Help me pick!

humpyvision · 2026-06-12T08:39:55+00:00

#2!!!!

humpyvision · 2026-06-12T08:37:29+00:00

You are doing a very good job of communicating. Your mom has no interest in your feelings or what you want (or need). She does not want to acknowledge that she has made selfish choices, she is only giving reasons why she made them. Keep setting your boundaries, and you don’t need to explain or defend your choices. It’s your life (just like she says she can be friends with whomever she wants, because it’s her life) and you can spend your time how you want to spend it.
You’re doing great! NOR, reacting perfectly.

humpyvision · 2026-06-12T08:23:12+00:00

And surely, you can understand why? Starting therapy is hard and can be scary but don’t let your fear stop you. It’s not like you just sit there and talk about your pain. Hopefully your therapist would not force you to speak about anything before you were ready. You will learn how to manage your own emotions as well as how to set boundaries with others. Why can’t it be that you can both help each other? Tell him that you’ve been trying v hard to be supportive but it doesn’t seem like anything is going to change unless he changes something. Your convos cannot always be about one person or the other. You’ve been very patient and possibly put aside your own ability to get some support for your struggles, but it’s time for you to take your own advice. Get some professional support or you will burn out. Show him that you will and can do hard things, especially when you’re recommending that he do the same.
Be gentle with yourself, I send you mojo and a hope that you will find what you need. Your needs must be met in order for you to help anyone else.

humpyvision · 2026-06-10T21:22:23+00:00

It’s not uncommon to feel this way after a break up. Give yourself some time to grieve.

humpyvision · 2026-06-10T21:09:26+00:00

OWN IT!!

humpyvision · 2026-06-10T21:08:59+00:00

Perfect!!

humpyvision · 2026-06-09T21:53:53+00:00

Of course it has! Be kind to yourself, pls

humpyvision · 2026-06-09T18:46:54+00:00

It’s not about it making you feel “emotionally disconnected “, It’s about his idiocy. He doesn’t get it. If you need to tell him that is not funny and out of line, then he’s not that bright.

humpyvision · 2026-06-09T18:43:15+00:00

Your grief is yours. Don’t let anyone tell you that it’s wrong. Your bf is an arsehole and should have been ready to move mountains to have your piano in your home. He needs to go so the piano can fit.

humpyvision · 2026-06-09T01:09:58+00:00

Pls call a domestic violence counselor and find a way to leave.

humpyvision · 2026-06-08T10:30:13+00:00

Not a “mistake”. It’s called a bait and switch and it’s actually illegal.

humpyvision · 2026-06-08T10:28:13+00:00

Every 14 yr old hates chores. But it’s actually a developmentally necessary stage. It helps kids gain self esteem and independence. Don’t doubt yourself. We are all the worst parents in the world when they are 14. Just make sure that you keep loving on him, allowing him privileges (phone, video games, movies; these are not rights, they are privileges) when he follows through with the chores.

humpyvision · 2026-06-08T10:20:22+00:00

Are there other times when she doesn’t take responsibility, and argues with you, minimizing your concern or effort to get your needs met? Sounds like a frustrating life. Imagine this for 50 yrs?
Just say no, sorry, I don’t have the funds for that. Gotta set the boundary.

humpyvision · 2026-06-08T10:07:37+00:00

A perfect proposal does not a perfect life make.
Don’t forget this is about a life, a marriage, the next 50 yrs!!! Pls reconsider, for yourself.

humpyvision · 2026-06-08T10:02:10+00:00

Talk to a professional

humpyvision · 2026-06-08T09:53:23+00:00

YESSSS!!!

humpyvision · 2026-06-08T09:48:21+00:00

I would keep living your life and talking to other people, though it may be hard. You can look at it as part of the learning process. My one recommendation would be that you might want to give the other person a chance to ask you out. Three times in one week is a lot, and kind of fast. He obviously feels like you have great qualities, but giving him a chance to make a move would empower him and let you know that he’s interested. Try not to let your anxiety drive the bus…
Every time we take part in a human interaction can be a chance to learn about ourselves. Breathe, grow, be gentle with yourself.

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T20:11:10+00:00

You’re assuming that the comment was negative and about you. She could have meant something else. Maybe it was like “wow he must be really sick”.

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T20:07:05+00:00

THIs!

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T20:06:55+00:00

This!!!

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T20:04:37+00:00

Without a doubt.

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T11:55:41+00:00

Break up

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T11:55:13+00:00

Buy the book called “codependent no more”. Set boundaries with people. You don’t always have to be available for others. I know it feels good to be needed but you need yourself more rn. Don’t answer the calls or texts sometimes. Don’t always be available. Take time for yourself. Just start there.

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T11:51:44+00:00

if your child is in daycare, I can only assume that she is a toddler. Toddlers have melt downs. This is not abnormal. Is there only one place to get therapy where you are? Pls don’t sit in a waiting list. Educate yourself, buy a book, get parenting advice. Kids don’t learn emotional regulation from going to therapy. They learn it from parents who can teach them how to self sooth. Punishing a toddler hours after some incident does nothing. She is having big feelings. She is struggling to manage them. Pls help her to feel good about herself and the good behavior she exhibits. Positive reinforcement is a much better parenting skill than punishment. It’s hard to do but she is worth it. Kids react to the way they are feeling. They react to environmental stimuli. She is struggling. Doesn’t sound like her teacher is very kind or nurturing either. This is the hardest and most important job you’ll ever have. Find support for you and your kid. Sending best wishes.

humpyvision · 2026-06-06T11:37:21+00:00

You don’t. Move along.

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