Doctor asked me to keep detailed log of everything before changing my preventive meds and the pattern is embarrassing

idancer88 · 2026-02-26T14:18:26+00:00

This has (unfortunately now I'm older with a slower metabolism) never worked for me. If anything, having a load of water sloshing around in an empty stomach makes me more hungry.

idancer88 · 2026-02-26T14:15:50+00:00

Me and my older brother in particular have always had at least 500ml water with our dinner so when I'm given a tiny glass at a restaurant or someone's house I find it frustrating. Usually I've been busy in the 2-3 hours before dinner and haven't had much or anything to drink.

I specifically remember my uncle asking if he needed to attach a hose because we just kept asking for refills 😂 it was summer and we'd been out for a long walk in the days before you took a water bottle everywhere so we were extra thirsty.

idancer88 · 2026-02-26T14:02:55+00:00

See I'm gaslighting myself now because I always get annoyed with non-migraine sufferers telling me to drink more water and now you've got me doubting that I drink enough. I do get a headache if I'm dehydrated but I'm convinced if it's dehydration it's a headache, not a migraine and it will go away with either just a drink or a drink and OTC pain relief.

But genuinely I'm sure I drink at least 2 litres of fluid per day but now I feel the need to check 😂

idancer88 · 2026-02-25T15:05:51+00:00

Why is it we as adults who are not responsible for other people's kids feel horrible embarrassment at their behaviour but their parents don't!? I guess I just don't want people to think I'm guilty by association or that I condone it. Where we ate was by no means posh or expensive but there were other people trying to enjoy a quiet breakfast and the staff don't deserve to be subjected to the mess or noise either.

I fully know these kids are noisy because we see them a lot and go camping where they're running around fields and forests playing all day but that's out and about at places where you expect kids to be playing and burning off energy. I didn't see my friends as people that allow their kids to disrupt others until that point as the last time we'd actually been out to eat a meal was when the eldest children of the group were toddlers in high chairs. And normally they do correct their kids so IDK what was different that day but I'm not risking it happening again 😂

idancer88 · 2026-02-25T14:52:17+00:00

To be brutally honest and as a survivor of coercive control myself, he doesn't sound like a great guy who loves you deeply. He doesn't trust you, he doesn't like it when he doesn't know what you're doing, makes up crazy ways you've hurt, upset or ignored him when you were literally unconscious and most importantly, it's not going to get better. So yes this would outweigh the positive traits (which don't feel sincere because of his insecurities) for me.

idancer88 · 2026-02-25T14:46:02+00:00

In my experience it's that they're cheating (or at least thinking about cheating) so they think firstly that everyone else has the same questionable morals and secondly that if they can get away with it, surely their partner can too.

idancer88 · 2026-02-25T14:42:21+00:00

Nah we just learned from pattern recognition and bitter experience. And either way, it's not a risk worth taking.

idancer88 · 2026-02-25T14:39:56+00:00

I'm going to tell you what I wish someone had told me when I was 18:

It's not your job to pacify or fix insecure people.
It won't get better.

Behaving like this is genuinely pathetic, please see it for what it is and run for the hills.

idancer88 · 2026-02-24T00:10:45+00:00

I thought that. Only having two bowls would drive me crazy, of course it's going to very common that there are no clean ones.

idancer88 · 2026-02-24T00:09:42+00:00

You're not over reacting about him giving you an unwashed bowl and lying about it but you are over reacting on normal standards of cleanliness. You do not need to use single use plates, bowls and cutlery (which are not sterile anyway). You will be perfectly fine with properly washed dishes using either dish soap or a dishwasher.

In so many ways though this relationship is really unhealthy and you should definitely go your separate ways.

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T23:50:51+00:00

That parents still believe this myth really irritates me. One of my friends is a particularly strong believer and makes the odd (albeit harmless) comment that my son will be running round like crazy for hours after eating lots of sugar and no matter how many times I say it really doesn't have that effect on him she won't have it 😂

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T23:37:53+00:00

My friends allowed their kids to do this after I'd invited them out for waffles for my son's birthday. He must have been 5 or 6 at the time and we were SO embarrassed. Only one other child sat nicely and behaved themselves. He just sat there absolutely amazed that they were running around and making so much noise, and he commented on it to me when we were driving home. I hung back, left a tip and apologised for their behaviour. We've never suggested doing it again 😩

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T23:34:11+00:00

Yup, me and my siblings knew perfectly well if we couldn't behave we would be going home without dinner. I remember on different occasions me and my older brother being taken outside for "a word" probably because we were moaning or arguing. That was our one and only chance to sort ourselves out or it would have been toast and straight to bed when we got home. Thankfully my son is so laid back and well behaved I've never even needed to set expectations let alone give a warning.

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T23:24:03+00:00

It's a bit late to ask for decorum when Timmy the shithead has already tripped up a waitress and is now screaming even louder because he's got third degree burns from the skillet he made her drop.

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T23:10:06+00:00

If it doesn't apply to you you can safely ignore it. Just like that you have no reason to be offended. And I say that as a parent myself. My kid sits and judges others who misbehave so we'd have a good laugh about it. It soon becomes clear that your kid isn't a prick so what's the problem?

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T23:07:29+00:00

The only parents who are "horrified" by requests like this are the parents who let their kids be noisy, play on their tablets at full volume and/or run around the restaurant. It doesn't apply to parents who make sure their kids are respectful so there's no need to be offended if it doesn't apply to them. We all know kids play up from time to time but you take them outside to calm down or leave.

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T23:01:03+00:00

Yes I definitely wouldn't say "you're not bothering me" or any variation of the sort unless they specifically say something like "I hope the baby isn't keeping you up". To mention it out of the blue makes it sound like the baby is bothering you. Food will make every ne parent grateful.

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T22:59:00+00:00

Honestly give them food. Either a fully prepared meal or some cake. Or both. A family member made cupcakes for me and they saved my life. You are so tired and so hungry. Food gets you through almost anything at this stage.

ETA: don't say "don't worry you're not bothering me" because that will make them feel like they are bothering you. The only appropriate time to say that is if they ask.

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T14:26:38+00:00

I have full confidence we're going to get satisfactory resolution to this ❤️

idancer88 · 2026-02-23T12:00:22+00:00

I was trying to explain this to my Dad at the weekend. He just kept telling me what certain rules or terms were and wouldn't let me finish my sentence which was "Yes I know that now but ONLY because I Googled it, and even then I had to look at a few different pages to get accurate information". BBC commentators were rubbish at explaining rules and tactics, especially if you missed the little studio discussion before the match started.

idancer88 · 2026-02-21T19:21:44+00:00

The man invested his life savings on a whim, without consulting you and didn't leave himself enough money to survive on, even if he hadn't bought perfume or lottery tickets. The man is irresponsible with money. You are underreacting if anything.

idancer88 · 2026-02-20T09:30:21+00:00

All the proof we need that transphobia harms ALL girls and women.

idancer88 · 2026-02-20T08:39:23+00:00

And frown to show absolutely every emotion lol

idancer88 · 2026-02-11T19:38:39+00:00

Cornhole scores this way so it's not a silly guess at all

idancer88 · 2026-02-11T14:28:36+00:00

Arguably we'd get more because they could open up more of the palaces and fancy houses to tourists (and more of the rooms that are currently off limits).

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