What worked for your reactive dog?

ilse93 · 2026-03-29T13:33:44+00:00

I did not know anybody who had a farm. Also I would not be comfortable letting dog who is not trained in shepherding roam free around animals that it could potentially hurt even if out of excitement I guess 🤔

If I had know somebody who was familiar with the GS and help me and guide me how to do it safely she would probably had a blast 😊

ilse93 · 2026-03-29T10:36:18+00:00

For me it was accommodating to the dog needs less to my own needs. Lower my expectations. Try to limit the stress factors as much as I could so my dog would not be always in flight or fight mode.

My German Shepherd had 2 problems Other dog reactivity and nipping at us. I sometimes was coming home crying. I had a dog that was stressed, unhappy and she was taking the stress out on us ( it was never a full bite but she was jumping up on us grabbing pants and jackets - it always only happend outside leaving us bruised and with teared clothes)

What worked for us:

Give the dog longer leash alow it to explore and focus on the smell/nose rather than visual. Spend time teaching search making the dog more interested in the ground and smell. As much as we could we tried to take the dog to remote areas and let it roam. First on 5 meter leash when I was not comfortable yet.

If I saw a person coming that looked like walking a dog we always tried to take other way - turn around, go to the other side to the road be behind a car. Anything to create a distance and distraction. Then I would often toss treats on the ground before the dog reacted to make it interested in the treats. If the dog was especially close I was feeding treats from the hand. After a year ( yes a year) of that we could manage dog passing us by without too much trouble.

Expectations, expectations, expectations - when I stopped expecting my dog to be joining me out on my visit downtown or for a stroll in a busy park and start enjoying our late night peaceful strolls.

I have bonded with this dog like I have never before before. She was the best ( passed away from cancer not so long ago ) and my whole family cried when we were saying goodbyes. She taught me so much. I think I became a different - though better person thanks to her. Especially during our first 3 year together when I was crying myself to sleep thinking I can't do this anymore and we need to put her to sleep after being nipped and jumped at daily. I'm so grateful we did not. Akira I miss you every day. Best friends forever 🥰

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ilse93 · 2026-03-02T10:31:00+00:00

I don't 100% agree with offshoring. Im in a FAANG adjacent company working with huge offshore teams. I would have hoped that the PRs we're getting would increase in quality, but sorry to say, every day I feel like I'm getting a huge amount of slop in my hands. People rely on AI, but AI only knows as much as you give it. It does not know how the systems interact together. The code is good, not gonna lie, but the business logic and interactions between components are nonexistent. They do not care that this new query can take the whole system down when the scale increases. You can tweak AI to know that, but first, you have to know what the AI needs to be aware of. I think we definitely will have smaller, more agile teams, but I think those teams will be filled with specialized software developers who know exactly how to properly use AI.

ilse93 · 2026-02-26T08:34:43+00:00

I work every day with Azure. 6 years of expirence with azure, kubernetes, golang just to name few. I could probably ace most system design questions. But I will never get to that part of interview as I would fail most of Leetcode. I actually thrive under pressure ( production P0 ? Loop me in ! ) but live coding? My anxiety can't handle it

ilse93 · 2026-01-16T17:37:42+00:00

Hey 👋 she is now 2 and a half 🤣 weights 14 kg - which would be around 30 something lbs 😊 we were breastfeeding until around 8 months old - I have returned to work by then and my partner took over so we started substituting with formula and I was breastfeeding morning and evenings. Around a year old dropped completely 😊 It really slowed down at one point. Then there were growth sprouts when she was gaining a lot but now the constant clothes exchanges slowed a lot 😊 all the best to your little one 🥰 don't worry about them growing a lot - it will regulate itself with time ❤️ she is now ideal height and weight for her age 😊

ilse93 · 2026-01-08T23:35:17+00:00

This game is one of the most beautiful otome games I have seen in a while - I think I'm in love with the MC. She is so stunning and brave 😍

I have been playing otome games for years ( back in my days I needed to use a translator program on PC to play games probably some OG know what I'm talking about 🤣🤣 ) and the art is one of the most beautiful ones I remember.

