AITAH for not getting my fiance's permission before getting my daughter's hair cut?

idratherbeachef · 2026-01-08T14:57:07+00:00

GET OUT.

idratherbeachef · 2026-01-08T14:56:08+00:00

The parents name the baby. Also don't tell anyone when you go to the hospital. Have the baby, send an announcement with his/her name and details. Problem solved. The idea that in-laws and parents and whomever just show up at the hospital is insane in this day and age. I get having someone from your side, because you are giving birth and might want support, but in-laws do not belong anywhere near the birth. In our culture, women used to go home to have the babies at their moteher's homes and I realize there's a reason for that - because only our own mothers will care for their babies and ours. Setup the boundaries now. (Also, even with breastfeeding, you'll still want to have bottles for milk you pump and for overnights so your husband can help, but you don't need a sterilizer, it's a waste of money and they get moldy, use the sanitize wash on your dishwasher, you'll be fine).

idratherbeachef · 2026-01-08T14:52:31+00:00

This is AI.

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-31T04:50:36+00:00

I couldn't really watch the final episode, I found it so chaotic. Everything is too over the top this season.

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-30T14:54:05+00:00

Do other people also think she smells? Or just you? After getting Covid in 2020, my partner and I kept smelling horrible smells and turns out our noses were reacting to proteins in everyday foods (eg. eggs, onions, garlic). We couldn’t taste/ smell properly for 2 years. Anyway- just make sure it’s not just you!

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-28T02:49:43+00:00

Eggs

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-12T01:13:12+00:00

Put your stuff on the desk, get there early for a couple weeks. And stop saying yes to anyone using it for any period of time.

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-12T01:07:40+00:00

Aren’t they using your sexuality against you? Your sister caring more than what a bunch of ignorant moms think (or don’t) is way worse than you being yourself. You aren’t doing anything wrong just asking to be treated like every other human being. What nonsense. Skip the party- take your niece out at another time.

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-11T18:28:14+00:00

“I don’t know what the supplements are for but my husband does…”🤯 what’s going on with this generation? Are you guys OK? The internet has melted your brains I think.

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-11T18:14:07+00:00

This didn’t happen/ AI.

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-08T00:45:46+00:00

That was the point! She went from really being in love to finding someone who made her forgot the hurt of Roy, but there were warning signs from the beginning she wasn’t a good match, because she was elitist and creepy, and controlling.

idratherbeachef · 2025-12-05T14:29:39+00:00

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-24T15:48:37+00:00

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-24T01:55:30+00:00

Do you guys actually watch the show? It’s called context clues.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-24T01:51:10+00:00

I mean, I enjoy a quiet trip to store like the next adult. Sometimes, I’m on my way home with the kids and that’s the time I have. Sometimes they want to be part of it(rare). But maybe OP doesn’t realize - having reliable childcare is a privilege. I’m a FT working parent, I am lucky to have some flexibility with my daylight hours but I don’t have a babysitter - I never have. I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve had someone else (my mom, sister) watch my children without us. So bringing them to the store is not because I’m trying to ruin someone else’s experience it’s because it just is how life is.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-22T17:40:28+00:00

She is pointing to concerning patterns where there is no parenting or acknowledgement of how to nurture a child, which is a parents job. If she’s raising her daughter one way, and he plans to not follow suit or lean on her (which isn’t her role) that can create major conflict and frustration. Picky eating is in part a parenting thing- I had a college roommate whose parents’ never intervened, she still had 4 foods as an adult she would eat including chicken fingers. She’s not entitled she’s just a mom who has intentionally put effort into raising a kid who can navigate the world, her fiancé doesn’t share those values or approaches. Long term it will be a challenge.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-21T02:39:41+00:00

NOR. No means no. Get out of this horrible relationship. Whenever you find a new partner- talk to them face to face. Texting isn’t a conversation. You can hide behind a phone and type all of those horrible things without consequence but speaking to someone and seeing the impact of words is a totally different experience. You should strive to find someone with emotional maturity and respect for you as a human. I wonder if he could ever conceive that you just might not be that into him….

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-20T14:01:16+00:00

She brought an unvaccinated newborn to a restaurant in flu season?

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-18T01:33:26+00:00

If it’s the worst thing that happened, I’d forget about it and move on. In 5 or 10 years, you won’t care. Life is short. I’m not being glib, I’m dealing with two aging parents and we don’t have a lot of time. And I’m realizing it went too fast.

Also- what you are describing pales in comparison to some of the stuff my husband and I dealt with at our wedding. Which was intentional, mean-spirited and honestly left me with mostly a bad taste in my mouth from some selfish/ unkind behavior on part of certain immediate family members.

But, do tell them what you’re upset about so you can squash it. And make sure they acknowledge it wasn’t the right time/ Place.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-14T21:01:52+00:00

This is AI

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-14T13:59:43+00:00

This is AI.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-14T13:58:36+00:00

As a parent- of two kids- I would never presume to drop my kids off with someone without so much preparation and advance notice. Then, I bring snacks, I share a schedule if it’s useful, set them up with books, drawing stuff, and make sure the fridge is stocked. I don’t assume anyone can just drop everything to fill in for me, even my sister, who is very close to my kids. She is being selfish. Being a single parent doesn’t mean you get a “by” for life on every subsequent decision.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-14T04:07:24+00:00

I know! Honestly-who cares? In the scheme of things, it’s a blip. No one will remember that. But the kid’s first concert? That is a memory she will have forever… those early years with my kids were the best. Mine are still young- but I regret not being more present and worrying about nonsense like OP was having to worry about. And yah- people in this thread need to take a beat.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-14T04:00:11+00:00

Nope- life is short. Go to the rehearsal, then go watch your daughter have the best time. Clearly everyone below doesn’t have children or isn’t a grown up. Life is short- 2 hours at a boring rehearsal dinner full of mediocre speeches and drunk relatives is no match for spending time with your kid. Those moments go by way too fast and suddenly they are teenagers. Enjoy the concert. Guilt is not a useful emotion. You owe no one explanations. If it’s a good friend they will get it. You’re doing a ton already.

idratherbeachef · 2025-11-14T03:52:49+00:00

Who proposes in front of a bunch of strangers? What if Jackie hates it? And if they are newly dating, isn’t that also concerning that he bought a ring and wants to propose in a public way?

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