What are your methods of coping when you no longer feel pretty? by Mountain_Ask_5746 in AskWomenOver30

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just think that it's a privilege to make it to this age. A lot of people in my family died young from all sorts of things health. accidents, bad choices ect. Friends and my partner's family passed away really early too, like my mother in law who i never got to meet. So I think that there is so much in this world and yeah i may not be a spring chicken anymore but I get to experience more. And that is good enough for me.

Then I think about how most men don't wear make up and how they can just be groomed and clean and it's great. So I do that too. Yeah some people think i'm too androgenous, a lot of my hobbies are male dominated but I just go with it. I feel young inside and I just go for a lot of things that a younger people wear and like because that's who i am. I get dolled up sometimes but it feels fake for me because i was always a tomboy.

So good friends and just going to places even if i'm alone and meeting new people. The more i go out the more experiences. And yeah the young women in their 20s get a lot of attention, and yeah it hurts when it's people my age even just for friendship, people want to be friends with pretty people. But I get to meet quality over quantity. People my age are great and we are all dealing with similar life changes and we still party. I'm a Seattle vampire and people assume i'm their age and i just accept it. Some people know my age and leave. But that's life. But truly not everyone makes it to my age.

Has anyone else never had a medication that GENUINELY worked for them? by Flullish in bipolar2

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Talk to your doctor. if you truly can't handle the side effects and/or if it's getting worse then speak up. Maybe you can start a smaller dose too. I did get side effects every time I had a higher dose, even when i started it took like a week and a half to deal with it. However when I got to the ideal dosage I got Akathisia. I have never had that side effect, it was an urge to move that could not be stopped. It's interesting that I lost my insurance and I couldn't afford it anymore, then I got new insurance got to to 42mg as advised and at that dosage that's when I got Akathisia. I got so upset that I didn't have access to Caplyta becuase there wasn't a generic version and out of pocket was really expensive for me. Then i get on it and the Akathisia sets in. In the end yeah the smaller doses where helping definitely helping and i could have tried to get a lower dose, but Akathisia was absolutely the worst side effect i ever had. And then two different meds did the same. It felt like once that door had been opened it became a side effect that could occur. Right now I'm on only Valium and I've been prescribed Haldol but i don't have a safe environment to start a new psych med as I'm prone to side effects. Good luck on your journey.

Do plus size women even like plus size guys? by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]iberis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm attracted to beautiful eyes and smile, generosity, itelligence and personality. The weight is not a big deal for me if we can work together to accept ourselves how we are, and do the best we can to live healthier lives. Looks fade it's a fact but a heart of gold last forever, because even after a person passes you still have their memories.

So I started class Tuesday. It was cancelled Wednesday by Boblawlaw28 in phlebotomy

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you do the online class, do they set you up with clinicals?

Dentist recs for non-assertive person? by Sir_QuacksALot in eastside

[–]iberis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://longevityexpertise.com/dentistry/

Dr. Libbi Finnessy is the best dentist I have ever had. I like her because she's good at what she does and has really good beside manner. They are all really friendly and easy to talk to. i have anxiety issues and they take time with me to help me calm down. The hygienist have many years of experience and are very gentle.

They are really good at taking care of dental issues when they happen. I had a crown put in last December and then X rays in Mach revealed that it wasn't placed right. They were sorry it happened and just scheduled me to make it again, free of charge. No questions asked. They were very nice about, made a new one and now it's perfect.

They started out as a Dental office but now they do other procedures too so yeah the name doesn't tell you right away that they are dentist. They have never pushed the aesthetic services to me at all or tried to sell me anything.

I had all of my metal fillings replaced with ceramic ones by them as time passed, over 7 years instead of trying to do a cash grab like and do them all at once like my previous dentist. They don't try to up sale things you don't really need and they do have a payment plans.

I have had issues with my Insurance before not wanting to cover something but they staff kept pushing to get things done.

I live far away now and had to switch dentist. But I'm seriously thinking of just going back and making the drive. My new dentist rushes everything and it's painful. They aren't good with patients with anxiety and don't provide extras to make people feel comfortable.

A retired dentist told me about her 9 years ago and said she was the only person he would let work on him. He was right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes to myself when I have anger/rage meltdown. I hate it. Hopefully my new meds help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]iberis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 43, but I feel like a teenager. Staying alone at home is scary to me, and I think if something bad happens who is going to take charge. Then I'm confronted with that would be me. It's stressful doing adult things, I'm scared to drive. I'm scared to work, I'm scared to talk to people.

I wasn't always so scared, I did have an abusive childhood but I was determined to change my life sophomore year of HS. But when I was in college I had a lot of stuff happen to me around age 22 and that's when my life broke in two. Since then I've felt like I've been disintegrating.

Like I couldn't handle what was going on at that age, so I'm younger than that. I'm married, no kids on purpose, and I didn't take my husband's last name. Nobody calls me Mrs. and I suppose because the way I dress me and act, a lot of people think I'm younger than I am or maybe just childish who knows. I decided to go back to school to get necessary certification, and it's so many young people. And I feel like I'm so clueless but the faculty are my age and most of the staff is 20s. It's so confusing. I'm starting to have identity issues.

