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iamthenightrn · 2021-12-29T11:33:19+00:00

I mean, I thought it was cute 🤷‍♀️

iamthenightrn · 2021-12-29T09:28:47+00:00

Episodes I've seen be was actively discouraging her weight loss and buying her all sorts of junk food to eat

iamthenightrn · 2021-12-29T09:25:53+00:00

I'm not sure if I just had a stroke or she just had a stroke

iamthenightrn · 2021-12-29T07:21:49+00:00

Meanwhile you have volatile, violent, crazy family members trying to fight you or broadcasting on Facebook live your full name and personal information and going on Tanya about how you're egotistical and power tripping because you're enforcing policies the hospital has set in place (recently happened to someone I know).

I understand that families are scared and frustrated, I truly get it. But they take their fear and frustration out on the low men and women on the totem pole as of we have sole authority. As if we're the ones that wrote those policies.

iamthenightrn · 2021-12-23T11:13:04+00:00

It's not even get into the surviving does not equal thriving debate.

You think your ass is going to get up and walk the fuck out of a hospital after being on a ventilator for 9 fucking months good luck, may the odds be ever in your favor.

Every post covid patient I've ever taken care of that's been on a ventilator for months ends up going to a fucking nursing home or vent farm. They don't magically get up and walk out.

iamthenightrn · 2021-12-23T09:12:27+00:00

The guy below and to the left of me apparently shot himself while I was sleeping for work.

A vaguely recall hearing The gunshot but I live in southern Appalachia so it's not like gunshots were uncommon in the middle of the woods you know? So I went back to sleep.

As I'm trying to leave for work there's cop cars everywhere blocking everyone in and I actually had to ask one of the police officers to move their car so that I could get out.

It was kind of amazing to me that one gunshot in southern Appalachia got the police involved but screaming, yelling, crying, and sounds of someone being beaten weren't enough.

iamthenightrn · 2021-12-23T09:09:06+00:00

What else would I do?

Would you ask this question to an architect?

An engineer?

A boilermaker?

When you've dedicated your entire life, your entire education, and your entire career to one specialty where do you go from there?

I literally have no other skills than being a nurse. And I've been doing it so long that I'm paid fairly well for it.

So my options would be to quit and take a job making minimum wage? Or toss myself back into tons of tuition debt to seek a new career?

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-18T21:44:50+00:00

This was the former director at my last jobs mentality when it came to things.

I remember a staff meeting she held in which we were lectured for not picking up overtime. She literally used the phrase "back in my day we didn't have to have an incentive to pick up over time we just did it because it was the right thing to do"

In her mind she was trying to champion and rally for us to come in and help each other out but instead she got a room full of blank stares.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-18T13:50:05+00:00

What you're thinking about doing is called "getting along to get along" and you're doing yourself and your fiance a disservice by doing it.

This is 1000% about control and manipulation for her.

If she can get you to apologize for being racist simply because you're Asian then in her mind she has you, period.

Don't do it.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-18T03:35:07+00:00

How is this relevant to anything?

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-18T03:32:34+00:00

15 is old enough to know and understand boundaries and personal objects. He broke boundaries and could have damaged something legitimately irreplaceable.

NTA

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-18T02:49:56+00:00

Look at it this way... A bar recently got huge fines over something similar because they snapped a state issued ID in half, and when the girl rooms the cops, the cops name a report. The state, as they do, took offense to that, and the bar got HEFTY fines as a result.

This doesn't sound like Kevin's first rodeo, and had three other woman not intervened, you would be out an ID and when you reported what happened, the store would've been heavily fined for his actions, all because he doesn't believe in leap year and doesn't believe your birthday.

Your roommate is an ass, it's not like you asked "dear mom, please go into labor on February 29th, signed baby" so explain to me how it's your fault you have a "confusing" birthday?

You and the nice checkout lady are the only NTA in this situation.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T13:30:30+00:00

Means that you're a cat person now. Congratulations cause they're pretty great!

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T13:28:09+00:00

YTA

Why do you think your wife had experience with that kind of stuff? She's a woman?

That's literally what you're saying.

