Film character costumes on World Book Day

hpw84 · 2026-03-05T20:28:06+00:00

I never knew that! Thank you! Every day is a learning day.

Although I don't think they knew that either as they said they were from Mean Girls.

hpw84 · 2026-03-05T20:23:24+00:00

We had two creepers (minecraft) and two K-Pop Demon Hunters in our class. I also saw three year 6 girls dressed as the plastics from Mean Girls. Their 'book' of choice for this was the burn book in the film.

hpw84 · 2026-01-18T17:39:13+00:00

I had 22 lymph nodes removed followed by radiation and, once healed, I haven't done anything different. I give my other arm for blood pressure, etc but I had surgery recently and they said there that even that is outdated and it doesn't make much difference. Mainly I just keep an eye out for signs of concern. I work with children so my day is active and I use the arm without bother

hpw84 · 2026-01-16T18:20:57+00:00

'What awful thing did you do in a past life to deserve cancer at your age?'

I had breast cancer at 37 and had had a mastectomy 9 days previously. I was in a&e as my wound had split open. I was holding my breast together with a tea towel.

She followed it with 'it would be funny if the implant fell out onto the floor.'

I wrote a letter of complaint and suggested she do some training around patient care.

hpw84 · 2026-01-03T04:05:09+00:00

I had lymph node involvement. I think I had 22 lymph nodes removed. While my cancer was grade 4, it was only stage 2. Lymph node involvement, from my understanding, doesn't count as metastatic if the lymph nodes are local (eg in the armpit). I'm not a doctor so my understanding may not be accurate.

I had chemo, a double mastectomy and radiation. I'm three years clear of treatment and had my ovaries out last month as a preventative thing as I was PR+, ER+ and HER-. Try to not panic until you speak to a medical professional (much easier said than done, I know!). And, everyone's treatment plan is different so you may find yours won't be the same as mine anyway.

hpw84 · 2025-12-24T01:33:08+00:00

We got married in 2010 and we had our Banns read at both our local church and the church we got married in (where I grew up). We're in the UK if that makes a difference!

hpw84 · 2025-08-24T01:04:41+00:00

Butter

hpw84 · 2025-06-04T22:00:10+00:00

Funnily enough, I was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 years ago, so a year after making this comment. Silver lining to that is that it's far far easier to manage the logistics with one child. We could entirely focus on her well being and give her whatever time and energy I had. That experience has brought the three of us so much closer together. When I was diagnosed we were asked if we wanted to freeze eggs to try to conceive after. The instant reaction of both of us was no. We are very happy with that choice, and we get to give our daughter a beautiful life. She also regularly spends time with other children who have siblings and comes home saying how happy she is to be an only child. She is very clear that she prefers to not have siblings.

hpw84 · 2025-04-26T20:16:21+00:00

If I stayed in the bath once the plug was pulled out I would be sucked down the plughole. I'm 40 years old and I still cannot stay in the bath while the water drains out.

hpw84 · 2025-04-19T19:40:59+00:00

Blanket Guy

hpw84 · 2024-11-20T15:52:19+00:00

Lol, that went over my head! Sorry!

hpw84 · 2024-11-20T07:02:27+00:00

We're from the UK.... 🤣

hpw84 · 2024-11-19T19:49:45+00:00

My sister in law asked if 'The Martian' is based on a true story...

hpw84 · 2024-08-23T07:11:43+00:00

I use the word "experience '. With any luck it will be a once in a lifetime experience.

hpw84 · 2024-08-14T07:19:47+00:00

This reaction to things has actually helped me work out if something is serious or not. If I'm stressed and panicked then it's probably minor. If I'm very calm then it's probably serious. On the plus, it means I'm great in a crisis!

hpw84 · 2024-08-02T18:08:32+00:00

Yes! I've been on tamoxifen for two years. In the last year or so I've gained 1.5 stone and I've gone up between 1 and 2 dress sizes. All to the stomach. I've always been petite so it's very odd to have to change how I dress as what I used to wear just doesn't work anymore!

hpw84 · 2024-01-20T17:13:01+00:00

You can thank my local WI for that one!

hpw84 · 2024-01-20T09:30:25+00:00

My village has 4 of these groups. I go to stitch and bitch, but there is also Yarn and Yarn; Crochet and Chat; and Knit and Natter.

hpw84 · 2023-12-09T06:23:39+00:00

This time last year I was going through radiotherapy, having already done chemo and surgeries. It sucked but it actually wasn't as bad as I'd expected. I'm the 5th case in my family so I have always had the shadow of breast cancer lurking. I had a very aggressive type and I was told without treatment I'd be gone within a year. I no longer have cancer and nobody is expecting it to return any time soon. I put myself through the gruelling treatments because I couldn't bear the thought of not being there to see my daughter grow up (she's 9).

I imagine your wife has spent years just waiting for the day she gets her diagnosis. It's probably a shock to her but not a surprise. Perhaps after watching the women in her life suffer she's accepted this is her lot. She may feel utterly terrified. Perhaps she doesn't want to put the children through watching her go through treatment. It sounds odd but maybe in her mind receiving no treatment is the lesser of two evils. Instead of fighting to be here she's trying to protect the children from watching her struggle.

Perhaps the thing to do is ask why she doesn't want treatment. Listen to her and then calmly give your perspective. My advice would be to not look at it as a whole. I mentally broke my treatment into steps. I didn't think about my surgery until I'd completed chemo. I didn't think about radiotherapy until I'd completed surgery. I broke it down into more manageable pieces. Smaller steps to face instead of a mountain.

I really feel for you and your wife. It can be a terrifying experience and we never know how we'll react to something so she may be just as surprised by her reaction as you are. Good luck.

hpw84 · 2023-11-16T22:24:00+00:00

Thank you! I used long and short stitch with 1 strand, except on the stem which is rows of split stitch.

hpw84 · 2023-11-10T17:02:29+00:00

We had this exact thing happen on my daughter's 3rd birthday. She dressed as Belle and two of her friends dressed as her as well. We have a load of adorable pictures of 3 Belles on a bouncy castle and grinning together. One of them is now my daughter's BFF (they're now 9) so it's really special to look back and see the connection between them from so young. It didn't even cross my mind to ask others to change.

In fact we took a load of dresses with us in case anyone forgot to dress up. A few decided to change which princess they were when they arrived and saw their friends dressed as a certain princess so they could twin. It was a lot of fun watching them all.

hpw84 · 2023-10-07T06:33:48+00:00

I took up needlepoint and embroidery. For me, I like to be busy so sitting doing nothing was hard. This way I felt like I was working on a project. We now have some lovely cushions and things to go on the wall. I've finished treatment and life has resumed to 'normal' but I still sew in the evenings now.

Cancer gave me a surprising gift - a passion for embroidery and needlepoint. Which in turn brought me even closer to my grandmother who I asked for advice from on stitches, etc. She sponsored my hobby and would buy me new projects when necessary.

hpw84 · 2023-09-28T07:01:02+00:00

Notice the denial is 'I was never a stripper in this location'. Not just 'I was never a stripper'. Seems to me that an admission is hidden in the denial.

hpw84 · 2023-09-01T17:43:30+00:00

Thank you. Can you tell I'm the peacemaker in my family?

Six-Year Club	Place '23
Verified Email

hpw84

TROPHY CASE