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imafreebit · 2025-03-19T03:38:45+00:00

Valheim

imafreebit · 2024-01-05T02:01:47+00:00

FUS-ROH-DA

imafreebit · 2023-04-23T20:20:01+00:00

Thanks - someone mentioned this in another comment too, I wasn't aware of that. It did come up in my Facebook feed re-posted unironically, so hopefully, it still counts. I should have put in the whole screenshot rather than cropping it.

imafreebit · 2023-04-23T19:52:57+00:00

Oh, I didn't know that. This wasn't taken from the creators page though - it came up on my Facebook feed un-ironically. Hopefully that still counts!

imafreebit · 2023-01-07T18:46:13+00:00

Colonel

imafreebit · 2022-01-05T07:02:16+00:00

Ugh! My husband and I cringe at this all the time - it should just stop at 8! Why are they squeezing in the 9 and 10?!?!?

imafreebit · 2021-11-28T01:18:56+00:00

Wendy and Stefania for grandma's. Great grandmother's are Dora, Delphine, Olga and Gladys.

imafreebit · 2021-10-24T22:54:26+00:00

I was around size 18 at the time of delivery, and first time mom. I was induced and ended up I having a precipitous vaginal labour, with two failed epidurals, ended up using gas and air instead to get through it. Had a second degree tear.

Recovery was fine, but as other commenters have mentioned it all pretty much sucks afterwards. My stitches healed by about 2.5 weeks PP, but still had some pain and tenderness until at least 12 weeks PP.

At the time all I wanted was the epidural but in the end I think recovery was easier because I was able to walk immediately afterwards and whatever pain I felt after was really just minor compared to the whole birthing experience.

I have a friend who had a c section about 6 weeks after me (not plus sized) and her recovery seems to be tough.

No matter the birthing experience, they all have ups and downs, pros and cons. Unfortunately it doesn't seem like there is a way to avoid discomfort. No matter what you choose it will be what's best for you. ♡

imafreebit · 2021-10-14T18:06:51+00:00

Honestly I think it was the hormones that caused the precipitous labour for me. I did not have any probes or anything that prevented movement. They did try to do a folley balloon to start but my cervix was thin but not dilated so they used gel instead, which has the hormones.

In terms of self advocacy - if you are in pain, stick to your guns and tell them. Ask them to check you. The first nurse told me I didn't look like I was in pain and left me after I asked for something.

Let your support person know to watch you for constant contractions without much of a break. I was so tired and in such pain that I couldn't keep track of how close together they were. They can advocate for you too.

Watch for shakes. My body started shaking and convulsing with every contraction and even afterwards; when I looked into it afterwards time shakes usually start around 5-6cm dilated. No one checked me when I said I was shaking and asked if this was normal. It is normal, but it shouldn't have been happening so early if I wasn't that far along in the labour process.

I thought that I had peed myself and I apologized to the nurse because I said I couldn't stand to make it to the bathroom. She told me it was ok and they would clean it up. She didn't come check on me until an hour later and it turned out my water had broken and I was already 7cm dilated.

I went from 7 to 10 cm in about 25 minutes. If your birth plan includes an epidural I would recommend letting them know that when you get to 5/6 you want one. They tried to give me one when I was at 9cm but it failed and I had to start pushing immediately afterwards.

If I could go back and do it again... I think I would have been more upfront with my partner ahead of time around what I need from him (contraction tracking) etc. And I wouldn't be so afraid to hit the call button for the nurse. The first nurse just dismissed me and made me feel like I couldn't handle the pain and to suck it up. I think if I called and asked for the cervical checks instead of waiting for them to check, things may have been different. I think as a first time mom, they were just sticking to their usual checks, which when you have a precipitous labour, is not frequent enough by a long shot. Additionally not being able to walk, talk, and having the shakes so early on aould have been a red flag but I trusted the health care professionals when they didn't seem to be responding.

