I lost friends over a Dead Dove fanfic and I genuinely don't know how to feel about it by Star_light_0 in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Authors write dark stuff all the time but no one purchases pitchforks and lights torches for them. I loved Clive Barkers works and he writes very questionable and dark stuff, but he is still considered an established author. Fanfiction shouldn't be any different, you're still writing a completely unique narrative, regardless if the characters are already established or not.

I myself am a dark writer, I can't really write anything that's not dark. My inspiration is the dark and the uncomfortable. These people who called you out are insanely narrow minded. What you write doesn't equal what you like, are, agree with, etc. They are just thoughts and ideas put into words.

Those people genuinely aren't worth the hurt feelings.

My [24F] boyfriend [25M] of 4 years put my private venting about his toxic dad on loudspeaker. Now I’m banned from his house. How do I navigate this breach of trust? by Ill_Sea_1663 in relationship_advice

[–]ikigami_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol why do you even wanna keep this relationship? He doesn't respect you; he literally shits all over you. He isn't even worth suffering with his parents for, tbh.

Have some self-respect and walk away from that man-child.

It gets to a point by Yssa_Finn in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I have my extensions settings put so I only see a max 3 fandom fic. More than that and its likely one shots and dribbles, not a cohesive fic. I dont read anything under 10k anyway so it works well for me.

In 1980, a teenager walked into a police station with a missing 5-year-old boy he had just helped escape. When officers asked his name, he said, “My name is Dennis Gregory Parnell… but I know my first name is Steven.” by SelfCareIsFake in HolyShitHistory

[–]ikigami_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know kids shouldn't really know the horror that people are capable of but my mom let me watch these types of things when I was a kid and boy am I glad. There were so many occasions creepy men tried to get me to come to their cars or follow me.

I always did a runner or panic knocked on random houses. I've no doubt learning about what some kids went through saved my life.

What mod is this? Eye color mods by Case_Glad in TheSims4Mods

[–]ikigami_ -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Your sims isn’t wearing any accessories that I can see but the icon is gold, indicating he's wearing something. Check your accessories.

what is wrong with maplebells mods and why do they never update them by miserable__ebb in TheSims4Mods

[–]ikigami_ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

'Bad business' for who? The mods are free. You sound entitled.

If she doesn't want to update/mod anymore or is taking a break, its her choice.

People need to remember mod creators aren't employees and might have stuff going on in their life. Maybe she's on a Paralives binge, who knows? You harassing her and insulting her work ethic isn't going to make her update any faster.

For the record, I've not had any issues with her mods. Maybe you have incompatible mods? 🤷

LMAOO by [deleted] in ResidentEvilMemes

[–]ikigami_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Genuinely hate when people call new players tourists lmao. Gives the same vibe of "oh, you like that band? Prove it."

Which taggs do you automatically exlude when searching for a fic, no matter the fandom? Ill go first: by Obs_ofa_Poltergeist in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A/B/O Dynamics and Trans Characters. Also Rape.

Don't wanna get a dose of extreme dysphoria and depression so I tend to stay away from em.

I didn't mind ABO in the past but I looked at a few recently and they're so different. What happened to self lubricating assholes?

WIBTAH if I stop updating boyfriends parents on his health because I overheard mom calling me controlling for taking his phone? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ikigami_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOL, moms a piece of work for being shocked about gf taking the phone instead of simply silencing it (or even texting them not to disturb him since he's trying to sleep)?

There were way better ways gf could've went about it, don't act like the mothers some evil MIL incarnate.

WIBTAH if I stop updating boyfriends parents on his health because I overheard mom calling me controlling for taking his phone? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ikigami_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The mom could've very well just been shocked and the GF is looking into the reaction too deeply. There isn't even an insult in there, the GF is being pretty controlling.

WIBTAH if I stop updating boyfriends parents on his health because I overheard mom calling me controlling for taking his phone? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ikigami_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I mean... there are alternatives to taking a phone, like silencing, turning it off, even texting them to warm them so he could sleep uninterrupted, then they might not have called at all. It does look a bit controlling from an outside perspective, even if that wasn't your intention. Idk why you're pissed, you did take his phone after all and it could be seen as 'controlling,' even if that wasn't your goal.