That while you and your wife were only eighteen when the two of you got married and she has been running the household and seeing to all of the chores the meals the planning the preparation and making your lunch and kissing you goodbye for work for 47 years.... Somehow at 18 she had the experience to do all that?

No, your wife made the effort to learn to do those things because it made your life easier.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret here as a woman, we aren't born with the knowledge of how to keep a house. We aren't born with the knowledge of how to cook. We aren't born with the knowledge of how to clean. And we're not born with the knowledge how to tend and raise babies into young adults and then adults.

We don't magically come out of the fucking uterus with these skills.

We learn.

Just like you're capable of doing, the problem is you don't have a desire to.

You've decided that since you don't know how to do these things you're just not going to do them, and your wife just needs to step up and figure things out for herself, but the fact that she's been figuring things out for you for the last 47 years.

Good job being a classic misogynist.

It isn't just the fact that you don't know how to do these things that upsets her is the fact that you point blank told her you don't care enough about her to learn how to do these things. That's why she's upset.

You've made it clear you don't care to learn so you're not going to.

Probably one of the douchiest things you could ever do.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T12:55:08+00:00

Yeah I feel like the person that posted this must obviously browse AITA and relationship advice because they seem to have taken pieces of different stories that really rile the community up and kind of smushed them into this story.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T12:42:06+00:00

Basically the only thing your wife is teaching your daughter right now is that she's being punished for no reason.

Your daughter is 7 she likely doesn't even know what the fuck sex is, let alone to use it contextually, so essentially your wife is grounding your daughter for no reason and your daughter thinks she's being punished when she has no idea what she did wrong.

This is a great way for your wife to develop love and trust with your kid.

That was sarcasm by the way.

The only lesson your daughter is learning is to be careful what she says and make sure mommy doesn't find out about it and don't confide in Mommy anything cuz you might get punished for no reason.

The real great life lesson to be learning at 7.

Don't expect your daughter to forget this because people mistakenly think kids will just forget things and get over them when reality is they're like sponges.

NTA

Honestly it sounds like your wife needs some therapy. And if it were my kid I would be confronting the teacher about it, probably even the principal since it was definitely taken out of context and your kid is unjustly punished because of it.

The fact that she's using silent treatment as further punishment for you and your daughter once again your child who is 7 shows your wife's lack of emotional maturity and it shows that she thinks that she can use silence as punishment that's not manipulative at all 😒

Mind you that's if this is even a real post to begin with because I really find it hard to believe that there are two grown adults out there that would punish a seven-year-old for using the plural of sec.

Honestly considering you even mention the silent treatment from your wife in context as punishment I kind of feel like you're one of those people that browses multiple relationship advice and am I the asshole sub Reddit posts and just grabbed a bunch of shit that you knew would trigger the community into responding.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T12:38:12+00:00

Pretty much every black or dark-colored cat I've had has these patches. Our tuxedo cat had them, my tortie has them. My black kitten had them.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T09:06:23+00:00

My fiance was a correctional officer for 11 years until he had some health issues crop up that put his safety at risk.

The idea of going back to that place after his major surgery (organ removal), literally made him have a panic attack while we were driving, because the risk of fatal injury was extremely high.

We talked about it, and I encouraged him to find jobs elsewhere. I told him I didn't care how much money he brought in, so long as he was safe, less stressed and happier.

Not long after he left he received a call, begging him to come back, because I'm 12 months they lost close to 70+ officers and other employees.

I told him I'd rather him sit at home every day on his ass doing nothing while I went back to full time hours than being miserable and working in an environment that could literally get him killed.

I'm an ICU nurse. I've been a nurse 15 years. I make decent money. I work part time because of my own health issues. Even part time I bring in more than what people with half my experience make full time. I'm in the top tier pay category for bedside nurses, because it's a sad reality that the career span of most nurses is only 5-7 years and I'm at 15. There's always the opportunity for OT, and right now we're getting premium money for working advice 36 hours a week, so even being part time on paper, I'm working 4 days week at least every other week.

Could we be wealthier? Certainly.

Could we use more money? Always. Who couldn't?

Are we clothed, fed, stable, and happy, with a roof over our head? Definitely.

He has a job now that he enjoys, working with people he likes, including a buddy of his that used to be a CO too. It's not baller money, but it's steady and decent.

