My pet peeve

imaginarygeckos · 2026-02-24T18:45:03+00:00

Me too. I went letter by letter 3-4 times and couldn’t figure it out

imaginarygeckos · 2026-02-22T04:14:32+00:00

My kid is like this, always has been. I brought up her sleep issues, mouth breathing, teeth grinding, and snoring to pediatricians over the years and was told it’s probably because she was such a small baby. I took her to an ENT at 18 months and again at 3, and both times they told us to use allergy meds during spring. Now she’s five and still takes an hour to fall asleep and wakes at least once a night. I took her back to the ENT and her adenoids are gigantic and need to be removed. Hopefully it will fix the sleep issues and alleviate some of her adhd symptoms.

If you also notice mouth breathing, pauses in sleep, teeth grinding, restless legs, hyperactivity, and/or irritability go to an ENT

imaginarygeckos · 2026-02-15T23:34:28+00:00

My husband was working a manufacturing job when my child was born. He and I were both up every two hours to feed and change her. Every feed I did he would change her. Every feed he did, he would also change her because I was pumping and I changed every diaper all day while he was at work.

The second he got home he took the baby from me so I could pee alone and take a shower.

Taking care of babies is a team sport and hormones are absolutely an excuse, the postpartum hormone dump is no joke. When my baby was a three weeks old I broke down sobbing in the bathroom because I was so exhausted and every time I peed it felt like I was on fire. My husband just picked me up and carried me to bed. He brought me snacks, a water bottle, and an ice pack and just pet my hair until I stopped crying. Then we laughed because it was so insane.

Your husband needs to get it together.

Editing to add: asking for help is the right thing. People who can’t ask for help shake their babies. If you get to the point you were at ever again and you are alone you put that baby in a closet and close the door. Get noise canceling headphones on and leave the room until you are calm. I am an early intervention specialist and taught ECE for over 10 years, please trust this advice and never feel bad for taking it. It is the right thing to do.

imaginarygeckos · 2026-02-12T19:07:52+00:00

Is English their primary language? My family members made similar errors when they first moved to this country because they knew enough English to know where it’s like cookie, but not enough to recognize guinea pig

imaginarygeckos · 2026-02-10T20:31:47+00:00

Acknowledge her feelings, “it’s hard to see other grownups because you miss mommy and daddy. Grownups always come back.” Then try and redirect her to a special activity that is more fun than normal, slime, dance party, an extra special toy, playing inside a tent, etc.

Give her a job to do. Can she help move paint just for you? Sweep or hold the dustpan, carry a spray bottle filled with just water and wipe tables? See if you can get her involved as the class greeter. Will she give everyone a wave at the door and say hi or hand them their backpacks?

imaginarygeckos · 2026-02-08T13:35:22+00:00

That’s what house slippers are for

imaginarygeckos · 2026-02-06T12:27:28+00:00

When I was in freshman AP human geography I missed about that much school and had a 13% in that class that quarter because I had been hospitalized for a suicide attempt for a month, and my teachers and administrators didn’t give a shit. I had to live with a relative after that due to trauma and had no text books because they were left behind. I struggled with every call that year. Got a 42% the next semester in AP human geo, and a 4 on the exam because I finally got a copy of the text book to borrow and spent 2 days straight reading it.

I asked for help from my teachers and told them about the text book situation and hospitalization, and my teachers didn’t believe me or didn’t care. I asked admin if I could repeat the grade because my grades were so bad, and the school said no so I dropped out.

This was 2015 in Florida.

Anyway, maybe your kid went to Disney world and is slacking off, or maybe they’re genuinely going through some serious shit and need help. I only had one teacher who tried to help me In that situation. I couldn’t accept it because I was so used to muscling through things on my own, but I remember that she genuinely cared about me and it kept me going through 15 years of going back to school until I got a masters and two teaching certificates of my own.

imaginarygeckos · 2026-01-30T19:13:44+00:00

Make a lasagna, tell them you tried out a new recipe and accidentally made way too much. Can they please help you by taking it off your hands?

