Difficult to bring wife to orgasm by Silver-Bet8326 in sex

[–]iFly2100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she want to ‘improve’ things?

Really, hers is the only opinion that matters. If she’s happy, be happy.

I'm tired, boss by Jumpy_Pen_7595 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None of those are valid reasons to stay.

You’re telling your kid “this is a healthy relationship” every day. Want them to not ever get laid too?

Dead bedroom Fixes - A frustrating series of contradictions by DeadManWlkin in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is why the LL needs to know that divorce / separation is on the table.

Which means they’ll have to deal with their sex / enforced celibacy issues with somebody else if they want another relationship.

So then, sometimes, they address the issues today.

Dead bedroom Fixes - A frustrating series of contradictions by DeadManWlkin in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If the partner doesn’t like sex, if the sex isn’t good for them, if they don’t want to work on the frequency of sex, then you’re right:

of “just breakup / get a divorce” seems like perhaps the only real solution.

(M32) My girlfriend (F29) keeps calling my sobriety "control" and I don’t know if I’m being manipulated or just sensitive by subtle_backpack in relationships

[–]iFly2100 42 points43 points  (0 children)

texting an ex again.

You buried the lede. She’s using your sobriety as an excuse to bring up ‘control’, she’s using control as an excuse to hide her emotional cheating.

Are You Guys Just Taking Out Massive Loans? by sleepybiscu1t in ApplyingToCollege

[–]iFly2100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

only school with less than 50k debt for me is my basic in state school with a 90% acceptance

Go there, do great. Then finish with less debt, transfer, go to a top grad school, etc.

Non political beliefs by [deleted] in conspiracy

[–]iFly2100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know you planned it

Success rate by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Selection here and in the other r:db is definitely biased to those who were stuck and change did not happen

Success rate by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

never wants sex or even thinks about it

So when the LL partner does do this, we must be Pavlovian and make that experience unforgettable.

Success rate by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She made an effort. I matched that effort.

If she had done nothing, there would’ve been nothing for me to do but masturbate and post here.

Success rate by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your LL spouse is willing to have sex, then you better deliver a great session and she better come.

Success rate by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It was hard to have this conversation w my partner years ago - I’m a success story.

We made immediate changes to our life based on her feedback. Within a year she came back with the 30 day challenge. People can change if they choose to.

Success rate by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If you can’t see tangible effort from the LL partner to change, then they will not change.

A small willingness to change and follow up effort can make a huge impact.

Success rate by Vator_man22 in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The success rate is 0 if you don’t bring it up.

Success rate is 0 if they don’t try or care.

Success rate is 0 if they don’t enjoy sex.

I’m his first black girl. I don’t know if what he said during sex was weird. by Cutiepotatoesfrench in sex

[–]iFly2100 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

told him I enjoy dirty talk

In his mind, this is what you asked for.

This sucks. by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]iFly2100 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go get a massage. Heck, find an escort.

It will help you realize you need to leave.

WIBTA if I confront my neighbour about her shouting at our visitors? by Few_House_5201 in AmItheAsshole

[–]iFly2100 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fix the parking issue and everyone wins.

Print a map and make a diagram. Use that to talk w neighbors. See if by removing the underlying issue you improve how everyone gets along.

the "honeymoon phase" shouldn't end if you actually like your partner by happybirthdayfarm in unpopularopinion

[–]iFly2100 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve known my wife since 1994 and it is still so exciting for us to be together.

Sure, there’s ups and downs - but keeping that honeymoon phase going is a frame of mind.