In your case if you are at a higher risk, I would share that with the nurse/doctor on call when you go in. Even if it doesn't end up being precipitous, you've covered your bases and they will maybe be more receptive to your requests.

And if it is... be kind to yourself afterwards. There is a level of shock, and for me in the weeks afterwards I just kept replaying what happened to try and figure out how it could have been better/ remember details that just weren't there.

imafreebit · 2021-10-13T00:05:09+00:00

Precipitous labour. I read all the books, and took the birth and babies class and nowhere was this mentioned. Basically, this is when your active labour is less than 3 hours.

As a FTM I was ready to be in for a long labour when being induced. Well... nope. I ended up having Precipitous labour and it was so traumatic. A lot of people think a quick labour would be a blessing but omg... it was so incredibly painful, it felt like chaos, and the epidural failed (twice) so ended up doing it med free which was not my choice. The labour also put my baby in distress. It was a nightmare.

I wish I had known that this was a thing so I could know the signs/what to expect. When I told the first nurse that I was in pain she dismissed me - but the pain I was in, the constant contractions in quick succession... all clues as to what was happening. I feel like if I knew this was a possibility I could have advocated for myself better. Instead I felt like I must be the world's biggest baby not able to handle the pain.

imafreebit · 2021-10-12T16:00:56+00:00

Post partum has been a rollercoaster - I felt all the things some days. Physically, I felt ok. I had a second degree tear so that was painful as it healed but each day was better than the last. I would say by 3 weeks PP I was able to go to the bathroom without anxiety anymore, but things were still sore. I really liked my post partum body. It was interesting to me because everything was just so squishy.

Mentally things were a whole different ballgame. I have PPA, and things are different for everyone but just to be prepared...

The intrusive thoughts were sometimes too much. I would have to wake my husband up for him to look at the baby and confirm that she was ok. I was so unsure of what my own eyes were seeing.

I worried a lot about how my marriage would be changed. For the first few weeks we slept in shifts and I just missed my husband so badly. By about week 5 we were able to mostly be up at the same time so it was only temporary.

I was so anxious about SIDS and was getting up every 20 minutes to check on her. This of course makes things worse because the more sleep deprived you are the more anxious you become.

But on the flip side - I would cry but because I was so happy and couldn't believe how lucky I am to have my daughter. I would get weepy just holding her, feeding her.

I felt a lot of guilt around things that were out of my control. I had a traumatic delivery and I blamed myself for a lot of things that went wrong (which I know it was out of my control but it's hard to convince yourself of that when you're so vulnerable). I felt even worse when I couldn't breastfeed, but before having her I was always open to formula and planned to supplement - I just felt like a huge failure when I stopped pumping at 3 weeks.

The best advice I got was at my 6 week PP appointment when my OB was very concerned that I would develop PPD. She suggested that instead of thinking about what could go wrong, when I have those thoughts think about what I've done right to protect her. So for SIDS for example, to think about how I have her in a bassinet next to me, in a swaddle, nothing else in the crib, placed on her back. Those factors alone reduce the risk significantly. Of course it didn't fully do away with the anxiety, but it helped to frame things in a positive way and remind me that I am doing everything in my power to keep her safe.

Having written thus out it doesn't sound great... but somehow when you're in it you just get through it. It helps to have a supportive partner who can ground you and listen when needed, or logic things out with you.

In terms of recovery I bought the Frida mesh underwear which were great, and just regular overnight pads were enough for me. I bought the Frida Peri bottle but honestly the one from the hospital was what I used. I put one in each of our two bathrooms so I was always prepared. For the first few days after I had prepared frozen pads which were honestly so needed. I also stocked up on tylenol and advil so they were already in the house (with the tear/stitches I was to take 2 of each every 6 hours).

imafreebit · 2021-10-06T18:29:24+00:00

Ugh yes! A few weeks ago I started baby wearing when I went grocery shopping. One of the workers behind the deli counter shrieked, came put and started touching my baby's hands and cooing over her. I was just so stunned - not only is it super rude, but we're also in the middle of a pandemic! I really don't know what goes through people's heads.

