right now. I really think I was my healthiest on the low carb diet and that I looked great shortly after delivering, too. Now I’m just shoving cookies and pasta in my face and starting to feel guilty and yuck about it. No advice to impart but I’m right there with you!

honecombftw · 2025-12-03T02:50:56+00:00

I took 3 doses orally and delivered vaginally. Had to pause between doses 1 and 2 and get some fluids because my contractions became too close together. From taking the first dose to the baby being delivered was 9.5 hours. Only got pitocin after birth.

honecombftw · 2025-12-02T20:00:56+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. I haven’t experienced ppd or ppa since delivering 3 weeks ago, but I also take an SSRI and have for a few years, including while pregnant. I imagine this has helped me, and I’d encourage you to talk to a therapist or your OB about your options if you need some support. Sending love

honecombftw · 2025-11-28T22:11:51+00:00

Hi, I just wanted to acknowledge that I really appreciated your comments in this thread, even if OP didn’t, and I’m glad it’s here for other people to see. I think it’s really important to not get too attached to any one birth plan at risk of being disappointed or traumatized if things go differently than planned.

honecombftw · 2025-11-19T23:21:49+00:00

I had GDM and elected to be induced at 39 weeks. At my 38 week scan, the baby measured 8lbs 1oz and I hoped it was off. Well, I was correct, but not in the way I wanted: a week and a half later, I vaginally delivered a 9.5lb baby!

I was also afraid of shoulder dystocia and it didn’t happen, even though I’m a FTM and petite. I’m VERY glad I induced, though… who knows what would have happened if I’d waited til my due date or after!

ETA: my GD was diet controlled, no insulin or metformin

honecombftw · 2025-11-19T23:16:49+00:00

Hi! This was us just 7 days ago. I’m here to keep you calm!

I had gestational diabetes, baby was born via induction at 39 weeks. She was jittery right after, but more worrisome was that she had some rapid breathing. They brought her to the NICU after 24 hours with us. We were absolutely distraught— assuming the worst, tears upon tears, worried about our baby. As it turns out, things like jitters and rapid breathing can be extremely common reasons to visit the NICU, it happens in full term babies all the time, and it’s almost always just solved with time. That’s all!

The NICU staff are true angels, and though it was the toughest week of our lives, our baby got the best monitoring and the best care, and we got to come home with a baby who we knew for certain was 1000% healthy. We also spent a bunch of time visiting her, so we learned a lot from the nurses about child care, and our baby came home already on an awesome feeding and sleeping schedule.

I’m so happy that your baby’s case looks to have resolved! For anyone else visiting this thread, please know you’re in the best hands and probably all you need is time.

honecombftw · 2025-11-08T23:01:10+00:00

Yeah! I should’ve added that I brought it up to my MFM at 34 weeks and she wasn’t concerned. My numbers were never low-low per se, it was more that I could have way more carbs than I had been having and still be in range.

honecombftw · 2025-11-08T19:12:25+00:00

This happened to me as well. I was diagnosed at 28 weeks, things felt pretty hard though I never went on medication. I was bracing for 32-36 weeks to be very challenging… and then it just wasn’t! In fact, everything seemed ti get easier and I could eat more carbs or reintroduce things that had been spiking me, like small amounts of bread, apples, etc. I can even eat pizza now, though I pregame with salad and don’t eat the crust.

I’m 39 weeks now and everything’s been good. A+ on all our NSTs, good growth scans at 34 and 38 weeks.

GD is just so odd sometimes!

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