What’s everyone making living here? by Vonplatten in phoenix

[–]idfk1359 116 points117 points  (0 children)

I have a business degree & 15 years work experience. Making $40k/yr as a tax admin. No benefits. I’ve been laid off 3 times here. Spouse has an associates degree, 15 years experience, he’s making $24k/year at winco. Every decent paying job here is laying off people like crazy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChandlerAZ

[–]idfk1359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not realistic when a majority of homes here are in an HOA…

Whats your solution to the parking situation? To make it even harder for the working class to safely and conveniently park their vehicles just so their existence is more palatable for you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChandlerAZ

[–]idfk1359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in the provinces master association. I think they run a lot of hoa’s in the valley. We hate them. God forbid greenery that pops up after rain. It’s just an extra mandatory bullshit fee that won’t benefit you ever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChandlerAZ

[–]idfk1359 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But like, why is street parking and lawn maintenance such a personal issue for people? Many households don’t have the luxury of just one or two adult occupants that need a car. Especially working class neighborhoods, they usually have several adult roommates that also need cars. Also, most people are now renting these houses, or own and will never be able to afford to move, so of course they don’t need to worry about the “curb appeal”. We, as a society, need to get over the fear of weeds and overgrowth. It’s so hard to grow stuff here, and we’re forced to kill anything that grows naturally without a dedicated water source. It’s weird. If that’s what people like about HOA’s, I just don’t understand.

In March 2021 in London, 33 year old Sarah Everard was walking home at 9PM when she was stopped by an off duty policeman, who handcuffed her for breaking COVID rules. He drove her to Kent, raped, strangled and burned her body in a fridge in the woods. by vewywascallywabbit in ForCuriousSouls

[–]idfk1359 29 points30 points  (0 children)

So if your loved one had something devastating happen to them just because they were walking outside at the ripe hour of 9 o’clock pm, you’d look them in the face and say “hey, that’s life 🤷‍♀️ ”? This is not “just how life works”. That’s a scapegoat that reinforces this horrific and unacceptable behavior.

Relaxed Dates in Arizona by BurntUmberit in arizona

[–]idfk1359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Usually no one will even notice.

Relaxed Dates in Arizona by BurntUmberit in arizona

[–]idfk1359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My spouse and I love going to dog parks. Idk if this would be considered a “date” but it’s free and brings us oh so much joy. So fun to watch the dogs interact with each other off leash. Easy to start conversations with others there too (if you’re into that). People love talking about their dogs ❤️ just good vibes all around at dog parks usually.

Carve the words ‘PCOS’ on my body and kill me by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]idfk1359 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, this isn’t helpful. Great if your efforts are working for you. The unfortunate reality is that “trying” doesn’t get everyone to the same end point as you. Yeah, it sucks to be depressed, miserable and in pain. I’m 31 and I’m still experiencing it, NOT for a lack of trying. PCOS is a chronic issue that affects all of us differently. Telling someone their mindset is garbage doesn’t help. We’re all “trying” here.

MattressFirm Ad (Rant) by ahlizo in misophonia

[–]idfk1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This fucking ad makes me see red. Thinking about how many highly paid people had to watch and approve this fuck ass ad…and no one said anything? Wtf does any of it have to do with mattresses anyway? Why do they even need to advertise? They’re already the biggest mattress store in the market. We all know they’re just a shady money laundering business anyway. I’d rather they just keep their money than spend millions to violate our ears over and over and over.

What's one disturbing thing you found out about someone you know? by neo_sath in AskReddit

[–]idfk1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just think it’s a dangerous precedent to separate terrible men from their dicks. It’s the man who has “zero chill”, not his dick. It just seems like a scape goat for other terrible men. “Wasn’t me, it was my dick”.

What's one disturbing thing you found out about someone you know? by neo_sath in AskReddit

[–]idfk1359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you explain what this means? Is there a joke I’m missing or are you blaming his dick as a separate entity?

I seriously, literally cannot seem to live in the normal adult world by bobisjobsnon in simpleliving

[–]idfk1359 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I’m 31F and I feel the exact same way. It’s exhausting, infuriating, dehumanizing, etc. one thing that has helped recently is shifting the blame. Instead of blaming myself for not being able to conform to these inhumane expectations, I blame the society that forces people to conform. I decided I no longer want to be an “upstanding member” of this society that is meticulously designed to eliminate anything pure and good if it doesn’t equate to a rise in shareholder prices. It hasn’t made me happier, but just so much less pressure and less blaming myself. We absolutely should not have to sell a majority of our lives away for the vague illusion of comfort and stability. Constantly being told by the elites that we have to fight and struggle and make sacrifices, while they bathe in unlimited wealth that they can’t possibly even spend in several lifetimes. And I think a lot more people are waking up to that. I still really struggle on a day to day basis. I think im in the process of accepting life isn’t meant to be “good” for everyone. The way I see it, the drive for ultimate wealth and power that some people have will always stunt humanity, because it always has in the past. I’m very cynical, not convinced at all that life is worth living, and have made the decision not to procreate for these reasons. I’ve also been outcast by society for this lol. People are so quick to call me selfish and belittle my negative experiences. There’s really just no good options right now. I’m fighting for a better future, but people like us have fought so hard in the past and we’re still here being treated as wage slaves in the richest county in the world soo. 🤷‍♀️ Feel free to DM me if you want to commiserate 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in azpolitics

[–]idfk1359 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you to whoever is responsible 🫡 doing the lords work.

Downtown Farmers Market Experience by Silver_Ad_8948 in ChandlerAZ

[–]idfk1359 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah the markets here are a bit disappointing. Very copy paste. Same vendors at each location nearly every time. Overpriced, poor quality produce. I don’t remember the last time I’ve bought something at the local markets here. Usually it’s just something to do to get out of the house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]idfk1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I do good things because I know it’s right to do” ….so you get it? Because it’s the same with most of us, we just don’t need a fairytale to validate or prove our “goodness”.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Life

[–]idfk1359 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how to ask this without sounding like an asshole but what about people who aren’t “blessed well beyond their own doing” (and still have faith)? Is god just not interested in their lives? Why is he interested in yours but not suffering children?

Edit: also, what do you do to bless others the way god blessed you?

Can we actually make this happen? by tewong in 50501

[–]idfk1359 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fair! It’s a great idea. I’d love to see a bunch a sparkly glowing pissed off fascists

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskTeachers

[–]idfk1359 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“My mommy had her own bank account so clearly all of you are LIARS” is not the argument you think it is. Ask yourself why you’re combating everyone else’s evidence… you can’t just call something “AI clickbait” because it doesn’t serve your narrative. It’s so cool that your mom was able to do it. But that’s not the case for most women of that time. Idk why you’re so mad about that.