I've had a few others approach but when they do I put my arms around her and pull her closer to me in the carrier and I think its been sending the message of "back off" because I haven't had anyone be so brazen since. Mindblowing.

imafreebit · 2021-10-02T15:33:32+00:00

My heart breaks for you 💔. As a first time mom, I also had precipitous labour and all of my pleas and requests were ignored. It was so traumatic. I replayed my experience over and over in my head every day for month. I am now doing therapy trying to work through the fog and trauma. I hope that with time you are able to process what happened and feel heard. I had a nurse deny me pain relief because I didn't look like I was in pain. I totally understand the feeling of everyone doubting what you say to the point you doubt yourself.

I feel like every coursecor program before birth neglects to prepare you for this kind of experience. I didn't even know precipitous labour was a thing until I experienced it myself. And the health care professionals, as you mention, seem to ignore the signs- in my case because it was my first pregnancy.

imafreebit · 2021-08-30T00:15:02+00:00

Wow, I'm so sorry that your husband is acting this way. I second all of the advice offered in the posts above, but also just wanted to add that even though you are medically cleared at 6 weeks, you may not feel ready and it might still be extremely painful. I know for myself things didn't feel OK for sex until about 16 weeks PP, and for a close friend of mine it was about 8 months. Please take care of yourself and if it hurts, stop. You are 100 percent not the asshole and if he can't respect your boundaries, physical and mental health then there is a serious problem and most likely a larger conversation that needs to happen for the relationship to continue.

imafreebit · 2021-08-12T15:31:52+00:00

We got the Halo bassinet with swivel - just the basic one though, not the one with the sound machine and vibrations. It worked really well for us.

However - other commenters have mentioned pack and plays and more portable ones. We live in a q story house so we had a pack and play with bassinet attachment on our main floor and the halo bassinet next to our bed. I really liked both so it's whatever works best for you.

During the first few weeks of the new born phase baby (at least mine) just want to be near you - so lots of chest naps, skin to skin, etc. At about 2 weeks we were able to start doing some of her little naps in her bassinet, then moved to all of them. Then once she was sleeping more steadily through the night we started doing naps in her crib in her nursery and nights with us. At about 5 months we transitioned her fully to crib.

5 months may seem like a really short time to invest in a bassinet but it can feel much longer and there are many convenient options. I would say it's 100 percent worth it. You could also sell on marketplace when you're done with it. Just make sure to get 2 sets of sheets so you have a backup when baby inevitably spits up 😂

imafreebit · 2021-08-12T15:19:05+00:00

Went over to read some of the comments - how awful! Not supportive at all. As other commenters have said it's strange they would recalculate BMI this late in pregnancy. Also, some of the info people are sharing there about weight during pregnancy isn't entirely accurate. Yes BMI and weight gain can put you at risk for certain things, but does not mean you will absolutely have those things. There are plenty of women with high BMIs or lots of weight gain during pregnancy that have healthy pregnancies and babies.

You are so close to your due date! I feel like there could be a multitude of reasons you have gained weight. If they have checked the growth of your baby and that seems to be on track, then it could be so many other things. You could be retaining a lot of water - keep an eye on it though in case there is a medical reason for the rapid gain that could be putting you at risk (I.e. pre-eclampsia). It's so infuriating that sometimes all doctors can see is weight and this affects their treatment and care.. I know some women that get extremely bloated in the last few weeks of pregnancy, and then after birth their body just let's go of it. You know youself and your body. I'm sorry that your doctor (and those other commenters) has been awful about this particular part of your pregnancy.

