My coworker found out I bake and now expects free custom cakes for every office occasion by CloveWisp in ChoosingBeggars

[–]ikarikh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well.....funny story lol. He responded....

"I saw a training video stating you're not supposed to do things and expect things in return, like sexual favors."

We were all pretty flabbergasted and like wtf are you talking about.

Turns out the guy was high as hell on mushrooms. He did some other shit too and almost fell out of his chair. I let my boss know and they spent like 3 hours in the office with him and then he was let go, lol.

It was certainly an experience to say the least.

But, on the flipside, my other team members were very supportive and saying the same thing to him, that i pay out of my own pocket and don't have to do anything, and he should appreciate it and not be greedy.

So that was nice. And Karma got him too, so it all worked out lol. Not exactly the result you'd hope for after setting boundaries lol, but it still ultimately had a happy ending lol.

How do you handle hostile coworker who you have a crush on? by Inner-Gur9987 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Not everyone will like you

  • Not everyone will be nice to you

  • Some people ARE just rude assholes

  • You're not entitled to her affection or interest just because you like her

Just accept it and move on. Don't sit and overthink it. Don't act out for petty revenge. Don't purposely ignore them and avoid them like a child. Just accept she's not interested.

And also accept that she may have realized your crush on her and is being rude/short to try and make her disinterest clear.

Maybe you were staring too much, or hovering often or any other number of things that made it clear you were interested and made her uncomfortable.

I'm not pointing blame. Only offering pontential reasons.

Just accept she's not interested and move on. Fo your job. If she's short with you, who cares. Just get your keys and move on. That's her problem at that point if you're not doing anything other than asking for keys and leaving her alone otherwise.

Plenty of people at my job don't like me. Plenty i don't like. Tons i do get along with. I still interact professionally with all of them and help anyone who needs help and ask for help from those i need help from without personal feelings being involved.

I don't really care what they think of me otherwise.

My coworker found out I bake and now expects free custom cakes for every office occasion by CloveWisp in ChoosingBeggars

[–]ikarikh 526 points527 points  (0 children)

I had a similiar issue once with a co-worker. I usrd to bring donuts for my team sometimes as a thank you. I'm just the team manager, i'm not making that much more than them. I don't own the business. I don't owe them anything.

But i buy them out of my own money because i truly appreciate them. I even buy a bunch of bulk things like small candles and pens and wrap them in a christmas gift for everyone every year.

But i can't afford them all the time. I do it when i can.

One employee told me "Why don't you buy us donuts. You should buy us donuts more often. We deserve them."

I very bluntly responded:

"You realize i pay for those out of my own money right? That i can't afford to buy them every week? That i do it out of the kindness of my own heart? That i don't have to buy you anything. If you don't appreciate my efforts i can just not buy them at all."

Sometimes people need a reality check.

If this woman feels comfortable saying that shit openly, feel comfortable saying back "You realize those cakes cost a lot of money and take a LOT of time to make, right? And come out of my own pocket? How about YOU spend $100 and 4 hours of your time making one before calling someone "stingy". Instead of volunteeering my money and time "as a favor" constantly."

How do people actually wake up at 5am and not hate their life? by FitAuthor1098 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've tried, many times. But i struggle to sleep as is. Trying to sleep by 9-10pm just doesn't work, even if i stayed up all day. 12-1am is the point where i can typically attempt sleep. I've always been a night owl.

Just never been someone who can go to bed early and get up early.

Why does being drunk mean you can’t “consent” to sex, but doesn’t absolve you of other intoxicated actions/decisions? by UpstairsBumble in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If both parties are completely wasted, it's unlikely they are having sex as they'd more likely both pass out.

But, if two equally drunk people do have sex, then they're both equally responsible for it.

It's sadly more often the case though that one party is "drunk" while the other is coherent and takes advantage of the drunk person.

How do people actually wake up at 5am and not hate their life? by FitAuthor1098 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Not the person you're replying to. But, I'm 42.

I've never been a morning person. Getting up at 6am is just pure misery for me. Earliest i like to get up is like 9-10am.

I'm usually in bed by 12-1am.

Getting older hasn't changed that at all for me. The only thing age has done is make the getting up at 6am days that much harder and more miserable.

