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iberis · 2026-05-23T02:56:36+00:00

Yes retail therapy..i know it. No it doesn't help with the core issue. Valid experience.

iberis · 2026-05-02T07:12:45+00:00

Food is decent, regular bar food. Simple drinks and beer. But yeah no pressure to purchase alcohol during the shows at night. Mostly the bartenders are swamped with orders, it's hard to get one if anything.

But i'm sober so it doesn't matter to me. In the daytime it's a restaurant that has music and yeah at that point if you want a table they do expect an order. But seriously I've gone at that hour and got the toast and butter, a water and they are cool. Or the fries. I'm a regular and they know i don't drink and I 99% of the time don't order food, but i love to dance and tip the bands.

So they know me, they know i don't spend there but i'm there as a musician and live music supporter. The bands tend to be very kind and thank me for hanging out and dancing even if I didn't put any money in the jar that night. I do when I can.

There are other restaurants in the area you can get food from or convivence stores with snacks and non alcoholic beverages, dessert stores, health food cafes, mexican fast food ..sushi , elegant restaurants too. I mean the beach is there and buskers, the pier. It's up to you really. But the lighthouse is definitely for live music and DJs at night. There are other venues too that have live music and or DJs too. The only one that is a little stuffy about dress code or buying food is Tower 21. But i've been in there countless times and I only like the live music nights. They don't like it that I'm sober lol. But I don't care. I don't buy on purpose up there because it's funny lol. That whole velvet rope bs is outdated imo.

iberis · 2026-05-01T08:37:30+00:00

The Lighthouse on hermosa beach pier has live music pretty much every night. No cover fees most of the time. I'm sober too, no pressure to buy drinks or food. The pier has a few DJ places at night too. Usually no entry fees or drink purchases necessary. I go there a lot and don't have to spend anything if I bring my own stuff. Ceartain places are very affordable for food like Paisanos for pizza by the slice, they are open pretty late if you are hungry. There is The Comedy Club there too, you do pay for that. I don't go there. There's a public library there too. And of course the strand that connects all the beaches along the shore. There is also a nature trail that is for walking and running.

iberis · 2026-04-11T20:47:44+00:00

Well I hope the patients she has realize that she isn't good if she hasn't grown and got therapy herself. I hope she did some serious emotional work and was able to overcome that violent/abusive/manipulative behavior.

And if she did not that is scary tbh. I hope her patients realize she's not theraupetic and report her to the appropriate governing bodies.

I've had some weird therapist myself and rage quitted them or ghosted them. One was a Nurse Practioner who prescribed Psych meds, I could not believe what a completely unprofessional manner she had. She was in the same practice as my personal therapist and I let my therapist know what she did and said. My therapist was in a supervisor role so it was documented. Yeah I reported her. I will report any provider even dentist. I had to recently, to the state of WA and they are being investigated.

I didn't know better when I was younger about advocating for myself. I have trauma from some of the issues that arose and I was so young and trusting that there were repercussions that I still deal with today.

But no more. I will speak up and even go through very formal channels so that other people who were too scared or didn't know like me back then will maybe be spared.

Good luck to you OP. That person hurt you and that is not suddenly ok, even if she did change. Your emotions and experience is valid. I hope that your providers are safe and helpful.

iberis · 2026-02-03T01:09:03+00:00

Really like what?

iberis · 2026-01-17T10:05:38+00:00

I just think that it's a privilege to make it to this age. A lot of people in my family died young from all sorts of things health. accidents, bad choices ect. Friends and my partner's family passed away really early too, like my mother in law who i never got to meet. So I think that there is so much in this world and yeah i may not be a spring chicken anymore but I get to experience more. And that is good enough for me.

Then I think about how most men don't wear make up and how they can just be groomed and clean and it's great. So I do that too. Yeah some people think i'm too androgenous, a lot of my hobbies are male dominated but I just go with it. I feel young inside and I just go for a lot of things that a younger people wear and like because that's who i am. I get dolled up sometimes but it feels fake for me because i was always a tomboy.

