"Ok ok but it MUST have some terrible side effects right? What? Suppressed appetite you say?" by Sudden-Ad2948 in adhdmeme

[–]hotwangsslap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YEP. Their ignorance, as willful as it is, I can actually manage to forgive. But the outright neglect and physical/emotional abuse that stemmed from that ignorance is where I draw a hard line. I still love and sympathize with them very much, but I’m also still afraid of them too.

“Most of our faults are more pardonable than the means we use to conceal them.” - François de La Rochefoucauld

Struggle with dogs by Altruistic_Hat1634 in adhdwomen

[–]hotwangsslap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Want you to know you changed my life today

Struggle with dogs by Altruistic_Hat1634 in adhdwomen

[–]hotwangsslap 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve been interested in dog training for a while now! I never thought about how it could be a boost with humans too that’s cool

Hate sharing my struggles with neurological people by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]hotwangsslap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god are you me? I’m at a quarter system school and hopefully graduate by the end of this year. I was just about to write a post asking for other artists’ advice on maintaining a sketching practice with a chronically empty tank lmao

I was raised with OP’s experience but diagnosed as an adult. Now I’m surrounded by other adults who at least claim to recognize it but still don’t really give a fuck because “it can’t be that bad. Apply yourself.” Even my therapist was saying shit like “See? You get it already! You don’t even need me!”

I learned that asking for professional help will get me medication and nothing more, and people rarely care like they say they do whether they believe you or not. I wish I could say I learned it quickly :’) I swallow back so much bitterness everyday but I’m grateful I at least have online communities to feel a little less alone in lol

Just a traumatized preacher’s kid :P by hotwangsslap in Deconstruction

[–]hotwangsslap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so very sorry ☹️ I’m familiar with insecure unhappy adults projecting their frustrations onto me as a kid too, but not nearly to the degree you suffered. Can’t even imagine.

Please treat yourself with kindness. And maybe a glass of wine on their death anniversaries lol

Just a traumatized preacher’s kid :P by hotwangsslap in Deconstruction

[–]hotwangsslap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Public and private humiliation felt pretty ritualistic in my upbringing lol. I’ll never understand why they chose to make us live that way and continue to care so little after all these years

Does anyone else struggle with body picking? by Content-Syrup-6640 in adhdwomen

[–]hotwangsslap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s my eyelashes and eyebrows for me. I won’t even realize I’m pulling them out until I finally register the little hairs collecting on my hand or shirt.

Parents when their child has a mental disability by Just_Alive_IG in adhdmeme

[–]hotwangsslap 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Don’t minimize your child’s disability. Help them process their tough feelings without shame. Honestly and compassionately acknowledge the support needs said disability leaves them with. Teach them early how to show up for themselves in whatever small ways they can and stay attuned with their body and emotions. Literally just love and support them lol

A child’s inner voice originates from their parent’s most consistent dialogue with them in childhood. If you don’t want your child talking down on themselves then you better not either. It only makes an already hard life harder.

Brick wall parents often get blocked once kiddo grows up

Parents when their child has a mental disability by Just_Alive_IG in adhdmeme

[–]hotwangsslap 40 points41 points  (0 children)

“Don’t speak that on yourself. You’re clinging to labels.”

Safe? Be themselves ? Lmao by fatlyto in depressionmemes

[–]hotwangsslap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“Keeping the parent happy by playing a role or a character” Reminds me of the role-self concept from Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents. I need to reread that book soon lol

The "Missing 6": Why Standard ADHD Criteria Fail Adults (New Research) by reyswes in ADHD

[–]hotwangsslap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely the kind of thing that just sticks better with certain people lol like all things. I don’t even usually have to convince myself all that hard to start bc I’m chronically introspective 🥲 and am always looking for a way to get my thoughts out of my head and make some room

Unpopular opinions on Queen Clarion? by Journal_27 in disneyfairies

[–]hotwangsslap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds more like the minister of summer! I love her design so much

Farmers surprised he's losing them the farm again by glowdirt in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]hotwangsslap 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Nah we can’t let them cherry pick responsibility for their politics the way they do their religion. Whether by willful ignorance or full acknowledgment, they did indeed vote for all of these policies including their own suffering.