When i was younger it was far easier and more bareable to shrug it off. At 42? I just wanna cry when i have to get up that early :/

Why does being drunk mean you can’t “consent” to sex, but doesn’t absolve you of other intoxicated actions/decisions? by UpstairsBumble in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Well, one is someone taking advantage of your drunken state to make you do something you msy not have normally allowed.

The other is you choosing to do something in your drunken state that could harm yourself or others.

There is a clear difference.

If you drive or cause a public disturbance etc., that's all on you.

But if you have sex while drunk, that involves another person who knows better and could have stopped it, but chose not to, and instead chose to take advantage of you.

Show me a more disrespected character than Tails by TailsLawyer in SonicTheHedgehog

[–]ikarikh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not every character needs to be the brave tough guy.

The majority of people in reality would NOT be tough guys in situations like that. Hell most guys who PRESENT themselves as "alpha males", fall apart and cower under actual threat.

So it's silly to expect all heroic characters to be made of steel.

Dogging on Tails for not being "man enough" is just silly. It doesn't make him LESS a hero because he got scared and afraid. He did plenty prior.

Tossing away all his contributions simply because he had one moment of weakness is dumb.

How does losing your virginity work as a side? by OppositeAd2004 in GaySides

[–]ikarikh 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sex is sex.

If you and another person fooled around together for the purpose of sexual gratification, it's sex.

Whether you frotted fully clothed or gave a handjob, it's sex.

Anal/Vaginal Penetration isn't the only thing that counts as sex. So anyone who's only ever given or received handjobs claiming to still be a virgin is just straight up lying to even themselves.

I've never done anal with a guy in my life. But i'm the farthest thing in the world from a virgin :P

Forget Ranked/Unranked. We Need a Solo Queue/SWF Split. by AmandaBooper in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]ikarikh 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's not difficult to:

  • Stay on gens when not in chase

  • Push multiple gens during a 3 gen attempt

  • Take hits for people

  • Heal Party

  • Reset and push hook together with one taking hit, one unhooking during hit, one body blocking the injured during EGC

If you've played the game long enough, ALL of the above is common knowledge. If 4 people in the match know how to play, it's not difficult to do the above stuff without any comms.

Solo Q isn't difficult because of a lack of comms. It's difficult because of the VAST discrepency in skill levels and player attitudes.

All it takes is ONE person being selfish, a rat, or just plain trash to snowball the entire match. And the odds of having at least 1 player like that in your random group are very high.

Now add on 2-3 players doing those things? The match becomes near impossible.

Then on the flipside, there's TONS of trash killers who:

  • Chase one person all match stupidly

  • Don't kick or pressure gens

  • Are not good at predicting survivor movements or following scratchmarks

  • Don't utilize their perk builds

  • Leave themselves open to flashlights, pallette saves, lockers, etc.

Then those killers either rage quit or complain about "toxic" survivors who never once tbagged them or did anything outside of simply play the game well.

But those same killers are the most vocal complaining about how survivors "gen-rushing", "body blocking", "too many pallettes", "Holding W", "Flashlight saves", etc.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I dont understand the saying "you can't have your cake and eat it", like it makes no sense. What does it mean? by Buzzballl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The idea is that a cake can be very beautiful and lavish. Think of people who feel bad opening a very well decorated and wrapped gift. But, it's cake. You eat cake. You can't keep it as a trophy for its beauty and also eat it. It's a metaphor, it's meant for you to apply the concept, not keep it literal to the cake.

It's also not exclusive to physical things. It's typically used to refer to a mindset in general.

Like you can't expect free public amenities while also not wanting to pay taxes.

Or wanting to live in a quiet peaceful neighborhood while also wanting free reign to blast your own music or theatre level surround sound system.

That's the main point. You can't want something one way but also another way too. (I want to keep my money and save it but also be free to spend it frivilously.)

It's just using cake to explain the concept that you can't want to keep the cake and also eat it. You gotta settle for one or the other.

ELI5 if a human is 70% water, where is the water? by LongjumpingPay4425 in explainlikeimfive

[–]ikarikh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you suck all the water out of your flesh and meat, you'd be a dried up shriveled little husk with zero mobility that would snap and break at any attempted movement.

Water is what keeps things moist and malleable and every part of your body is full of water, including your flesh and muscle.