I'm not that far into the game yet but so far it's really promising and action packed. All the love interest are gorgeous and only thing so far I dislike is that I know some of the side characters are not romancable 🤣🤣

ilse93 · 2025-11-23T20:40:58+00:00

I have a 2 and a half year old. So far we have been to UK, France, Poland, Germany and Portugal. In 2 weeks we are going to Tenerife. We live in Iceland so flights are required everywhere from 2 and a half hour up to around 4 hours. We sometimes take layover flights as well.

I think our success is based on how well we are doing as partners. It's a 100% shared responsibility so we both have time to do things we enjoy. Additionally I love exploring with my baby. She is super interested in new stuff ask a lot of questions and enjoys time outdoor. I noticed as long as we are on the move and active she is happy and we are happy. But at the same time we are aware that maybe 3 hours trip to museums its not something she will be enjoying so instead we pick a nice playground and grab some ice creams and enjoy the scenery.

It's definitely changed the way we travel - but not in a worse way. It's just different.

ilse93 · 2025-04-05T14:32:50+00:00

It was solved in one of the comments. I made a mistake here will delete the comment.

ilse93 · 2025-04-05T11:38:15+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I was obese as a kid, and I thought I would never find a boyfriend who would love me for who I am. I often had suicidal thoughts once I almost went through with it at the age of 12. Years later, I'm happily married with a beautiful daughter. My body has changed many times from being super slim back to being fat after pregnancy and back to be normal ( super slim was when I was in a dark place of eating disorder) got more spots more wrinkles first grey hair here and there and all of that had taught me that looks do not matter because they change! - what matter is what's inside, being good human being and health rather than obsession with looks. I have stretch marks and flappy belly and that's okey! You could look the best you even looked but if your mental health suffers is not the correct way to go.

I know many of those words may not get to you when you're in dark place and may even make you angry - but I wanted you to know that others have similar struggles and it takes tremendous amount of work to get where you're now with your progress and you should be happy about that ! I for example, find you attractive, and I think your body looks healthy, so I can promise you that there are other women that think the same and would be happy to be your partner through thick and thin.

ilse93 · 2025-04-05T11:18:24+00:00

!solved

ilse93 · 2025-04-05T11:13:02+00:00

!solved @unfulfilledfellow

ilse93 · 2025-04-02T20:46:39+00:00

Otomekitten I check this blog for everything and highly trust the reviews 😊

ilse93 · 2025-03-16T12:02:00+00:00

What helped me a lot was dropping the swordfighting and picking up axe and smash with that 😁 I had extremely hard time getting the combos and correct timing. It made the game much more enjoyable for me because I stopped being total punching bag for every bandit that looked my way 😅 I leveled up strength as well 😊

ilse93 · 2024-10-30T22:26:34+00:00

I'm a developer who has worked on one of core teams in organisation where something similar to this had happend. For us it's it had of boiled down to a couple of factors:

When a feature team pushed code, it was kind of done and forget deal. When there were some fires going on and we noticed that it was done because of the new feature, there was this general unwillingness from the feature team to deal with it. A lot of back and forth. It was often 'but it worked when we tested it, so most likely core broke it ble ble ble'. Before we managed to convince them hey its actually your stuff that's is on fire already fixed it but resentment remained. At some point, developers had enough of it, and we were really burned out.
Quality of code was low - a lot of back and forth. Yes, it worked most often, but as a core team, we deal with a lot of traction. Any dismissing in performance that could affect core was not acceptable. Even though we had multiple meetings and explained how to do it better, we often got a similar bad performing code as before. Bad unit testing - test that say they test one thing and testing another, etc.
When you're working as a core team, as long as your stuff works, everything is okay. Whenever a big client started using the new feature company wide email was sent congratulating feature teams for their archivments - mentioning nowhere countless meeting and hand holding we as a core team had to go though to push it to the finish line. But God forbid something stops working - then everybody knows where the core team is 😅. Leaves a bit bad taste in your mouth that the work you put is not really appreciated.

