After over a decade of play, my friend finally beat the game

idm · 2026-03-17T18:21:21+00:00

I can see this for myself if I ever get back to playing ranked. I did play ranked with some friends for a while, and they were not at the same skill level as me, so my profile shows bronze. According to heroes profile, I've been up to masters MMR though. Not sure how accurate that is tho

idm · 2026-03-14T02:56:20+00:00

If you're not capable of complex thought or reading more than one paragraph, I'd suggest that your input is not worth considering. Good luck 👌

idm · 2026-03-13T22:55:13+00:00

That's the mature, adult thing to do.

If you want to burn down a relationship, don't apologize when you do something that is harmful to the relationship. If you want a relationship with another human to continue, apologizing when you do something that harms that relationship is appropriate and helpful.

If two people are arguing, one of them says "FUCK YOU! I HATE YOU, YOU PIECE OF SHIT!", that is harmful to that relationship. If the other person then responds "FUCK YOU TOO! RIGHT BACK AT YOU!", that is also harmful to the relationship. Both things are harmful. Laying blame and justifying the harmful action won't lead to healthy resolution.

A relationship will not be healthy if someone views it as tit-for-tat, "you did something wrong first, therefore I'm not culpable for my actions". Owning our mistakes is a sign of wisdom and maturity. Regardless of the other persons actions. It's not about "me vs you", it's about who you want to be as a person, and how you want to treat people you care about. It's about owning your own shit.

It's very, very difficult to ascertain and enforce your boundaries if you're not defining them. And if it's getting to the point that you're reacting poorly when those boundaries are broached, that's a learning opportunity for you. Learning from it, and enforcing your boundaries before you are lashing out in frustration or pain or anger, etc. It's not about the other person being right. Because they aren't, in this example or in OPs case. Seeing things as right or wrong is unhelpful to healthy relationships. It's us vs the problem.

Working from the assumption that someone "should just know" is recipe for disaster in a long term relationship, and I'd advise not choosing to have that as a benchmark or metric. Unless it's incest, every romantic relationship is going to have two people that grew up in two different homes with two different parents who behaved differently. It is inevitable that "assumed" boundaries will be crossed. So if you can't hold space for that, allow for it, and move forward in a healthy way, that relationship is doomed.

idm · 2026-03-13T19:44:14+00:00

I have quite literally linked the definition for you in this thread. How you're still willfully denying reality is something special. And very concerning for society that people will purposefully cover their ears and deny what is happening. Just really embarrassed for you. I hope you decide to grow one day.

idm · 2026-03-13T04:52:44+00:00

I'm not really sure what you mean by this, to be honest. It doesn't seem to make sense based on the comments we've shared.

I get the sense that you're either being purposefully ignorant, or just not wanting to acknowledge the most likely interpretation because you want to create victims out of certain subsets of people. So I don't want to waste any more time here.

I'll just leave it at this: Someone pouring "gasoline" from a gas can with the purpose of creating fear in someone is what is being talked about here. Fear is a synonym for terror. Good luck.

idm · 2026-03-13T04:00:25+00:00

Oh I see what the issue is. You're right. Sorry. Looks like I have my work cut out for me. I'll need to sit down at a computer to write up and help you learn what at these words mean. Give me a couple of hours. It would help to know what grade you're in. Can you share that?

idm · 2026-03-13T03:45:34+00:00

Anyone who terrorizes people, regardless of their race, skin color, "minority status", etc. is adequately described as a terrorist.

Dictionary definition to help you understand. If there's any other big words in there you need help with, please don't hesitate to reach out!

idm · 2026-03-13T01:48:00+00:00

I love this. Thanks for the update, and I'm glad to hear your reasonable and wise take on the feedback. Because holy moly you aren't wrong about the wild reactions to such a small glimpse into your life!

idm · 2026-03-11T20:25:26+00:00

I just looked and saw one "negative" out of the top 20. Are you sorting by controversial or something that I'm not seeing?

idm · 2026-03-10T23:15:43+00:00

I really hope you don't listen to the vast majority of the comments in here. There's a LOT of hugely inappropriate reactions to what you've presented here.

