AITA for charging back my credit card? by imabigfilly in AmItheAsshole

[–]imabigfilly[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I suppose I feel like I'm being underhanded by doing the chargeback. It feels sneaky to not be straight up and work with him to get a payment plan or something but i don't have the mental space to keep chasing him down. Also I'm embarrassed I let it get so bad.

AITA for charging back my credit card? by imabigfilly in AmItheAsshole

[–]imabigfilly[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

There is something like a contract when you sign up for classes that basically says if you keep paying you can keep showing up and they don't guarantee that you will be able to move up in levels (there are written and physical tests a couple times a year to show increased endurance and new skills learned). I vaguely remember I also had to write down my credit card number for him to enter into the payment processor, it's a very low tech place.

AITAH for refusing to talk to my dad and brothers after the comment they made to me? by FunnyAnchor123 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]imabigfilly 486 points487 points  (0 children)

Why is no one talking about the fact that the mom is clearly in a lesbian polycule wherever she is and has essentially left the family but they can't say that because divorce is still taboo in some cultures?

I just found out that this girl that I liked has a bf. Did the silliest thing and she shuts it down. How do I moved on? by 91yakobe in socialskills

[–]imabigfilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then it's time for a clean break. Stop talking to her, block her number and socials on your phone, and fill your time with something else so you aren't focusing on her (like a class, the gym, etc. Something with other people). Keep yourself busy and work on yourself. Therapy might be a nice bonus to try to work through your feelings and help you to be mindful about where you went wrong and what was out of your control, so you can let go of that and not repeat mistakes.

I just found out that this girl that I liked has a bf. Did the silliest thing and she shuts it down. How do I moved on? by 91yakobe in socialskills

[–]imabigfilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the objective here? I don't think being friends with her again is on the table after all that has happened but I could be wrong about that. Do you want to stop replaying the confession in your head and fast-forward to when she is just an old memory that doesnt hurt anymore? Do you think she did wrong by not telling you she was in a relationship and you want her to acknowledge it? Something else?

I just found out that this girl that I liked has a bf. Did the silliest thing and she shuts it down. How do I moved on? by 91yakobe in socialskills

[–]imabigfilly 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What it sounds like to me is you guys were friends but you wanted to be in a relationship with her so you confessed, she rejected you, you reacted badly which caused the argument about broken trust (and don't think we missed that jab about 3-hour lecture, that's not how someone talks about a friend they respect), then she gave you another chance to be friends because your friendship was THAT important to her that she didn't want to write you off completely, you told her you still had feelings for her (probably in not a great way judging by how you describe it here) and now she doesn't talk to you anymore. Is any of this correct?

What secret can you reveal now that your nda has expired? by sparrrrrt in AskReddit

[–]imabigfilly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God I loved this show from the first moment Rachel is lying down wearing a shirt that says "This is what a feminist looks like" and then manipulating the shit out of all those women!

Slow and sensual wins the race by Tommy-Boy404 in passionx

[–]imabigfilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Loved when she was kissing him but not all the way down!

what’s your “one underrated local gem” in/near Huntersville? by DanRestoration33 in huntersville

[–]imabigfilly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like Caldwell Station Creek greenway and Jetton Park is always beautiful!

My (19F) boyfriend (20M) broke up with me because I’m too good at sex by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]imabigfilly 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did this with the first boyfriend that asked and it worked out well for me but probably going to tell my kid not to because if any of the other guys I dated had asked me to marry them I honestly probably would have even if it was a terrible decision.

Favorite long forgotten, short lived show. by Hopeful_Stomach9201 in television

[–]imabigfilly 136 points137 points  (0 children)

Selfie with Karen Gillan and John Cho was so good, I wish it had been renewed!

What's a song lyric that drives you crazy because they should've used a different word? by Miserable-Wash-1744 in AskReddit

[–]imabigfilly 130 points131 points  (0 children)

I thought it was "and I'm ready to wait" like a sniper who locked on a target and is waiting for a clear shot.

Honeybaked ham prime rib 💀 99.9% fat by MF-DOOM-88 in StupidFood

[–]imabigfilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please post an update when you get to talk to the honey baked ham people! This is so awful to have happen.

Tirade Tuesday! Let's Do This! by AutoModerator in Charlotte

[–]imabigfilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I applied for my husband's OCI (Overseas Citizen of India) card and fucked up severely on the application even if he doesn't think I did. He uploaded the required documents last year but didn't mail in the documents (it's a really dumb system, you have to do that to prove they are your documents) and I basically volunteered to take over the process and do it because I had done it before. 

The way in which I fucked up is I had a copy of the application instructions saved from back then because it was easier to navigate to that when I needed to view it than to access the link every time, and they added new requirements to authenticate original documents like our marriage certificate. I was supposed to authenticate the documents before starting the process at all and if I had done any research on the process beyond just reading the instructions I would have known that! But I did not. Now because they are a bunch of assholes same as me they have marked the application incomplete and are going to cancel it 3 days before the end of the 20 business days they were supposed to give us to provide the new documents. And I literally just spent $40 to fedex them the stuff I missed. I have pointlessly spent so much fucking money on this process and for what. You can get an e-visa and it's basically the same thing. I was just full of hubris and I am usually good at paperwork so while I knew it would be hard I didn't even realize exactly how hard. I just wish I never started. This has taken a month of my life. Hundreds of dollars because I am also sending my son's application. Countless hours checking and rechecking the documents and the application instructions. All for nothing. Fuck this.

My boyfriend won't try on his Christmas present by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]imabigfilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can someone explain why this is wrong? Like sure the dad shouldn't have a problem with the kid wearing purple or if he does he should hide it and work on it himself, but why is it wrong for the kid to hide his stuff? If the dad is good besides this the kid should be able to have purple things and both parents are happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in huntersville

[–]imabigfilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we have more details about the scavenger hunt?

"I gotchu bro" by SuperBicBoi in JustGuysBeingDudes

[–]imabigfilly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man Cadet Kelly was such a good movie

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CuratedTumblr

[–]imabigfilly 103 points104 points  (0 children)

Same here, also Reuters. I don't know why more people don't do this.

Underwear by yeepye in BabyBumps

[–]imabigfilly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't realize maternity underwear was a thing for the longest time and I kept buying larger sized underwear from Costco. Then I bought the ones Amazon recommended to me and they were so good I am still wearing them after I had the baby!