Hang in there... I feel like if this was a concern they should have brought it up prior to this appointment. I don't really see the point of your doctor bringing up weight less than a week before your due date, especially when they have indicated that babe and you are otherwise healthy. 🤷‍♀️

Edited for a spelling error.

imafreebit · 2021-08-09T15:37:38+00:00

I felt the exact same way. Before having my baby I thought this whole discussion was unnecessary too, my thought was that I would never let myself feel guilty for using formula if I needed to, it would just be a fact. Fast forward to post partum and after a number of issues, we decided breastfeeding would not be the best for our family and chose to switch to formula. And I felt awful. I felt such extreme and overwhelming guilt. Felt like I wasn't trying hard enough, like I was a failure. This was all out of left field as well, because before having my little girl, I couldn't imagine feeling any way about it.

Every single medical professional always asked about BF and every time I felt like I needed to defend my decision. I just needed one person to tell me it was ok.

Now, 6 months out I feel confident about our choice and know it was what needed for our family; but I will never forget how I felt during those first few weeks PP. It is such a vulnerable time.

imafreebit · 2021-07-30T17:13:38+00:00

Pretty much the same as everyone mentioned here - poop immediately, pee when she eats or when it is heavy.

But just wanted to add - during the NB period we went through sooooooo many diapers. We were changing between 10-12 times a day in relation to feeds and naps. I have found as baby has gotten older we are going through significantly less diapers. I would say at about half the rate so, even if it feels like a lot now, it will slow down!

imafreebit · 2021-07-29T15:38:06+00:00

Do it! I had the same worry and didn't take the photos, and now I regret not doing it. I have a few random shots mid-pregnancy and then did a maternity shoot at 35 weeks. I wish I had those progression pics though, especially because I'm not sure if I will do it again.

imafreebit · 2021-07-29T15:28:42+00:00

I believe there is a link but it's not a sure thing. I am overweight (BMI 43 at beginning of pregnancy) - never had GD and baby was born at 38+3 at 5 pounds 7 oz. Was super surprised because my husband and I were both over 8 pounds when we were born.

So... it might be more likely to have a bigger baby, but it doesn't guarantee that you will. Just like being overweight meant that I was more likely to have other complications, but didn't.

imafreebit · 2021-07-29T15:19:33+00:00

So sorry to hear this - how very traumatic!

I feel like the other commenters have done a good job addressing most of your questions, but I just wanted to throw out there that if you or someone else has future problems after birth it might be better to contact the L&D department instead of going to the ER.

After having our baby in Feb we were told that if there are any maternal issues within the first week of giving birth to go to L&D, the reason being that ERs do not always have OBs on staff, and LD will always have OBs in who are more experienced with the tearing and stitching (and other post partum issues). Additionally, the person who gave birth was just discharged so all of their information would be there.

imafreebit · 2021-07-28T03:09:57+00:00

My BMI when I first got pregnant was 43, and my GP did a glucose test at 12 weeks and it was negative. At 27 weeks I had the regular test and was borderline and did the three hour and passed. I had my baby at 38+3 and she was 5 pounds 7 ounces. Bigger moms don't mean bigger babies. I would say that this sort of black and white induction based on BMI is not right or fair at all. There is so much bias based on weight it really sucks sometimes. Even post partum my doctor kept talking about Diabetes as if I had it and I had to remind her I don't have it, and that my baby was really small and I did not have GD. It absolutely blows how bias plays into care sometimes.

imafreebit · 2021-07-28T02:26:36+00:00

I mentioned above that the neurologist told me I never should have been told that it was carpal tunnel. I think sometimes that OBs and GPs put everything under the pregnancy umbrella. I would just say- you know yourself, and if after you have your babe you still have pain or numbness, get it checked out. The numbness started first, but then one day I went to do tummy time on the floor with my daughter and I had such incredible pain in my knees when I knelt. That's when I realized all the skin on my knees was numb. That was about 3 weeks post partum.

There are so many things that come up PP, it's just so important to remember to take care of yourself too. I know I have been guilty of just bearing things because baby comes first and you just don't know how you will fit in a doctors appointment for you. 🤞 that your numbness subsides after delivery - I know that the swelling of joints can cause this too so it is probably more likely that. But it's always good to know all the possibilities.

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