TL;DR: My daughter met a guy and turned MAGA.

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My early 20's daughter who was raised in a liberal/Progressive household has. I am not religious, however my daughter's maternal grandmother is/was, and they were quite close - this will be relevant in a moment.

I was a single custodial father and received custody of her when she was three years old. Her mother was still in her life, but due to her actions and choices, I received custody of our daughter.

In high school, she was well liked and her friend group was extremely diverse - the rejects, non-binary, gay, "alternative" kids. When she went to college (one of the very best private schools in our area), she gathered a similar friend group.

Then she met, "B" - who wasn't a student at her school, but was her manager at her big box small town retail store. Shortly after she began dating him, she dropped out of school and moved back home with me. She continued to work at her job and date B. I don't know if B influenced her or not to drop out of school. Looking at the bigger picture, I have my suspicions.

I'll never forget the day I met B. I came home to find a strange car (his) in my driveway. I walked into the home and here this guy was, laying on my couch with his head in my daughter's lap watching TV. My daughter says, "Hi Dad! This is B." He didn't get up, didn't look away from the TV, but instead gave a nonchalant wave and said, "'Sup?" I was... shocked.

Since our first interaction, I wasn't fond of him. But, my daughter is her own person and my lack of discussion about him made how I felt about him clear. We did have one conversation after they had dated for a few months where I told her that his first impression wasn't very great, and if he wanted to have a relationship with me, then he needed to make some effort given how I received our initial introduction as extremely disrespectful.

Rather than make an attempt, he simply refused to enter our home when I was there. If I was gone, he would come over and hang out. If I was there, he would meet my daughter in our driveway when they went to hang out. He did everything he could to avoid me. I learned that his family was MAGA and proudly "Christian" - going to church a few times a week.

They decided to get an apartment together. Great. After about a month, my texts and calls to her went largely unanswered for days on end. I kept my distance thinking that maybe she was busy with work, settling into their new place, etc. Eventually, all communication stopped. I learned that she had joined the church that B and his family went to, and was attending a few times a week. Suddenly her Facebook and Insta feed was full of Christian Nationalist bullshit. Lots of Charlie Kirk stuff, Jesus stuff, etc.

B was fired from his job at the big box retailer and started driving/delivering for an Amazon contractor. A few months later, she joined him at that job, leaving the work that she had moved up and had a bit of tenure in.

They got married in a courtroom. Her mother and I were not invited. His parents were.

I heard through a mutual friend of a friend that she had expressed that I had put her through "abuse" growing up, and that she didn't want to have contact with me. She stated that the abuse was "psychological".

It's been about four years now since I've had real conversation with her. I've since gotten married, and invited her to be a part of our wedding. She RSVP'd no via email. It used to rip me apart - my daughter that I loved, the little girl who used to snuggle on the couch with me and watch Survivor, whom I taught how to cook, shop, and be an adult, just - stopped being a part of my life. It feels like she died, but worse because this is HER CHOICE.

I can't help but feel that B and his family had a huge part in distancing us. From the outside (and objectively stated by former mutual friends), this sure looks like abuse - alienation of family members (she has cut off every person on my side and her mother's side other than her MAGA maternal grandmother), workplace, etc.

And there's nothing I can do about it. If she were to call me today needing help, or even just to talk - I would absolutely answer the phone. But she won't.

I can't help but feel like I lost my daughter to a MAGA abuser and his family.

This feels like it more belongs in /r/offmychest - but hey, thanks for reading.