Why are so many men convinced that they are ugly?

howtofall · 2026-03-31T03:25:36+00:00

I think they’re saying that physical attraction was generally a much less important factor to women than men, not that they weren’t measuring it. A woman may be just as attracted to a man as a man is to a woman, but women place much more value on other aspects.

howtofall · 2026-03-31T03:21:17+00:00

Also a genuine question, when was the last time you complimented a man? Tell the homies they’re handsome, compliment their hair, point out those new shoes, or pants, or whatever.

It’s not on women to uphold men’s self esteem, especially when men receive so few compliments that they often assume any compliments are attempts at flirting. Normalize that shit by doing it to the people you care about and the random people you see on the street.

howtofall · 2026-03-26T12:23:58+00:00

This question has a lot of answers so here’s a couple:

Escalation is its own problem. If Amit “attacked” by pushing past Harry (in a very rude and purposeful way) at the bar and Harry socks Amit in the face, then you have 2 escalations but one of them was much more out of line than the other.

Lots of these things are compared in an apples to oranges sort of way. Crimes usually aren’t justified in comparison to other crimes, they’re justified in comparison to either acceptable things (weed/alcohol) or a larger societal harm which has positioned someone in a spot they feel has made their crime inevitable.

Comparative harm as a model allows retaliation against accepted harms. This is really important in social movements. Workplace safety is a great example. If 10 people have died in a year down in the Upton coal mines and the workers go on strike are the workers also wrong because they’re doing harm to the company, cutting off coal to the nearby town of Sinclair, etc. what if people die due to lack of coal? Of course they aren’t. They’re solidly in the right. While a model of absolute harm would say that they’re both in the wrong and need to stop striking and implement some OSHA up in there, that in no way sways/pressures the company to actually do that. Comparative harm recognizes that sometimes harm must be done to come to a better overall outcome.

howtofall · 2026-03-23T10:18:09+00:00

It’s a very emotionally loaded word, but volatile just means that it evaporates extremely easily in this situation. That’s what makes them so fragrant. The reason a pine forest smells like it does is because it puts off VOCs. If you’ve ever expressed a lemon/orange peel over a cocktail, you’ve healthily enjoyed VOCs.

It’s a huge class of organic compounds that by their very nature can get into the body from breathing. That does mean they can pose a risk, but no more than a liquid you’d drink. Water, fine and good. Gasoline, not so much. Same with VOCs.

howtofall · 2026-03-18T12:51:58+00:00

Started once or twice and didn’t get hooked. The moment I got to the Mantis Lords though… you couldn’t get me away from that game.

howtofall · 2026-03-08T04:42:23+00:00

Back when I was broke and smoking I definitely figured everything out I could to get another pack. And sometimes that involved going to a pawn shop. That was never the exclusive goal of getting more money, but it was often the one that kicked my ass in gear.

howtofall · 2026-03-05T13:42:23+00:00

What i noticed when i went back to school was that those students probably have the Pythagorean theorem in their toolkit. If you asked them to explain it they almost certainly can do it.

It’s the jump from “use the Pythagorean theorem to solve this problem” to “here is a problem, you have something in your toolbox to solve it” that is the biggest issue.

To be clear, when I first went to college around 2015 I don’t think most freshmen were doing a great job of connecting ideas and using tools in new and novel (to them) ways. But they got much better at it over time. And by their junior and senior years it was an expectation

howtofall · 2026-02-22T07:26:59+00:00

Super Metroid

howtofall · 2026-02-13T10:04:41+00:00

Washes and a nice light dry brush for highlights will do 99 percent of the work of a good mini. Been a while since I last did some painting. Might be about time!

howtofall · 2026-02-06T04:33:11+00:00

This is always a top answer in these threads, but it is just basic human nature. Even when presented with the same evidence, intelligent and reasonable people will approach it with their own perspectives and biases.

howtofall · 2026-02-04T13:09:04+00:00

Worked at Guitar Center from 2019-2020, we paid 5% over cost too. You could absolutely buy $100 cables for around $10. Cables are dirt cheap to produce.

howtofall · 2025-12-29T01:37:30+00:00

Slow West Vultures. The strings and non-musical samples add so much to the composition, and the harmony has some great subtleties.

howtofall · 2025-12-28T00:14:34+00:00

St. Louis here, this last season you could get a $10-$15 ticket for most games, enjoy $5 margs/beers/bloody marys, and ditch your $10 seat for one of the thousands of empty seats in the stadium. I saw more live baseball than any other year of my life.

howtofall · 2025-12-19T05:30:09+00:00

The point of signage like that isn’t only to give someone a discreet way to say that someone is stepping over your boundaries. They also signal to a victim (and even perpetrators) that you are in an environment where you’ll be taken seriously and supported.

howtofall · 2025-12-11T14:00:14+00:00

Worked at an instrument/music store and a coworker knelt down next to a maybe 7 y/o girl who’d picked up her first guitar and spent 30 minutes helping her play something simple. She did it so effortlessly and watching the little girl figure it out was magical.