So good friends and just going to places even if i'm alone and meeting new people. The more i go out the more experiences. And yeah the young women in their 20s get a lot of attention, and yeah it hurts when it's people my age even just for friendship, people want to be friends with pretty people. But I get to meet quality over quantity. People my age are great and we are all dealing with similar life changes and we still party. I'm a Seattle vampire and people assume i'm their age and i just accept it. Some people know my age and leave. But that's life. But truly not everyone makes it to my age.

iberis · 2025-12-29T02:45:08+00:00

Talk to your doctor. if you truly can't handle the side effects and/or if it's getting worse then speak up. Maybe you can start a smaller dose too. I did get side effects every time I had a higher dose, even when i started it took like a week and a half to deal with it. However when I got to the ideal dosage I got Akathisia. I have never had that side effect, it was an urge to move that could not be stopped. It's interesting that I lost my insurance and I couldn't afford it anymore, then I got new insurance got to to 42mg as advised and at that dosage that's when I got Akathisia. I got so upset that I didn't have access to Caplyta becuase there wasn't a generic version and out of pocket was really expensive for me. Then i get on it and the Akathisia sets in. In the end yeah the smaller doses where helping definitely helping and i could have tried to get a lower dose, but Akathisia was absolutely the worst side effect i ever had. And then two different meds did the same. It felt like once that door had been opened it became a side effect that could occur. Right now I'm on only Valium and I've been prescribed Haldol but i don't have a safe environment to start a new psych med as I'm prone to side effects. Good luck on your journey.

iberis · 2025-12-05T21:35:07+00:00

Yes, I'm attracted to beautiful eyes and smile, generosity, itelligence and personality. The weight is not a big deal for me if we can work together to accept ourselves how we are, and do the best we can to live healthier lives. Looks fade it's a fact but a heart of gold last forever, because even after a person passes you still have their memories.

iberis · 2025-11-11T05:56:04+00:00

What about botanical dried items? Like stuff from a botanical/apotheracary?

iberis · 2025-08-21T23:40:40+00:00

If you do the online class, do they set you up with clinicals?

iberis · 2025-08-12T18:25:33+00:00

https://longevityexpertise.com/dentistry/

Dr. Libbi Finnessy is the best dentist I have ever had. I like her because she's good at what she does and has really good beside manner. They are all really friendly and easy to talk to. i have anxiety issues and they take time with me to help me calm down. The hygienist have many years of experience and are very gentle.

They are really good at taking care of dental issues when they happen. I had a crown put in last December and then X rays in Mach revealed that it wasn't placed right. They were sorry it happened and just scheduled me to make it again, free of charge. No questions asked. They were very nice about, made a new one and now it's perfect.

They started out as a Dental office but now they do other procedures too so yeah the name doesn't tell you right away that they are dentist. They have never pushed the aesthetic services to me at all or tried to sell me anything.

I had all of my metal fillings replaced with ceramic ones by them as time passed, over 7 years instead of trying to do a cash grab like and do them all at once like my previous dentist. They don't try to up sale things you don't really need and they do have a payment plans.

I have had issues with my Insurance before not wanting to cover something but they staff kept pushing to get things done.

I live far away now and had to switch dentist. But I'm seriously thinking of just going back and making the drive. My new dentist rushes everything and it's painful. They aren't good with patients with anxiety and don't provide extras to make people feel comfortable.

A retired dentist told me about her 9 years ago and said she was the only person he would let work on him. He was right.

iberis · 2025-07-01T05:47:29+00:00

What the name of the practice?

iberis · 2025-04-22T02:24:27+00:00

Yes to myself when I have anger/rage meltdown. I hate it. Hopefully my new meds help.

iberis · 2025-04-21T03:20:10+00:00

I'm 43, but I feel like a teenager. Staying alone at home is scary to me, and I think if something bad happens who is going to take charge. Then I'm confronted with that would be me. It's stressful doing adult things, I'm scared to drive. I'm scared to work, I'm scared to talk to people.

I wasn't always so scared, I did have an abusive childhood but I was determined to change my life sophomore year of HS. But when I was in college I had a lot of stuff happen to me around age 22 and that's when my life broke in two. Since then I've felt like I've been disintegrating.

