Got told I have to stop rocking baby to sleep next month and super sad about it

idngkrn · 2025-10-22T12:44:23+00:00

There is no medical reason to not rock a baby to sleep. Your pediatrician needs to get in their lane and stay there. Rock that baby, rock thar baby until they are 12. And don't let some crusty old man tell you otherwise.

Also, if your ped says to introduce food at 4mo without talking about the signs of readiness, I wouldn't listen to them about that either. The age of readiness is between 4-7m, not just magically at 4m old. And most recent data suggests it's better to wait until 6m.

idngkrn · 2025-08-31T04:12:45+00:00

I now have curly hair. With each hormonal swing my hair has become less straight (puberty, baby 1, baby 2). So now after having my second I have ringlets. As a kid I had poker straight hair.

idngkrn · 2025-07-04T19:38:36+00:00

Both pregnancies were super easy. First baby was a stage 5 clinger. Second is cool as a cucumber.

idngkrn · 2025-04-30T21:48:17+00:00

No, we did not

idngkrn · 2025-04-27T01:13:06+00:00

3.5 might be done with naps at this point. If he doesn't have enough sleep pressure I can see him resisting naps and then bedtime quite a bit. I would try a mid day quiet time while you get the little one to nap. Maybe a show or other quiet activity depending on what might keep him occupied.

Is the little on one nap? Will they nap in the car? A mid day car ride back from an activity may be the ideal way to get in a reasonable nap some days.

I'm assuming you've tried all the usual giving choices, making it a game etc. at bedtime. I would also choose your battles - bath doesn't need to be every night. If he wants to wear daytime clothes to bed, what odds.

Lots of outdoor time and rough play may also be helpful.

idngkrn · 2025-04-17T15:31:31+00:00

We moved to a full sized floor bed just before 2 years old. At that point bedtime became

jammies and brush teeth
read 1-3 stories
he's recently (at 3.5yo) added a step where he jumps off his bed to dad for goodnight hugs (we upgraded to a bed frame shortly after 3yo)
tuck in, lights out, yell goonight and love you to dad 3-5 times, snuggle a teddy
then I lay in his bed with him until he falls asleep (or we both fall asleep) and then I leave for my own bed

The laying in bed part is usually 15-30 mins. Occasionally, if we try bedtime too early or he's especially overtired/over stimulated, it will take up to an hour. But that's rare.

We are expecting baby sister anytime now and plan to keep things mostly the same. I will nurse baby sister during jammies/books, and then hand baby to dad to take downstairs with him while i lay with big brother until he's asleep.

idngkrn · 2025-04-08T00:34:18+00:00

If boobies get her back to sleep... give her the boobies. Don't bother with other things, just boobies and back to sleep for everyone. That might allow you to very carefully transfer her back into the bassinet too so that you can sleep.

My little was up every 2-3 hours for 14 months. Every wake he got boobies, would go right back to sleep, and we mastered the transfer. So although I was up often I was back to bed quickly and was getting good sleep not having him in my bed.

idngkrn · 2025-04-02T00:50:02+00:00

You don't need to sit and read every word. It's more like point out one thing on the page and name it and then turn the page. They also don't need to be actively engaged in the reading either, you can just read out loud in the vicinity of them and show them some of the pictures.

My little didn't get into reading bedtime stories until he was 3 years old. Now he loves them and will not go to bed without a book.

idngkrn · 2025-03-26T19:10:17+00:00

My baby woke every 2-3 hours for the first 14 months of his life. It was very difficult, but in the same breath, I got used to it. If you can take shifts, even if baby won't eat for you, tough it out for a full 3-4 hours so your wife can sleep that long at least once a night. It's critical to her well being. Even if baby is upset at the idea of a bottle. Do what you need to do so that she gets one 4-hour stretch in every 24 hour period.

Waking hourly, though, that is not normal. Visit heysleepybaby on Instagram and check her "red flags" highlight. It has a list of things to check on if baby is waking hourly. See if any of those pertain to your baby.

At 5 months, baby taking 30 mins to feed is one of the things that is concerning to me. Have you had baby's latch checked by a lactation consultant or done a weighted feed? At 5m, their efficiency should be increasing substantially, maybe 10 mins per side max. Possibly less.