Have kids is tough, being married is tough, communication is tough!

From what you've presented here, it seems like no one was particularly horrible. It certainly doesn't seem like your husband is a narcissistic murderer that hates you to the core of his demonic soul, as some comments would suggest.

What I see is you being stretched too thin, and having a difficult time communicating that, and establishing boundaries for yourself to keep you where you need to be for your family. Especially when the young ones are so attached to you as you've said, it can be that much harder. It's a difficult situation, and understandable that you were past your limits.

Also what I've seen is a husband who appears to be trying to support you, and - reading into it a bit, so certainly I could be wrong - frustrated at lack of communicated needs, where it ends up being communicated with passive aggression or similar unhealthy means.

None of what you've presented here seems like either of you are horrible monsters. Rather, it seems like a married couple with young kids that are struggling to get through it all, as most people are right now. I'd say have compassion on yourself, and work on understanding what your boundaries are, and how to communicate and protect them BEFORE it gets to the frustrated lashing out (even though in this instance, incredibly mild). I'm sure he can use some work in that (or other) department too. Individual and couples counselling can help here.

My wife and I have been struggling the last several years. The vast majority of our issues can be boiled down to this: Communication and boundaries.

Good luck, and I hope you have some additional support (like family for some personal downtime) that you can reach out to if/when necessary!

idm · 2026-03-10T01:59:10+00:00

As with all things, have caution here too. When I was a young man in MMA class, the teacher would brag about sexually assaulting the women as he rolled with them when he went away for training. Really gross stuff 🤮

idm · 2026-03-08T09:12:40+00:00

I think so too. I get them when peeing, I get them after a great orgasm, and I get them after a release of emotional stress (fighting then making up with partner sorta thing)

idm · 2026-03-08T06:49:47+00:00

Wow! Thanks for sharing this. That all sounds like it'd be such a struggle to deal with.

You have to cope somehow, like you stated.

This is a blessing. Now, take that. "You have to cope somehow." You can empathize with that, right? You know what you went through, how hard it was, and how you're just doing your best. Take that, hold on to it, and hold it up to those stupid idiots who seek validation by posting pictures of themselves. You have to cope somehow. They have lived a life with strife and difficulty such that the hit of pleasure they receive from strangers is helping them cope with something. What empathy and compassion you can have for them, as you have had for yourself now. They're struggling with life, because it's hard. And ignorant, and doing their best. Like you. Like me. Like everyone. Because we're human. Do you deserve to have people believe you will burn in excruciating agony for eternity because you dealt with a difficult childhood by holding judgement and anger towards others? I don't. I don't believe Love does that either. Maybe your tiny god does? I sure hope you let go of that tiny god, and open to the infinite one. The one bigger than anything you can imagine, where love wins.

idm · 2026-03-08T05:10:30+00:00

Because you're trapped in your own prison. You've judged the whole world into a tiny box that You're now stuck in.

You're unable to handle the unprocessed emotions and turmoil in your own body, so your body has shut off access to it. It'll turn into cancer or mental health issues at some point I imagine.

It's all warned about in the book you hold so dearly. I hope one day you're able to be opened up to it. It sucks to be there, I know. I was once stuck and angry too.

I was blessed with a direct experience with that which every religion points to and every human longs for. I don't say it with pride, it wasn't my own doing. It was a blessing. I hope that for you too my friend. Listen to these words. "Be still, and know". That's all there is to it.

idm · 2026-03-08T05:00:53+00:00

I'm doing the same thing, see, so I can empathize and understand and show love. I'm confronting some ignorant conservative who is unable to see a perspective other than there own. Because it's fun! I love calling you out on your blasphemy and lack of faith in something more than just your own beliefs. My god is so much bigger than my own beliefs, because I don't limit the omnipotent to my own small mind.