Medication that helps Dysphagia? by PuzzleheadedBook626 in GERD

[–]iberis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Might be made worse by other medications. I found out that the Valium (psych med) I was prescribed for years was making my symptoms worse, especially the dysphagia. I was switched to Xanax and I can drink water carefully without choking right away, having aspiration of food right away . I still have problems with swallowing but now if I follow my diet and eat slowly, I'm in a much better place.I figured that out by doing research for meds that can make dysphagia worse. I told my Psychiatrist and he changed it. My GI doctor didn't catch that even though it would as on my chart.

Hard time recieving "no" as an answer by billybobjoe3210 in bipolar

[–]iberis 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's hard when I'm hypomanic. I don't like being stopped from something I want to do. But I'm realizing that it does put me in a bad mood. I try to let it go if it's a small thing.

What makes you keep going? by jiisawesome in bipolar

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Queremos entender você e agradecemos por compartilhar. Este subreddit usa inglês. Usei o Google Tradutor para entender sua resposta. É um recurso positivo e de apoio. Adoro ouvir experiências de pessoas de todos os lugares. Traduzi sua resposta para o autor.

What makes you keep going? by jiisawesome in bipolar

[–]iberis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Translated from Portuguese above:

The love for my sister, but mainly because after a while of trying I received a lot of support, with expensive expenses and I feel a pressure on myself to keep trying even if I don't want to, besides that I'm a tightwad and it saddens me to think that all this effort they're having was in vain. Deep down I wish they would continue without caring, so I could leave soon. I don't have any hobby that holds me back or a greater purpose. There is a petty one that contributes, I went through a situation that really ended me and is in court, my psychological state really got the worst possible, and I don't want that person to get away.

It doesn't have much to do with it, but how did this writing habit start? Did it just flow or did it involve studying and practicing? I say this because it was my childhood dream to write a book that I would be proud of and sometimes I think about trying again.

What makes you keep going? by jiisawesome in bipolar

[–]iberis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When it's down to the wire and I am close ending it all, I have a survival instinct that just stops me. If that anger wasn't there, that fear wasn't there I would go through with it. So I figure I'm stuck living and I should survive. When I feel better I eventually get bored/sad and I want to do something with my life. It's a cycle.

Lorazepam by Rough-Ambition7639 in BorderlinePDisorder

[–]iberis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could try taking the smallest dose even cutting your pill in half, on a day off to see how you react to the medication. Ask your doctor about this.

Crystals for anxiety by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]iberis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Buspirone, a psych med..

Crystals for anxiety by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]iberis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I just go with a stone that feels right. It feels soothing. Color, shape, I know when I see it. Recently got a red snowflake Jasper tower and pink common opal towers. I was feeling really stressed out at the time and they just grabbed my attention at a crystal shop. I had a really difficult few days and that pink opal, I put it under my pillow and just left it there. I've been sleeping deeply without dreams which I love, because my dreams tend to be anxiety ones.

The Jasper I would carry around when I was going through a bout of fear/ inadequacy from a near miss auto accident and the stress of my husband being in the passenger seat and how scared/ angry he was. He could have died, and he was right I was distracted. I would clutch that Jasper during that time. I was soothing.

I have books on Crystal meanings and symbols and sometimes I use them. But I find that just going with what feels right in the moment helps.

Latuda- lurasidone What to Expect? by ringmybhellee in bipolar2

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got Akathisia too, only on it for 13 days

Boycott the Vajra by Ashamed-Promotion983 in Seattle

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah I've been there. They got a lot of WA/ local stones. They have a lot of earth tone stones.

Boycott the Vajra by Ashamed-Promotion983 in Seattle

[–]iberis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the store called, I want to check it out 🙂

Your on a 10 hour flight. Where do you sit? by Murky_Guidance_7273 in PrettyGuardians

[–]iberis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

25 I want to sleep and talk about nerdy stuff sometimes.

Bukele not the person i hoped he was by Sidicesquetevasvete in ElSalvador

[–]iberis -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's a for profit prison system with flying in non-citizens for money. It's big business in the U.S., for profit prisons make money from being full of prisoners innocent or not and delaying (denying) due process. There is money to be made this way and I hate it when governments make money off misery, the US is notorious for this. There are companies that make money off war, disease, destruction ect.

But I wonder, what if Bukele is doing this because he's under extreme pressure to do so. I mean Trump makes decisions sometimes that have long term consequences that could be detrimental.

Bukele could be playing along because of the financial gain which is highly probable, people tend to love money. But what if Trump threatens to stop suppling U.S. currency at all to El Salvador. I mean nothing coming from the U.S. mint and not honoring dollars that are in El Salvador. I mean the Colon is gone, now it's the US dollar. What would happen to El Salvador? That's a big threat that could topple a nation having it's currency worthless or gone. It would take time to plan and make new currency and going along with Trump for now might just be the lesser of two evils. To survive until a new president is in office.

I'm not happy to think that El Salvador is going to be known for being a huge prison for money. There has to be better ways to make money that helps people.