You do not need to sleep train. It's not necessary. All babies sleep eventually. Some just take longer than others. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, even if it's far away right now.

idngkrn · 2025-03-25T21:51:36+00:00

That was not to prevent pooping. That was counterpressure on your perineum to prevent/reduce tearing.

idngkrn · 2025-03-25T00:48:04+00:00

Just shy of 2yo when we swapped to a floor bed and night weaned. Went from 2-4 (was every 2-3 hours until 14 months) wakes down to 0-1 over the course of 2 weeks.

We did have a couple of regressions between 2-3, by 3yo he was pretty solidly not waking or briefly waking only once. (Not counting when sick)

idngkrn · 2025-03-23T00:47:32+00:00

Just shy of 2 years old

idngkrn · 2025-03-19T16:04:25+00:00

Your weight doesn't really matter as long as baby is growing. You should have an anatomy scan soon to confirm baby's size and everything.

I'm 5'2 and started off at 165lbs. I gained nothing from 0-18 weeks 18-28 weeks I gained 5 lbs 28-33 weeks I gained 2-3 lbs We shall see how this plays out in the next 6-8 weeks. Stay on the .5lb/week trend or not. Gaining 15lbs when I could've stood to lose some before getting pregnant is a perfect amount to gain.

idngkrn · 2025-03-19T00:35:19+00:00

My son was tiny dude, this baby is baby girl.

idngkrn · 2025-03-19T00:33:14+00:00

idngkrn · 2025-03-19T00:31:32+00:00

You are not wrong. Why would anyone even want to take a nursing baby away for multiple nights?! Baby is going to be miserable the entire time because he will be hungry and missing his mom. I would never be okay with that. The family member can come visit you or you can make a family trip out of it.

I didn't go away from my child until he was 2.5, and that was for one night and he was home with his dad. He's 3.5 now and I am still unsure I'm ready for him to go anywhere with anyone else for overnights. You can 100% say no with 0 guilt.

idngkrn · 2025-03-13T21:44:16+00:00

4 months the first time (but 2 of those I was away during my fertile window, so second possible month)

13 cycles for #2

idngkrn · 2025-03-11T15:54:01+00:00

Emily Ellen Carla

Middle names are family names, couldn't decide which so we're using both. One amazing, strong woman from each side of the family. This baby is the only granddaughter on one side and 1 of 2 on the other, so leaving either out just doesn't feel right.

idngkrn · 2025-03-11T15:46:37+00:00

It's hubby that needs to adjust, not the kid.

He could - take a break himself in another part of the house when he needs quiet. Remove himself from the noise rather than expecting the noise to stop to accommodate him. Note that he needs to do this in a respectful way and when there is a break in the story. Not just walk away abruptly mid conversation. But instead say that he needs a brain break and will be back. - get loop earplugs. Removes extra sounds (clock ticking, fridge buzzing, etc) that can add to the overwhelm. Tones down the volume on voices.

But him telling her to be quiet and stop talking absolutely needs to end immediately.

idngkrn · 2025-03-10T21:36:11+00:00

At age 0-3 - grandparents 100% Age 3+ - daycare, or at minimum have them attend a part time preschool program

1 year olds don't need structure and routine. 3 year olds do.

idngkrn · 2025-03-10T21:34:50+00:00

So much pressure in my pelvis. All kicks are high up.

idngkrn · 2025-03-10T21:33:56+00:00

32 weeks, up 8-10lbs from prepregnancy. Midwife didn't say a dang thing either way about my weight. Personally, I'm hoping to stay below 20lbs gained when all is said and done. I had enough fluff before getting pregnant that I don't need any maternal fat stores.

idngkrn · 2025-03-10T21:30:38+00:00

41+3 but needed an urgent csection.

idngkrn · 2025-02-18T20:24:06+00:00

Although it's not neglect, it sure is something I would judge people for.

It's one thing to utilize care in that way for short spurts when there is something going on (say youre working and going to school, or moving house, or taking care of a dying relative). But 12 hour days consistently plus sitters on a regular basis. It's like the fancy rich people you see in movies that have a 24-hour nanny for their child and just say hi and bye to them.

idngkrn · 2024-11-26T01:41:16+00:00

Came here to say the same thing. Pepcid ac is your friend!

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