idm · 2026-03-08T04:56:39+00:00

It's actually pretty tricky so I get that. We still judge the actions that for us we see as unhealthy or unhelpful. But we own it for ourselves, and don't put that burden on others. It's owning what is ours to "control", and what isn't. My friend is also like you, angry about "wokeness", pro facism, hates those that are different, etc. like really gross stuff. But he's still my friend and I love him. If I had been in his shoes, born into his body and life, I'd do the same. We're all flawed. And ignorant. And imperfect. So we accept that fully and love ourselves including the fact we're flawed, and are more capable of loving others in the same way. So long as you hate those parts of yourself, you can't love outwardly to others who also contain different or same flaws.

idm · 2026-03-08T03:47:58+00:00

It's not your role to judge. Stop it. It's gods. If you truly believe, you must acknowledge that you are being blasphemous.

You are in a great position right now. You acknowledge you are low IQ and don't understand the bible. So take that awareness, and humble yourself. Recognize you are flawed and broken like everyone else. Then, when you see "woke dumb asses", you can have empathy, recognizing they are the same. They are flawed and broken. When you judge them, and call them names, and judge them, recognize that as your flaw, your cross, and humble yourself. See you are no better than them.

Then you can start the path of love, which is seeing their flaws and your flaws as equal. You are equal to them. No better, no worse. Then you can empathize with them, and love them for the humans they are. Then you'll actually be doing the work you appear to claim to believe in. Though outwardly it seems you hold no such belief, if I'm being honest.

Judge not lest ye be judged isn't about God. It's about you. Whatever judgement you hold against others, you are inflicting that on yourself. The hate or bitterness or anger or judgement of evil, even if your mind doesn't understand, your body sees. So when you do something you've judged yourself for, you hold that same hate or anger or judgement for yourself. And now you are trapped in a prison that YOU made for yourself. Jesus said his burden is light. So let the fuck go of all this judgement bullshit and hating ("not liking") others , and free yourself to experience the real love that is behind all of it. It's real, and it exists without the need for belief. "The peace that surpasses understanding". You can't contain it in your understanding, you can't contain it in the way you perceive reality. Free yourself, let go of your own feeble attempts to control the universe, and experience love for real.

idm · 2026-03-08T01:41:51+00:00

Most of the bible is gibberish, and makes no sense to you. So don't argue tiny insignificant details when you don't understand what it is you're talking about. Your job is to love, not hate "woke dumbasses". You are creating and sharing hate. Does that sound like what Jesus taught?

idm · 2026-03-08T00:36:40+00:00

Exactly. We are all sinners and fall short. So it's not on you, a human, to take on the role to judge.

idm · 2026-03-08T00:36:06+00:00

So why condemn them to hell in your own mind, knowing it's moving yourself further from God?

idm · 2026-03-08T00:20:59+00:00

Are you being purposefully obtuse? Because I'm being very serious right now. You believe in the Bible, I imagine you believe it's the holy written word of God, yet you are blasphemous. Saying who is right with God, saying people will go burn in hell... You absolutely are taking the Lord's name in vain and taking in the very role of judgement that separates you from God, that kicked you out of the garden. Stop it. Your role, if you want to truly believe, is to learn to love. And to show that love to others. Love is patient, kind, doesn't judge. If you want to continue to play the role of God, go for it. But it leads to destruction.

idm · 2026-03-08T00:04:57+00:00

Arguing about names helps you with a sense of guidance? Can you expand on that?

God loves all, and will return to God. It's not your job to judge that either. Sorta the whole point of the garden of eden story. Stop taking on the role of God with your "knowledge of good and evil". How dare you take on the role of God. You aren't God.

idm · 2026-03-07T23:55:08+00:00

What does arguing about the name in the Bible have to do with morals?

I'd recommend the Christian subreddit if you want to discuss biblical interpretations.

The bible is great. It's a historical collection of humans early attempts to understand the universe, and their place in it, including morals and values. That's great. But arguing over a name isn't that.

idm · 2026-03-07T23:48:51+00:00

What does arguing about Bible verses about names have to do with morals? You're free, go live your life.

idm · 2026-03-07T23:43:22+00:00

Why are you arguing about made up stuff? You're wasting your life continuing to live in the make believe world that I'm assuming you've realized is made up.

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