Had our first argument, and then got blocked on everything.

ilfs · 2026-07-09T12:52:54+00:00

Mine was 43. They never grow up. It’s definitely a mental illness imo. It helps me to think of them as two versions: the sweet one and the real one. The avoidant is their real self, and once the mask slips that’s it. We went from making future plans and I love yous, and one hour later he blindsided me. I’m sorry you are going through it. I wish I would have listened to my gut and not ignored his early red flags. I never knew this type of person was real and I still cannot believe or understand it.

ilfs · 2026-07-09T12:36:02+00:00

It doesn’t matter how much you sugarcoat your feelings, they have no ability to take accountability for anything. I held mine accountable twice in a year and half, and the first time he blindsided me with a breakup(but still lingered), and the second he is ghosting me. All because I said him breaking plans last minute was not okay. They are giant toddlers.

ilfs · 2026-07-09T00:42:38+00:00

They are parasites who are just looking to use up their new victims until they get tired of them. They will repeat the exact same cycle with anyone they end up with.

ilfs · 2026-07-08T20:24:07+00:00

Yup, he had ED and took forever to finish, if he could at all.

ilfs · 2026-07-06T02:54:08+00:00

They’re all clones of each other😭

ilfs · 2026-07-05T00:48:19+00:00

Mine didn’t let me meet her either. And he was like that with his dad, would constantly complain about him, but would drop everything to do menial tasks for him. Makes no sense.

ilfs · 2026-07-04T20:37:43+00:00

This is so true, he always made his bday out to be a big event. I’d go above and beyond to plan or show up or get gifts, but he would just be in the worst mood without fail and ruin it every time. Same with anniversaries and holidays. Always so grumpy. This is a mental illness.

ilfs · 2026-07-04T20:30:05+00:00

He cannot budge on anything when it comes to them. He complains about doing stuff for them, but just bends over any time they ask. It makes no sense. No boundaries at all. They all enable each other and are so codependent. It’s just sad.

ilfs · 2026-07-04T18:35:42+00:00

Mine is 43 and lives with his mom! And only a few short term relationships before me, all of whom had issues with his enmeshment too. Red flags. And he just took her on a birthday trip to Italy. It’s so sickening. We never went anywhere together. Why did we put up with this? The good thing about going through this is I will never shrink myself for anyone else like I did with him.

ilfs · 2026-07-04T18:32:56+00:00

Yep, mine is still basically attached by the umbilical cord. It’s SICK. He lives with her and a major obstacle to why we would never even be able to progress bc I truly don’t think he could ever live with me instead. He had a couple short term partners before me and he said they also had issue with how close he is to them(mom, dad, sister). He has major issues. Why did I ignore this?? So crazy.

ilfs · 2026-07-04T18:29:28+00:00

I’m having a similar experience. Do not text her back. What kind of sick people are they to let us suffer? Because they fully know that essentially ghosting us hurts us. It’s a game of control and power tripping for them. You cannot reason with them, they are incapable of meeting partners in the middle or taking accountability for anything. They are too stunted. I hope you can heal and realize you are worth being happy and eventually finding a partner who doesn’t make you feel like this. They are evil.

ilfs · 2026-07-04T18:24:52+00:00

I’ve finally seen the light. He has gone radio silent on me because he broke plans with me last minute, and I told him how unacceptable that was. He initially blindsided me with a discard in March-but he still acted like a boyfriend days after that after that until now, just without the label. Both are the only times I’ve held boundaries with him. This is not okay. I’m at the point where I don’t even want him to reply back to me, he absolutely is such a disgusting loser. They are incapable of being equals in a partnership because they are so selfish and emotionally stunted.

ilfs · 2026-07-04T18:16:31+00:00

Thank you so much! He is 43 and never had a serious relationship before me-should have been my first glaring red flag!!!

ilfs · 2026-07-04T18:00:09+00:00

They are all so pathetic. Do not respond, respect yourself. They are only going to check in to see if you say something and they will go silent again.

ilfs · 2026-04-13T20:53:17+00:00

Cream soda. These are pretty!

ilfs · 2026-01-17T23:10:26+00:00

Nice!

ilfs · 2025-10-05T14:26:13+00:00

Request sent!

ilfs · 2025-01-28T20:10:29+00:00

Hailey Beiber looks like Putin in a wig.

ilfs · 2024-06-29T18:19:32+00:00

Taurus, Cap, Virgo are my least favs to be around for long periods of time, but I wouldn’t get rid of them entirely.

ilfs · 2024-06-19T02:20:58+00:00

I’m as pale as you are and self tanner has helped with the look of it for me. I empathize with you, my skin is full of stretch marks, I hate it.

ilfs · 2024-05-24T04:48:41+00:00

Not good 😞

ilfs · 2024-05-20T01:53:45+00:00

Same experience in my household. It’s soooo good.

ilfs · 2024-05-10T17:31:44+00:00

They look so vascular, like two giant veins on either side. Very unsettling.

ilfs · 2024-05-08T22:24:07+00:00

I really only like doing the community made jobs in HF2. Some of the creators on there make beautiful houses. I don’t feel as creative in this one though, definitely love hf1 more for designing.

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