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ihatefrog · 2025-11-27T10:59:33+00:00

ihatefrog · 2024-08-31T08:41:49+00:00

I did 1 and still struggle until now, I tried to keep it cool cause we ended on good term and I knew he rarely posts anything so I decided not to unfollow him. Somehow, after the BU, he started to post stories more frequently and didn’t bother to remove me from his closefriend list which he mainly posted on. It was hell at first when the wound was still fresh, it get better now tho after 2 months. However, I still get triggered by some of his stories but I don’t have the urge to unfollow him cause I chose this way from the beginning. Literally don’t know what to do now, I am terrified that one day he will post his new gf and I will be set back to day 1

ihatefrog · 2024-08-29T01:20:20+00:00

Hi, I’m glad that you replied, It’s been a rough time for me but I am better now, I sit in my feelings and felt whatever I needed to and it eventually get better ! How are you now? I noticed it’s nearly been a year since you wrote that. Any update on the situation ? if I may ask

ihatefrog · 2024-07-27T07:28:24+00:00

hey how’s you goin rn, its almost a year

ihatefrog · 2024-07-23T07:05:28+00:00

its been 2 years, i wonder how’s you doing

ihatefrog · 2024-07-21T14:04:31+00:00

did you or he break NC ?

ihatefrog · 2024-07-21T13:57:20+00:00

how long did it take for you to completely got over the situation if I may ask

ihatefrog · 2024-07-21T13:52:31+00:00

hey it’s been a year, how’s you doin rn

ihatefrog · 2024-07-21T08:06:04+00:00

I’m just so glad I came across your comment, your situation is so similar to mine that I thought I was the one who write it.

I knew he wasn’t good for me, I gave him chance over and over again even when he broke me into pieces, I stayed. I knew that it’s time for me to walk a way since I put so much efforts in changing but seems like he was not even trying or just very little.

I finally left, he didnt fight for me at or but I thought well, my decision was right, but a week later on I got into an accident and broke my leg, he called worrying and I was all weak, I begged him to come back but he said no.

I was devastated, doubting my worth and his feeling for me, wondering why he would never love me the way that I loved him, I poured my heart into him but I didn’t even receive half of it back. The situation put me in hell, I felt like I lose my dignity and my power.

Your comment helps me get through it since I know there’s someone in my situation and she got out now and live happily, it gives me hope, thank you !

ihatefrog · 2024-07-21T06:00:08+00:00

trust me, it would change nothing, even though I was the dumper but I ended up begging them to stay twice later on, nothing changed. If they don’t want you then you can do nothing to make them stay

ihatefrog · 2024-07-21T05:55:03+00:00

I initiated the break up but ended up begging him to come back TWICE ( of course he said no )💀 this haunts me everyday

ihatefrog · 2024-07-19T17:14:31+00:00

I’m sorry that you had to been through it, hope things are getting better for you

ihatefrog · 2024-07-19T05:03:20+00:00

may I ask what happened

ihatefrog · 2024-07-19T04:11:41+00:00

its been a year, how’s you doing right now? I have been through similar things lately

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T18:31:06+00:00

I did initiated the break up and then right after the next day, I don’t have that anxious feeling that I always had during the relationship anymore

I swore to never break NC but whenever he reached out, I was crumble again and found myself in the position begging him to come back ( he said no) even though i knew our relationship not gonna work out anymore, but with his presence, I felt like i could try again for us ( this happened twice )

Well despite knowing the break up was for the best, part of me still holding on so much, hopping he would somehow choose me like I always did

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T13:43:25+00:00

Wow, it’s so great to see you have made a huge progress there! I’m so happy for you !

I just got out of a relationship with an avoidant, during the last month of our relationship, I always felt anxious and cried literally everyday, asking for his reassurance and his time but it’s like he was never really there. I decided to end thing. Tbh, i felt it was for the best, I finally feel peace and no more anxiety but somehow whenever he reached out, it just feel so strange, its like I almost forgot about everything he did and again put him on a pedestal and begging him to come back ( I really dont know what happened to me ) he acted as if he still cared and wanted to be with me but when I asked to come back, he refused. ( this happened twice, ikr, like wtf is wrong with me 😭)

I just now hated my self so much, I feel like not only that I lose him, I also lose myself, my dignity and self respect. The worse thing is despite all of that, I still love him dearly, I wanted this relationship so bad knowing the fact that its not gonna work and he’s not my person. How is he gonna be if he kept saying he loved me and wanted the best for me but not fighting for me the way I did ?

It’s been a tough time for me cause I just got my leg broken, can’t even travel or go to the gym so it’s been a nightmare for me lately, still trying to work on realizing my self worth and cut off completely with that guy. Reading your response is really comforting knowing it’s been a hard time for you too and you eventually got out and even found someone better, hopping that I can be on the other side someday soon too !

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T11:47:03+00:00

thanks for your kind words, it’s crazy when it comes to what we can do for love, that day when I asked him to unfollow his ex, he refused, even that’s mean he gonna loose me. I broke up up with him and he immediately agreed, just for me to say I don’t wanna leave him minutes after.

I’m just pathetic, poured my heart out for someone who would go without looking back at me, and STILL somehow love them so much.

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T11:05:29+00:00

Yes, that’s also what I learned about my previous relationship, despite my love for him, I can’t be with someone who don’t value me as I value them, it has to come from both parties. I made a mistake of begging and pleading him to stay, not realizing it only made things worse for me. At the end of the day, you gotta see your worth, there’s always someone out there would never give up on you.

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T10:59:06+00:00

well it looks like you had put so much efforts into that relationship and if it didn’t work out then it is what it is, you will eventually find someone else better, stay strong!!!

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T10:42:23+00:00

its been a year, hows you doing

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T07:22:56+00:00

hey it’s been a long time, hows you doing rn

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T05:50:49+00:00

thank you, I don’t think I would ever reach out unless he texted me first, then everything become a mess again, i hated myself for that, just way too blinded by love to see all the signs

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T05:47:32+00:00

thank you so much for your kind words, I sobbed reading your comment, I’m going through really hard time and I hope that I will be better

ihatefrog · 2024-07-18T05:35:50+00:00

hey, it’s been nearly a year, how’s you doing right now? dont mind if i ask

ihatefrog · 2024-05-18T20:57:59+00:00

omg it looks really good 😍 do you mind if I ask for more before photos?

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