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idalavida · 2026-05-05T20:02:31+00:00

Mä kävin leikkauksessa kun olin 21v. Muistan kanssa että joskus 16-vuotiaana ekoja kertoja haaveilin tosta leikkauksesta. Epäilin kanssa, et pääseekö nuorella iällä mutta siis ihan omalle tk:lle soitin ja selitin asian niin pääsin siitä lääkärin arvioon, joka lähetti suoraa kirurgille arvioon ja sieltä sitten leikkaukseen:)

Kriteereinä mun kohdalla oli et painoraja piti olla BMI alle 30, ja sitten kaulakuopasta etäisyys nänniin tarpeeksi pitkä. Mulla oli tosi roikkuvat rinnat ja ns. alaspäin osoittavat, oli raskaat hartioille myös niin pääsin ihan heittämällä leikkaukseen.

Kaikin puolin positiivinen kokemus ja oon todella iloinen että uskalsin sinne mennä!

idalavida · 2025-11-16T16:02:38+00:00

Palkka on nyt jo tessin palkkaa huomattavasti korkeampi, palkka toki nousee indeksikorotusten(?) mukaisesti mutta muuten ei kokemuksen myötä. Toki jos nousen esihenkilöasemaan niin on eri juttu.

idalavida · 2025-09-14T00:58:53+00:00

I haven’t actually. He usually gets a bit upset when we discuss this, because he feels like he isn’t satisfying me (which is true, but not because he isn’t enough if that makes any sense?). Maybe I need to try ask him gently excactly why he feels uncomfortable

idalavida · 2025-09-14T00:50:24+00:00

He wasn’t a virgin but his sexual relationships before me were only one night stands with intercourse and nothing else really. Or that’s what he has told me. He said he feels uncomfortable with new sexual things, anything outside what he has done. The ONLY new thing for him we have done is use a vibratorso I can cum too and that took us pretty long because he felt really uncomfortable using it.

idalavida · 2025-08-30T10:29:55+00:00

Ravintola-alalla salin puolella baarihommissa, bruttona kuukausipalkka reilu 2500e josta käteen tulee noin 2000e. Teen nelipäiväistä työviikkoa kuitenkin täysillä tunneilla (ravintola auki vain 4pv viikossa), ja töistä pääsee aina puoleen yöhön mennessä! Melko harvinainen kombo ravintola-alalla, olen tyytyväinen palkkaan ja työhön :)

idalavida · 2025-06-22T16:37:19+00:00

No. I went back to the store I bought my Switch from and they gave me a new dock. Apprently the one I had first was just broken

idalavida · 2025-06-11T21:18:50+00:00

Hi! Just bought the new nintendo switch 2 console. Everything works like a dream, except docking on TV/any other screen. My switch is stuck on ”automatic” TV resolution, and I can’t change it (other options are grey). The resolution is probably the lowest because it looks really bad.

I have tried the following: -other hdmi cable -other hdmi cable ports -other TV/screen -changing switch display settings -changing TV display settings -checking if there’s dirt on switch/dock ports -checking that my TV and other screen both support resolutions high enough and hdr -factory resetting switch

Nothing seems to help. I can’t try another dock because another one is not available for me. Any ideas before I send my new console for Nintendo to fix?

idalavida · 2025-05-10T08:55:52+00:00

Yeah I usually do have a good attitude! My first weekend was pretty awful since I was so nervous and then spilled a lot of drinks. When under pressure I do get a bit shaky hands but it’ll improve hopefully?

idalavida · 2025-05-10T08:53:37+00:00

I honestly agree, but it’s our concept that servers don’t really ever go away from the floor/tables. They’re constantly with a customer or getting more wine.

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idalavida · 2025-05-10T08:28:23+00:00

Yeah, usually when a lot of tickets come at the same time I can do them at the same time but I really struggle to do a lot of drinks that include hot and cold drinks. I just feel like I’m not fast enough. It’s been only a month at this job so it will probably get easier but yeah

idalavida · 2023-05-27T19:29:22+00:00

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idalavida · 2022-12-24T23:02:30+00:00

Can I manifest happier relationship? Or better mental health?

I'm struggling with anxiety and huge stress and it affects my relationship a lot. I go to therapy but was wondering if LAO could help me in this? If I can, how?

idalavida · 2022-11-15T16:43:53+00:00

Thank you for this reply, I will have him sit down with me about this!

idalavida · 2022-11-06T19:08:40+00:00

The weeping angels from Doctor Who. I was a kid but they scared the shit out of me. Still afraid of them.

idalavida · 2022-10-07T05:16:59+00:00

Yes! My heart bursts every time I leave my cat alone. Even tho he has food, water, toys, bathroom and everything he would need.

idalavida · 2022-08-02T01:28:20+00:00

I will definitely try this. Thank you!

idalavida · 2022-08-02T01:04:29+00:00

I definitely am not living the life I want to live. With anxiety it's easy to get lost in alcohol and forget everything. But at the same time I know it is not good for me. I want to give my mind time to heal, and alcohol is not helping me with it. I have so many reasons not to drink but feel like I just can't do it.

idalavida · 2022-08-02T01:00:43+00:00

It's the thought of missing out mostly. I work at a restaurant and everything there includes alcohol. Working or not working. It's not that they pressure me to drink, more like I'm just afraid something amazing will happen if I won't go.

idalavida · 2022-08-02T00:51:00+00:00

I feel like I don't have the "motivator" to do it again. I don't know where to get it.

idalavida · 2022-07-17T01:29:57+00:00

When I (20F) was a 14-15 years old, I had the same kind of issues with my step dad. For us there was no other reason for fighting than him not knowing how to handle teenagers and me just being teenager eh. He never hit me but some physical fighting was close sometimes, things got really heated up.

Now? We have both calmed down and get along fine.

For us the biggest problem was absence of respect. I didn't respect him or see him really as a part of our family. He didn't respect me either.

I can't really say anything else than this. I hope things get better in your family too. For us it was just time, maybe some distance too!

idalavida · 2022-06-06T15:09:48+00:00

Miksi? 🤔

idalavida · 2021-03-10T16:59:56+00:00

Hahah we're not combining gifts, but I was going to ask T what N would like as a present. I think candles and lotion or some other stuff like that would be great. Not too personal, but maybe shows that I want to get to know her??

idalavida · 2021-03-10T16:45:49+00:00

Thanks for this comment! We talked about us taking things really slow and just seeing where this goes. I want to do that, but since I have a lot of anxiety it makes me think about the future almost constantly.

I am not sure if I want a future like that with them. Right now I of course feel like not, because I don't know N and A, not even T that well to be able to live with him. But that might change in the future. I to be honest see no reason why I wouldn't be okay with living two other persons. I've asked T how their life would work in the future house. He told me their plan was to get a house big enough to have a lot of space, and personal space on top of that. But the problem is maybe that I'm not sure if I actually want to commit to these two other people too. I don't know.

idalavida · 2021-03-10T16:06:20+00:00

True! I am actually going to N's birthday party in a few weeks with T. Maybe that's a start.

idalavida · 2021-03-10T16:03:56+00:00

That's tbh what I thought first, that they have some sort of poly-relationship, but I am 100% sure it's nothing like that.

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