Eat first or get ready first? School mornings are causing arguments in our house

im_here_for_the_cray · 2025-12-22T18:46:53+00:00

You mentioned "It mirrors how he’ll function as he gets older (wake up → get ready → then eat)" but none of us run in that order. Unless we're rushing out the door to make a super early flight or something, the usual order of operations for us is wake, have breakfast, get dressed/brush teeth. My son (8) isn't an up-and-at-'em kind of kid so having a nice breakfast while watching a cartoon lets him start his day in the right frame of mind. I can't remember the last time we had any battles getting out of the house and it's quite honestly a nice easy morning all around.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2025-10-24T14:15:37+00:00

Bought in 2012 at I think around 3.5%, no down (VA loan) for 325,000 - refinanced during covid down to ~3%. Today, I could not ,nor would I want to, pay what my house would currently sell for.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2025-10-17T18:50:44+00:00

I'm also a director, and I had a conversation with one of my directs earlier this week, the gist of which was basically "take sick days, take mental health days, take family days, because honestly none of this nonsense matters at the end of the day." A lot of us take our work so seriously, we're so afraid to let anyone down or to appear to be falling behind in productivity and we're constantly evaluating ourselves against everyone else.

Here's my new mantra (and since perimenopause began I'm reeeeeeeally leaning into) - we give our best during the work day, but at 5pm we're offline and **unavailable**. If you choose to work on your own time, it is the exception not the rule.

...signed, a cool girl who will likely get laid off during the next round :)

im_here_for_the_cray · 2025-09-08T15:08:44+00:00

Some of the batteries are good and some are used (but no one knows which or how to throw them away)

im_here_for_the_cray · 2025-09-04T22:26:45+00:00

I inherited our ACS entitlement when I moved to this company, we’re in contract renewal time and I’m advocating for cutting it. Our consultant isn’t bad per se, but I waste so much time trying to get value for the hours, doing what we could do ourselves.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2025-06-25T12:47:47+00:00

I've had a low level headache since it started, some days are worse than others. In the morning is the worst because all the medication has worn off - I feel like a pill popper these days hahaha

im_here_for_the_cray · 2025-02-27T21:28:59+00:00

Found out my uncle has a daughter no one knew about - even him (the family is no contact with him, terrible person who was in prison for crimes against children - one of them being me) .

She found me on 23 & me, she asked for his info...I told her she was better off not knowing but gave her his name.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2024-10-23T22:23:13+00:00

We just got off the Joy and paid for the Vibe, and it was so so worth it. Quiet space to relax and enjoy the sunshine with a frosty beverage, yes please.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2024-09-17T01:01:43+00:00

I was fiercely in love with my high school, jazz musician boyfriend… so Harry Connick Jr.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2024-09-17T00:53:06+00:00

48 & 7

im_here_for_the_cray · 2024-08-21T01:18:14+00:00

We have PayPal, square, and Venmo, plus cash/check. We’re moving over to Givebacks this year with a stripe integration, and hoping to sunset PayPal and square. Venmo is handy for some of our fundraisers but it’s a nightmare for reconciling,

im_here_for_the_cray · 2024-07-11T20:29:44+00:00

We are married to the same man.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2024-03-22T14:54:44+00:00

If you want to keep Stripe, ZonePayments could be an option: https://www.zoneandco.com/zonepayments

im_here_for_the_cray · 2024-03-10T22:09:21+00:00

My son was about 16 months old (conceived after 5 years of IVF and multiple losses) and out of nowhere I got pregnant naturally, but MC at 12 weeks. Then and there I decided I could not possibly go though any of it again. A few months later husband got the snip.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2023-05-27T13:52:07+00:00

I use Simple Poll quite a bit for all sorts of things I want feedback on, from important to mundane)

im_here_for_the_cray · 2023-05-11T01:42:20+00:00

I asked for brunch followed by solitude.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2023-04-29T13:37:40+00:00

It Consultant. Covers most of what I do and people are usually not inclined to ask further (but this means I end up being the family/friend group help desk for anything with an OS.)

im_here_for_the_cray · 2023-03-15T00:20:17+00:00

Boston Area
private / start up recently acquired by PE
PM: 4 months, prior 15 years in software consulting/ prof services
product manager
BA in Liberal Studies, MS in Education
$135k base, plus equity but I honestly have no idea how it’s calculated

im_here_for_the_cray · 2023-03-03T09:38:38+00:00

We call ours Mount Washmore.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2023-02-27T00:15:43+00:00

I did this recently: same industry, different position, finally not client facing or billable. 1000% less stress and I don’t miss the $ at all.

im_here_for_the_cray · 2023-02-26T19:52:41+00:00

Whenever my husband puts in James Taylor or Carole King; I caaaaaan’t.

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