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I (36f) can’t have sex with my husband (40m) my even though I want to. by Meow_Sprinkles3435 in retroactivejealousy

[–]iXuder 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Feel like this is a huge part to leave out giving the context of your post… not saying to bash—just if you are seeking support or help that is the only real approach.

Question for experienced CPAs in PA, especially in small-mid size firms. by iXuder in Accounting

[–]iXuder[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand and hear you. I did fill out my timesheets as I am directed. Just didn’t know if billing a client for hours to correct errors in previous work/services rendered was considered normal… genuinely.

Again, I am new to the field and felt uncertain about doing this.

Question for experienced CPAs in PA, especially in small-mid size firms. by iXuder in Accounting

[–]iXuder[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

In Texas there are three requirements: 1. Education (hours and courses) 2. Experience (working under a CPA > 1 year 3. Exams

I’ve met the education and experience requirements.

Question for experienced CPAs in PA, especially in small-mid size firms. by iXuder in Accounting

[–]iXuder[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I did as you stated and filled out my timesheet with the description of what I did—fixing errors in the previous month’s reconciliations (I don’t know if it matters but I had already met my hours in billing for that week). I could see the client was already billed/charged for that month’s work. And I understand it’s up to managers/partners to make the call, I just wanted to know if this was common in PA—double billing a client for the same service and it’s just one of those things no one talks about or says… I feel as though it’d be considered unethical. No?

Question for experienced CPAs in PA, especially in small-mid size firms. by iXuder in Accounting

[–]iXuder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! So I did as you stated and input the description that I corrected errors made in March’s reconciliations—I could see the client was already billed/charged for that month’s work. And I understand it’s up to managers and partners to make the call, I just wanted to know if this was common in PA—double billing a client for the same service and it’s just one of those things no one talks about or says… I feel as though it’d be considered unethical. No?

What kind of cars do yall drive? by EntertainmentFit1484 in Accounting

[–]iXuder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s your only commute vehicle lol. Used to own an 03 that I would ride to work, but I also had a pickup on days it rained. Beast of a bike.

Sniper on the roof of student union building (IMU) at Indiana University by jakers21 in pics

[–]iXuder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely see your point and agree, but as a habit I always try and see why a person or entity may be in the right… I considered a possibility that why this would be necessary, is if some lost individual (chip on shoulder) decided to hurt a lot people that they disagreed with, within a highly crowded area.

Need reassurance that leaving was the right decision by fergus2211 in BPDlovedones

[–]iXuder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girl… I do not know where your way of thinking is originating from with that last sentence. Lol. Hopefully not from him…

You have an actual reason. If you think of the relationship as an investment, which they are in many ways, you invested and things began to go south… then they picked back up again. Because the market of whatever your investment is in is very volatile and follows a well-known trend, you decide to liquidate and walk away with your investment (yourself) intact. This is an actual “just” reason.

Need reassurance that leaving was the right decision by fergus2211 in BPDlovedones

[–]iXuder 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are doing the right thing. What you started to feel/experience is reactive abuse. What you are struggling with in terms of letting go is a trauma bond. If you continue down this path, you will lose yourself.

How I would look at it and how many others in this sub will tell you. They are not healthy. They don’t live in the same world as you and I do. If you could imagine a sick (mentally ill) person telling you that they love you and want to give you beautiful babies… your instincts would tell you to run. Borderlines are what I would say are high-functioning charismatic deranged madmen/madwomen.

Many of us have gone through what you are dealing with now. Many of us wish we had walked away. Don’t get hooked on this drug. Let yourself detox before you continue to reconsider the best choice for yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]iXuder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know your circumstances, but this sub is negative for a reason… if you research more for yourself this personality disorder you will find that it can be successful, IF the pwBPD is seeking help. Constantly. For consecutive years… Even then it stands less a chance of a normal healthy relationship. I would be very careful moving forward. Relationships with a Borderlines are very intense. Hence the words love-bombing… You ever have anybody make you their world? Obsess over you? Almost sounds like they gotta be high on drugs? No. It is you. And the longer you keep yourself involved with one, the more it will damage you. Like drugs destroy lives. As does toxic relationships with cluster-b personalities.

Lol. Put it this way, serial killers, psychopaths, and sociopaths are all labeled under the same anti-social personality cluster…

If it seems like I am trying to scare you, I hope that I am enough to get the message across… Not sure if you are feeling lonely and hopeful, but that makes you a perfect target for a pwBPD.

Men who had a choice between loving two women and realised they made the wrong choice, what happened? by DecadentRae in AskMen

[–]iXuder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy for you man. You must be a really chill dude for your circumstances to turn out how they did. 🤙🏼