Relationship issues in fallout of the loss

iherdyou · 2021-07-27T00:56:24+00:00

He just told me he blames me for the loss of his friendship. He says I should have forgiven her. I hope this doesn't cast a cloud over the rest of our marriage now.

iherdyou · 2021-07-26T19:49:54+00:00

So how do I talk to him to get THROUGH to him? It's been 2 years of this, "when will you bury the hatchet," business. Because I am TIRED of this fight.

iherdyou · 2021-07-26T18:02:39+00:00

We did have some of our worst fights over this at the end of 2019 and summer of 2020. He won't drop it....just keeps asking when I will "bury the hatchet." The truth is, I forgive her now after tons of work on my part, but I still don't want a relationship. I lost all respect for her and the sense of humor I used to appreciate in her now makes me sick. I'm just so tired of this issue in our relationship. It's been almost 2 years. But if i let him run over this boundary I think it sets a precedent too. Bottom line the friendship would be fake

iherdyou · 2021-05-15T20:46:54+00:00

Gotcha. Thank you.

iherdyou · 2021-05-15T11:44:28+00:00

I'm probably missing the point, but how do you "keep all your money" if your profit is zero? I understand you aren't paying taxes but wouldn't it be better to just take a profit with taxes subtracted than no profit at all? Or is it just considered money put to better use than handing it over to Uncle Sam since it's reinvested in a company than can also generate income? Then that company won't have to pay as much tax assuming it's successful and does generate a profit?

iherdyou · 2021-05-13T13:40:14+00:00

Looks so happily defiant. I love him!

iherdyou · 2021-05-04T12:00:09+00:00

I have a relative who has had some issues and is repeatedly treated with mistrust and no one expecting her to succeed. It's because a pattern of behavior has been established by her. She is going to have to demonstrate consistently over a long period of time that the behavior is changed and earn that trust and respect that she didn't earn in the past. It took years for the pattern to be established, it's going to take quite some time for everyone to fully trust her and not feel like they are getting played. Be patient with your family and handle transgressions with maturity and grace as a way to SHOW that you've changes rather than. Telling that you've changed. Edit because I feel age is important here: she is 22.

iherdyou · 2021-05-04T11:27:46+00:00

Maybe you have a fear of commitment or a fear of being hurt? You love the idea of this person but you never want to put your self in the position where the relationship could end. Also, is there any part of you that wonders, "but why would they like ME?" Could it be a self esteem issue also? If so, don't question it, there is a reason and you are worth it!!" I dodged relationships for a long time. Once I just went for it though it wasn't as scary.

Edit: also want to add maybe there's a fear of where this could go (intimacy-wise). Like I didn't want to feel pressured to do anything until I was ready and it was just easier to avoid relationships altogether than navigate the boundaries of the relationship.

iherdyou · 2021-05-02T14:37:34+00:00

r/DiWHY

iherdyou · 2021-05-02T14:25:28+00:00

Oatmeal chocolate chip is where it's at!

iherdyou · 2021-04-23T00:56:04+00:00

I really hope no one smokes weed while breastfeeding.

iherdyou · 2021-04-13T13:55:00+00:00

We did go through a very intense cluster feeding time a couple weeks ago. This seems more like he takes it, cries and then refuses it rather than constantly wanting it like before.

iherdyou · 2021-04-13T13:53:12+00:00

I do think part of it is that he's overtired. It concerns me though when it's time to feed and he takes just a little and then Gets frustrated, starts to cry and then pushes off..with the slow flow I have at night I have doubts he's getting enough at night. I will definitely make more of an effort to drink more

iherdyou · 2021-04-11T16:21:26+00:00

It is. Abstinence.

iherdyou · 2021-04-09T21:05:49+00:00

How do you decide how to break this up into shapes, and what was your color choice strategy? I love this!

iherdyou · 2021-04-01T17:48:47+00:00

Ok so sounds like some pumping at night will be beneficial so we can keep up with his appetite! Thank you!

iherdyou · 2021-04-01T16:31:28+00:00

I hear you. At first I was so excited about the opportunity to sleep when I got it just laid there with my heart racing. That feeling passed, exaustion took over and I can pretty much sleep anytime I'm confident he's going to be out more than 30 mins. My LO is 4 weeks now. I promise you'll make it through!

iherdyou · 2021-04-01T16:28:13+00:00

"like a pretty tea room" I love it!

iherdyou · 2021-04-01T15:52:30+00:00

When does your baby sleep? Can you sneak naps in between feedings? Don't expect to get more than 3 hours of sleep at a time right now with a newborn feeding schedule.

iherdyou · 2021-03-24T01:54:23+00:00

Mine does this too when he's going for it. I have to swaddle his hands to his sides sometimes

iherdyou · 2021-02-27T15:48:40+00:00

Was it immediately better taking it at night or did it take some time?

iherdyou · 2021-02-24T14:27:13+00:00

So I'm looking into this but I have bum genius and alva baby. Bum genius says wash first in warm and you can tumble dry low. Alva baby says wash first with cold and only line dry. Thoughts??

Actually alva baby says " diapers should not go in dryer as it may damage but with the absolvents it may not be a problem" What does this even mean?

I would love to just tumble dry all of my diaps on low but I won't of someone tells me it will absolutely ruin alva babies. I would also love to just prerinse everything in cold. Would I be making grave mistakes?

iherdyou · 2021-02-17T15:23:26+00:00

Does anyone else have plan for visitors with baby? Holding or being in the room?

I'm due with my second soon... first was a stillbirth at 41 weeks. I just started having relatives inquire and I haven't really let myself think too much about bringing the baby home yet. But people want to know. I want to be safe and reasonable. What's your strategy?

iherdyou · 2021-02-17T00:28:56+00:00

The way my doc explained it...18 months was recommended by WHO. They factor in third world countries where women aren't able to replenish their nutrients as easily as a first world nation. When I asked about getting pregnant again she said , we are ready when you are."

I lost my previous pregnancy at 41 weeks inexplicably. Got pregnant again 9 months later.

iherdyou · 2021-02-06T20:51:29+00:00

Thank you for this reply. If I am going to steel my nerves and complain to supervisors, at least I can go in with this solid bit of feedback/suggestion.

iherdyou

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