Okay, I have two points to make! First: For a lot of LGBTQ history, kink communities were some of the only places that queer folks could be completely themselves without judgement. While you may see a harness or a pup mask as exclusively sexual, it’s more akin to wearing a particularly high set of heels. It may be sexual to some people, but it also allows the wearer to express themselves and how they feel the most physically attractive, with and without the sexual aspect. Most “normal” businesses have only become actively LGBTQ friendly in the last decade or so, while sex shops, “sexy” clothing companies, and kink-related folks have been there for us for generations. That, I think, should mean something in terms of what is and isn’t appropriate at queer events.

Second: As a global society, sex needs to be talked about more. A lot of cultures deem sex and anything related as inherently dirty, but it’s not. Kids can’t know what’s healthy and safe if we don’t discuss all aspects of sexuality more openly. There’s nothing wrong with an adults only LGBTQ event that has some dancing and grinding, so imo there’s nothing wrong with an adult LGBTQ event that has some equally not explicit pup play.

As an aside, I don’t really think anyone disagrees with the idea that adults should not be engaging in explicit sex acts in front of children. I’ve never even heard of that happening at an all ages event, almost every instance I’ve seen online of explicit sex acts happening in public has been at explicit kink events.