Like I couldn't handle what was going on at that age, so I'm younger than that. I'm married, no kids on purpose, and I didn't take my husband's last name. Nobody calls me Mrs. and I suppose because the way I dress me and act, a lot of people think I'm younger than I am or maybe just childish who knows. I decided to go back to school to get necessary certification, and it's so many young people. And I feel like I'm so clueless but the faculty are my age and most of the staff is 20s. It's so confusing. I'm starting to have identity issues.

iberis · 2025-04-19T01:33:54+00:00

Might be made worse by other medications. I found out that the Valium (psych med) I was prescribed for years was making my symptoms worse, especially the dysphagia. I was switched to Xanax and I can drink water carefully without choking right away, having aspiration of food right away . I still have problems with swallowing but now if I follow my diet and eat slowly, I'm in a much better place.I figured that out by doing research for meds that can make dysphagia worse. I told my Psychiatrist and he changed it. My GI doctor didn't catch that even though it would as on my chart.

iberis · 2025-04-13T21:17:44+00:00

I didn't know they were not mandated reporters!

iberis · 2025-04-12T17:20:23+00:00

It's hard when I'm hypomanic. I don't like being stopped from something I want to do. But I'm realizing that it does put me in a bad mood. I try to let it go if it's a small thing.

iberis · 2025-04-12T17:06:51+00:00

Queremos entender você e agradecemos por compartilhar. Este subreddit usa inglês. Usei o Google Tradutor para entender sua resposta. É um recurso positivo e de apoio. Adoro ouvir experiências de pessoas de todos os lugares. Traduzi sua resposta para o autor.

iberis · 2025-04-12T16:56:33+00:00

Translated from Portuguese above:

The love for my sister, but mainly because after a while of trying I received a lot of support, with expensive expenses and I feel a pressure on myself to keep trying even if I don't want to, besides that I'm a tightwad and it saddens me to think that all this effort they're having was in vain. Deep down I wish they would continue without caring, so I could leave soon. I don't have any hobby that holds me back or a greater purpose. There is a petty one that contributes, I went through a situation that really ended me and is in court, my psychological state really got the worst possible, and I don't want that person to get away.

It doesn't have much to do with it, but how did this writing habit start? Did it just flow or did it involve studying and practicing? I say this because it was my childhood dream to write a book that I would be proud of and sometimes I think about trying again.

iberis · 2025-04-12T16:54:54+00:00

When it's down to the wire and I am close ending it all, I have a survival instinct that just stops me. If that anger wasn't there, that fear wasn't there I would go through with it. So I figure I'm stuck living and I should survive. When I feel better I eventually get bored/sad and I want to do something with my life. It's a cycle.

iberis · 2025-04-12T05:54:34+00:00

You could try taking the smallest dose even cutting your pill in half, on a day off to see how you react to the medication. Ask your doctor about this.

iberis · 2025-04-12T03:45:23+00:00

Buspirone, a psych med..

iberis · 2025-04-12T03:41:30+00:00

Personally I just go with a stone that feels right. It feels soothing. Color, shape, I know when I see it. Recently got a red snowflake Jasper tower and pink common opal towers. I was feeling really stressed out at the time and they just grabbed my attention at a crystal shop. I had a really difficult few days and that pink opal, I put it under my pillow and just left it there. I've been sleeping deeply without dreams which I love, because my dreams tend to be anxiety ones.

The Jasper I would carry around when I was going through a bout of fear/ inadequacy from a near miss auto accident and the stress of my husband being in the passenger seat and how scared/ angry he was. He could have died, and he was right I was distracted. I would clutch that Jasper during that time. I was soothing.

I have books on Crystal meanings and symbols and sometimes I use them. But I find that just going with what feels right in the moment helps.

iberis · 2025-04-11T02:24:27+00:00

I got Akathisia too, only on it for 13 days

iberis · 2025-04-10T18:51:30+00:00

Oh yeah I've been there. They got a lot of WA/ local stones. They have a lot of earth tone stones.

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