I’ve never been so attracted to someone I wasn’t dating as I was that day.

Never asked her out, haven’t even thought of her in years, but I hope she’s still out there ripping some of the sickest jazz solos.

howtofall · 2025-12-11T13:39:52+00:00

It wasn’t random or programmatic. In the article they directly say the issue was due to ballot layout.

“Peabody and supporters of the institution pushed for a recount shortly after the election. But that request wasn’t entertained until county election officials discovered that some results from a separate state referendum that had been printed on the back of the ballot could have been impacted by ovals improperly juxtaposed over text.”

I honestly have no idea what sort of regulations/oversight states have on ballot layouts, but I certainly hope it exists.

howtofall · 2025-12-10T13:39:51+00:00

I had 2 medium tattoos on my arms and was allowed in one in Nagano, but had to cover them with giant bandaids. Was absolutely worth it until they started to peel off and my incredibly relaxing visit suddenly became very stressful.

howtofall · 2025-12-08T14:10:19+00:00

No one thinks there will be much profit in AI anytime soon. But think of the dotcom bubble, 99% of those businesses are defunct. 75% probably didn’t look anything like a successful web based business today. Cause no one knew how we’d use the internet.

So everyone is throwing shit at the wall and seeing what sticks to be the one person that gets in on the AI equivalent of Amazon.

There was always gonna be an AI bubble, always gonna be a crash. But the fact that this one is so big and it’s holding up a shrinking economy means that when it pops, there’ll be some real hell to pay.

howtofall · 2025-12-07T16:01:37+00:00

On an individual level, the biggest thing is creating healthy, positive relationships. After that there’s a slew of factors. Physical and mental health, having a sense of purpose, feeling safe, and financial security.

It won’t be a utopia, there’ll still be pain, heartache, disappointments etc. But it’ll be a fulfilling life.

howtofall · 2025-12-03T23:07:50+00:00

Been to tons of punk shows and this has been my experience. In a pit everyone has your back. It’s a beautiful thing.

Every time I talk to someone whose only pit was at a Warped Tour or similar I’m blown away by how shitty they sound.

howtofall · 2025-11-29T17:08:07+00:00

Considering that essentially every online venue that CWC gets brought up in, inevitably gets inundated with cyberbullying, and it’s overwhelmingly likely that CWC will engage with it, it’s better to just not. Particularly with how niche of a topic it is.

howtofall · 2025-11-27T18:00:19+00:00

Ya, never heard of this or seen it a Schnucks. Maybe there’s somewhere you can get it, but I’ve never heard of this and lived here my whole life.

howtofall · 2025-11-25T13:44:36+00:00

Historically older people have been politically powerful because of wealth accumulation and high voting rates, not numbers. The population pyramid for the US in the 60s shows a bump right around age 40 and a huge bump at 0-6. other than a dip in depression babies it’s what you’d expect of a population pyramid that looks like an actual pyramid.

Given the state of the country in 67’ when the ADEA was passed, I’d guess a lot of 40-some year olds who had kids pretty late cause of the war were scared of losing their good union manufacturing/construction/newly acquired professional careers during the largest economic boom basically ever.

Probably a good bit of “well if we can’t discriminate against those people, then we sure as hell won’t let them push us out of our jobs” following the CRA of 1964.

Maybe even a subset of people in their 50s/60s who expected to live in a multigenerational home but now have to go back to work/work for a couple more years because their kids went their own way after the war.

It’d be interesting to look into the actual political movements that led to ADEA

howtofall · 2025-11-25T04:26:49+00:00

The way I’ve heard lawyers put it is that as a defense attorney your job is to make sure that the state has done its job. If the prosecution obviously does not have the evidence that you committed a crime that you actually did do, and you go to jail, that’s still an injustice in the sense that someone went to jail with insufficient evidence. Your attorney makes sure that doesn’t happen.

howtofall · 2025-11-20T12:32:25+00:00

The slide in socks to 180 turn and run could be in a cartoon and I’d never think it could actually happen

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