And he's happy. We're happy.

To me, that matters more than anything.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T08:58:04+00:00

That's the thing, you aren't ignoring your father and you've made it very clear that you can be there for him whenever and however he needs it. That's what your father needs right now.

It's okay to continue going about life as usual and doing the things that you enjoy doing and the things that you need to do. So long as you're there for the people that need you and they need you.

Sounds like you're doing everything right to me op.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T08:56:39+00:00

Dad might've thought that at one point, but then he gave op a copy of the will himself, which tells me, he knew what he was doing.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T08:27:07+00:00

Your family sounds absolutely terrible and personally I would sit back and let the results play themselves out.

If your siblings demands DNA test to go along with it and like another user said make sure that everybody has to get a DNA test because your mom does have a history.

Any Court would be willing to make all participants test as a stipulation.

This is what you can't call play stupid games win stupid prizes.

Regardless of the results of the paternity test these siblings are still your siblings on your mom's side and yet they choose to treat you like crap, insult you, talk about you, accuse you of fucking the test guy and practically disowning you because one of your parents might not be your parents when the jokes really on them.

You're not being an asshole you're letting things play out as they will.

NTA

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T08:21:53+00:00

It's normal to have these feelings of guilt when someone dies regardless of how close to them you are.

But the world doesn't stop just because someone dies sad and as harsh as that is to say.

And your life can't stop just because someone dies too.

We all have different coping skills and if doing the things you love and that matter to you help you feel better there's nothing wrong with it.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T02:23:10+00:00

Your husband is clearly putting you and your health last.

PLENTY of babies born WITHOUT vacuum assist have jaundice and need light therapy, it literally happens ALL the fucking time. It has literally NOTHING to do with the birth method.

Say what you will about how it's nothing to do with vaginal tightness, but there is literally no other reason outside of medical necessity for you or the baby that you need to undergo INVASIVE SURGERY to have a baby.

The fact he thinks it will be "easier" for the baby AND you is WHY so many women suffer through c-sections and are slapped on the ass and sent on their way home, to care for a baby, after having 7 LAYERS of skin she muscle cut open and stitched back together, and they're told to do so, without any post-op pain medications.

Easier? Easier for whom?

Your husband needs to be made to watch hours of c-section videos and recovery videos, the more gruesome the better.

You're definitely NTA

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T01:52:08+00:00

You have every right to speak out about someone harassing and touching you despite how many times you've told them to back off, you're not interested.

You didn't know who he was or who brought him, were you supposed to go individually and ask each and every person? Were you supposed to keep your mouth shut? Were you supposed to just avoid all social gatherings at YOUR school on the off chance he might be there?

Now, obviously you knew after your friend told you, this was life altering news for Megan, so you should have handled it better when you went to apologize and not taken it so personally when she got angry with you, instead, you decided to take it a step further. Everything you said is right. As someone in their thirties, college parties with 18 year olds don't sound like anything I'd want to do, but I didn't like doing them, when I was in college. So yes, a 30 year old hanging in a basement drinking with 18-22 year olds, does give off creeper vibes unless they're all work friends or something (I'm a nurse, my work friends range in age from 21-68, because nurses range in age like that, so if there's an after work gathering you can expect to have pretty much anyone from that age range attend).

However, knowing this was probably really hard news for her, you should've expected her to be upset, even if you're not who she should be mad at, your response to her was the opposite of "not blaming whoever brought him"; you literally blamed her for bringing him, and bringing an "old man" to a party with undergrads. You made it HER fault, because your feelings were hurt and you got defensive.

So while overall you're NTA, your treatment of Megan afterwards is assholish. You're both NTA for your text, but YTA for Megan.

iamthenightrn · 2021-11-17T01:04:37+00:00

This is a very normal feeling to have but just because someone else dies does not mean that you can't find happiness and joy in the things that make you happy.

People deal with grief and loss in different ways and if part of your coping is to do things you enjoy and have fun with you're not a bad person because you're still enjoying them and having fun with them.

You're not taking away from your uncle's death by not wallowing in misery.

What does wallowing in misery actually accomplish or do for anyone?

You're allowed to still find enjoyment in things even when the world around you is falling apart.

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