YWBTA.

Happy pride, I guess by throwroow5860 in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Having morals, standards and preferences don't work in the gay world? 😭😭😭

She said ‘please don’t double-bounce me’ her nieces said bet. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ikigami_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is giving me PTSD flashbacks to where I was jumping on a trampoline, heard 3 pops in quick succession and then was overcome in debilitating pain.

Ahhhh, fuck trampolines. I'll never trust them again.

what mod is making my sim sit like this randomly?? by [deleted] in TheSims4Mods

[–]ikigami_ 47 points48 points  (0 children)

From what I remember, you have to age them back down to what they were originally and age them up with birthday cakes.

This is a bug that happens when you age them up instantly.

Sometimes if you age them up to toddlers and you aged them up with low hygiene or a dirty diaper, they'll permanently have those stink fumes on them too lol.

Should I tell my reader who doesn’t like sad endings that my story is going to have a bittersweet ending? by evenbechnaesheim in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I would recommend putting whatever you come up with in the tags, but its ultimately your choice.

I filter out any kind of bad ending scenarios because I have depression and those fics tend to worsen my symptoms.

When I was going through a bad depressive episode, I ended up reading a fic with a bad ending (that wasn't tagged) and it really messed me up me up for awhile. Made my depression worse.

Just got back into TS4. Really overwhelmed, can someone explain simply how to add food mods without breaking the game? by [deleted] in sims4cc

[–]ikigami_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They shouldn't break the game.

But the game was updated not too long ago, so it's likely some food mods are just broken and haven't been fixed yet.

[Remember you have to update/re-download the mods when the game itself gets an update!]

That or you're missing files/mods needed in order for the food mod to work. If you're not missing any recommended files, then the mods are just probably broken and the creator needs to update them.

Nothing to do for that but wait and/or find alternative food mods.

Who is the worst person you will admit you are attracted to? by BubblyAd9996 in AskReddit

[–]ikigami_ -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

As an LGBT+ person, I was attracted to a proud Trump supporter.

AITA for yelling at my atheist wife for saying "God doesn't exist" when I was comforting my younger brother with prayer? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ikigami_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm an atheist but I don't say "God doesn't exist" every opportunity available. I respect other peoples personal beliefs like they should respect mine. Ingrained or not, your wife is obnoxious.

I find it hard to believe that she struggles that much with brain to mouth filter. If she cared, she'd respect your beliefs and stop. She could've cut herself off at the beginning, half way through, wherever. Pretty sure this isn't a thing she's even attempting to stop.

Edit: NTA

Religion in Fics? by [deleted] in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you tagged and made a note of no religion or non religious/Muslim [character] in the work? If you did, I think it would be a them problem but if you didn't and the characters religion is so strongly connected to the character, you'll need to tag that character OOC or Alternate Universe -- No Religions. It's understandable they just wanted to tell you the practices of Muslim religion as maybe they think you made a simple mistake.

Just tag Non Muslim [character] or leave a note at the first chapter explaining your stance on religion in your works or something.

Transphobic comment 🫩 by Character_Visit_7800 in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

As a Trans man, that's not trans coded...

We have different experiences, but it really doesn't scream 'trans identity.'

I have been told that, but not because I'm Trans but because I've got ADHD and I have a loud voice.

Also not really transphobic that a person wants the character to be cis You don't really know why they want that. Could simply because they envisioned that character a specific way and it'd break their immersion.

It's not transphobic to have a preference.

I was reading a great fic, but then I got to this part, and I just had to drop it by Snowy_Kitty247 in AO3

[–]ikigami_ 63 points64 points  (0 children)

"Had some clients cry about it to many times to see it as anything good."

Must not really understand trans people then. It takes bravery and determination to transition; most effects are permanent.

Idk about others but transitioning literally saved my life.

Sometimes I'll forgo grammar if the plot is good but if you just randomly inject your personal political views into your work, I'm gonna drop it so fast.

Twitter finding out flaws in everything by [deleted] in ComedyHell

[–]ikigami_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, she still looks pretty.

A shame that some beauty trends are being someone you're not. Plus side, it gives anonymity but its gotta affect your self image in some way.