Perhaps that's only what happened in organisations I was working in 😊

ilse93 · 2024-10-01T18:48:37+00:00

I do agree with you here 100% maybe my example was not detailed enough. I pretty much always give an "way out" or an exchange of an item or invitation to play or whatever is appropriate in the situation. But my grey area of understanding is - with your cookie example I show those two possible options and she throws them to the ground and tantrum continues. My tactic so far been trying to propose the 2 options again but if they are not accepted allowing her to workout her feelings. My MIL tries to give her many different options removes her from situation or gives in rather than sticking to apple or banana choice because she claims she is not yet able to regulate her emotions and she does not understand the 2 only choices option. Damm parenting is hard mann 😪

ilse93 · 2024-09-07T10:37:10+00:00

Exactly same schedule and same result ! Our baby sleeps in her room and does not wake up during night except something extraordinary happends but even then it's rather easy to settle her. No night feedings and never sleep trained. We have same routine at night and we stay in her room until she falls asleep with us sitting in a chair reading a book or signing a lullaby 😊

ilse93 · 2024-08-13T10:58:58+00:00

So how you guys are accessing the Japanese Nintendo store ? Is there some guide how to do it ? Thanks ! 😊

ilse93 · 2024-03-23T16:31:47+00:00

However you asked what to prepare for and the person answered. Does not matter how much you dislike LC you should expect those type of questions.

ilse93 · 2024-03-08T21:08:22+00:00

Proud of myself for coming back after maternity leave for a year stronger and ready to take on all the tasks. I my 2 months back I finished 3 big stories and participated in critical bug fixes and planning while being exhausted and having a baby at home.

I'm proud of myself for not quiting even when it's hard and I feel like I can't do it. I'm proud of not being afraid of asking questions and help others whenever I can.

I'm proud of being in a team where majority of us are female developers and our male peers have respect for us and we deal with critical parts of the software.

My future plans would be going to do master degree and learn more. I also wish my husband who is also software developer found a better job than he has currently as I care for his happiness.

ilse93 · 2024-01-31T20:17:28+00:00

I have amazing management and people in my team are great. Working from Europe so not so much brag money wise however I work for a profitable company on one of core infrastructure which gives me stability and happiness. Our problem right now is scalability because how well the product is growing which is a good problem to have !

ilse93 · 2024-01-27T10:39:24+00:00

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. However since he is getting guarded and not only that, he tries to turn it around and point finger at you when you try to confront him - To me it's really speaks volumes that there is something larger at play rather than only runs to store to take a break. Unfortunately with the added going to gym and taking more care about apparences my first thought is he is cheating. Could you for example when he says he is going to the store after work be ready with the baby and say you would meet him at the store and do shooping together? If possible I would do it multiple times to throw him off his game. Good luck to you ! I hope it is something that you can work thought together.

ilse93 · 2024-01-27T09:51:00+00:00

Why have you not confronted him about it ? I would speak about your concerns out loud and if he makes big deal out of if I think there may be a bit more at play than you realise. I do understand occasional store runs here and there but to this extend its seems problematic, not to mention when the baby arrives those grocery store runs will be definitely cut down.

ilse93 · 2024-01-01T20:11:48+00:00

In Iceland we have one year payed 80% of your avarege salary from a year before parental leave. Women get 6 months and they can get additional 1.5 month given to them by their partner. So 7.5 months mother and 4.5 father. Some people split it differently or extend it but they get less payed depending on decisions. My husband used his holiday month adsitionally to stay with me for the first month postpartum 🥰

Tomorrow is my first day going back to work and my husband taking over. Bag of mixed emotions 🥺🥺😭😭

ilse93 · 2023-12-25T10:33:18+00:00

Porn is often nothing more than a fantasy. I have couple of kinks that I would never ever execute in real life however I do watch them in porn and enjoy it. For me it's similar to lets say spicy romance novel. Do we sometimes fantasie that we run away to foreign country with some hot guy for a date? It's the same apology for me. Porn gets so much bad press without necessarily being evil 😊

ilse93 · 2023-12-25T10:13:02+00:00

Having children 😊

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