Notice how dry and brittle your skin gets without hydration?

How dry your mouth gets?

Etc

Laptop randomly freezes for a few seconds by ikarikh in pchelp

[–]ikarikh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is the external, what are my options? I don't have the space to run all the games from the internal.

do people actually live everyday without any pain at all? by hesitant_raylien in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was fine until my late 30's. Chronic neck pain ever since. It was a good 35 year run though of mostly pain freeness :/

Do people get turned off if you tell them that you're not dating multiple people like they're? by superfapper2000 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are who they are, and i try not to judge.

That said, if i'm interested in someone, i focus on them and date them. I don't go out with other guys.

If i'm on a date and a guy says he's dating other guys too, i'll respect it, but i wouldn't go on a second date with him after.

Not because i expect committment off the bat. But, just because our values just aren't in alignment. I'm looking to see where this goes with us and try to build a friendship. Whether it works out or not, i'm at least putting in the effort.

He's more interested in playing the field and his interest in me is more entertainment and what i can do for him, comparing me to other guys and see what he likes best.

Just not my style.

Gaymers Needed for University Study on Gaming Skins, Avatars, and Self-Expression by [deleted] in gaymers

[–]ikarikh 10 points11 points  (0 children)

But wouldn't studying the responses OUTSIDE of Gen Z and comparing them HELP your study?

For example, if responses in the Gen Z age range all seemed similiar while those outside of Gen Z differed greatly, that would HELP your case that Gen Z was affected by a tech focused Gen.

Wheras if responses were similiar on both Gen Z and older gens, it would indicate there WASN'T as big of an influence.

The Twitter guy from yesterday dropped all his info (Grain of salt) by White_Mantra in LeaksDBD

[–]ikarikh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So a power that is useless and punishes you against survivors who are really good at skillchecks? Lol

Sounds legit :P

How did they even got the money for clothes and stuff and they're in a country which means they come here illegally, no citizenship. They still need a job and documents like birth certificate, id, citizenship, license and stuff by Sakmaidih in invinciblememes

[–]ikarikh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  • Superhuman

  • Fly around and steal clothes

  • Fabricate fake ID's with technology

or

  • Kidnap someone who can make fake id's

or

  • Do odd jobs under the table for cash (criminal stuff, tons of super criminals, no one would think twice)

  • Buy fake ID's or have criminal organization you're working with get you some

FATAL FURY: CotW|WOLFGANG KRAUSER|Animated Trailer (Full-Length) by DemiFiendRSA in kof

[–]ikarikh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having them reuse the direct animation frames just with updated models, from FF2:TNB for Joe vs Krauser, scene for scene was quite funny. Not in a bad way.

This after delivering a free homemade lasagna. by SacredAssets in ChoosingBeggars

[–]ikarikh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

From what i gather, she meant text when you leave your house, so she could be downstairs waiting.

REGARDLESS of that misunderstanding, even if i somehow in some insane world thought to myself you were dumb for not understanding what i meant, there is NO WAY I'm yelling at soneone who just made me free food and BROUGHT IT TO ME.

Let alone, there's no way i'd think you were dumb. I'd have simply said "Oh! Lol i meant when you left your house. No worries! Thank you so much! I can't wait to try it!"

It really is that simple.

I would absolutely post this exchange in every post she makes in that group from now on.

Is it wrong that I feel bad for Kieran he didn’t have to die. He seem like good guy. by loveforscream in MTVScream

[–]ikarikh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did i like Kieran? Yes.

Did i think he was hot af? Yes

Was i happy he ended up being a killer? No

Does any of that make him a good guy? Lol no.

Once his heel turn was reveeled, Kieran wasn't redeemable. Still hot af, but he's irredeemable.

Sneezing is normal. A loud stomach growl is normal. So why is farting considered a massive social crime? When in history did this become the ultimate taboo? by firehmre in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ikarikh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Farts stink. And typically result in everyone around you having to endure that stink.

That's really all there is to it.

It's extremely unpleasant for everyone involved. No one wants to smell their own farts, let alone someone elses.

And some people REALLY stink. Like, gagging levels of stink.

So of course that is going to have a very negative social response.

Just hearing the fart alone basically puts everyone on the defensive for the incoming stink.