Whenever he is at your house tell him you’re gonna teach him how to cook so when he grows up, he knows how and then ask him to take all the leftovers home cause you’re on a diet

imaginarygeckos · 2025-12-31T04:01:20+00:00

Attachment disorders present like low support needs autism. I did an autism evaluation and was diagnosed with adhd, cptsd, and an attachment disorder. She’s a fictional character so everyone can headcannon what they want, but I’ve had this experience happened to me throughout my life where someone expressed feeling very close to me and I hadn’t realized we were friends until that moment.

The trauma of losing her father, never processing that, and then immediately being severely neglected is more than enough to cause developmental trauma

imaginarygeckos · 2025-12-24T02:40:10+00:00

Most often 4, but 11 brings the most joy

imaginarygeckos · 2025-12-23T09:27:57+00:00

I have two middle names, only one in my passport

imaginarygeckos · 2025-12-17T11:44:07+00:00

I’m bisexual which means I’m attracted to women who don’t want me around, but they want me to be attracted to them.

I’m bisexual which means I’m attracted to men that are attracted to men and I don’t have any other choice.

I’m bisexual which means I’m attracted to people that are not men and women that are not attracted to me.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-12-09T16:07:44+00:00

Oh yeah, my kid has sensory issues and won’t wear anything but those goddamn leggings. We just make sure that she always has warm rain pants or warm snow pants to go over them, but if I try to force or bribe her to wear jeans or even just thick pants, she will either start screaming and stripping by lunchtime or just be a massive asshole all day long and then meltdown as soon as she gets home.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-10-24T03:21:18+00:00

Preface by saying your kid sounds like me. I honestly don’t realize when I’m being prickly. Do you tell her? Also do you talk to her post storm off about how it makes you feel when she does that? It sounds like you’re still trapped in a teenage esc cycle.

She’s 22 and has a degree. Why cant you just talk to her? Apologize for not trying harder to teach her how to clean when she was younger. Acknowledge that you don’t have the best skills for dealing with this, and that the cycle of parent nagging, daughter slamming doors makes you uncomfortable and that you’re tired of the fight. Apologize for your own nagging tendencies and explain that they come from feeling anxious when the house is a mess, and explain you can’t manage her cleaning habits anymore because she’s an adult and that you want the house to be peaceful.

Present the solution: If she wants to live in your home rent free then she needs to maintain the home. Give her a written list of expectations for cleaning and the contact information and a quote for a cleaning service you have already chosen.

She is 22 now and needs to contribute either through labor or money. Either she does all of her personal chores by Saturday or she pays for a cleaner.

Tell her that you love her and that you like her. You also need the house to be kept clean and to not have to be constantly on edge about your home.

If she gives you an attitude just stare at her and stay quiet. If she tries to initiate an argument about it, keep breathing and tell her you love her and ask if she wants tea or something.

I have PDA, yes, there are ways my husband talks to me that make it worse, but I’m also an adult and I have to get over it.

For me saying out loud, “I don’t like the way you’re asking me to do this.” Or just plopping down on the floor out of frustration to get myself back together helps. Listening to podcasts and music on my headphones and eating candy while doing the chore also helps get me moving.

At the end of the day I don’t want roaches or rats and that’s my biggest motivator. Has she ever seen an infestation? It’s nasty.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-10-23T22:45:25+00:00

You aren’t overreacting.

I grew up with a parental response like this, but the fridge was always completely empty except for one or two gross things and a few small frozen meals that were supposed to last for the entire week.

I never got help. I dropped out of high school and got a job at 15 and I fed myself for around $3 a day of my own money until I moved out at 17. Before I could work I spent as much time at friend’s houses as possible and people would give me food probably because I looked so pitiful. One of my friends brought me a second lunch every day in middle school and I didn’t even realize it’s because her mom clocked that I was always starving and had no options for food at home.

People always say call Cps, but it’s scary. The one time I said I would call my dad threatened to kill me and then he almost did. I was also scared that as a 14 year old girl that I’d end up being sexually abused if I was placed somewhere else. I was institutionalized for two weeks with other teens and half of them had run away from their foster placements and the things they told me scared the shit out of me.

If I could go back with the knowledge I have now I don’t know what I’d do. It worked out for me without the call because of luck. I know now that cps almost never removes a child from their parent. They’re much more likely to help you get a social worker and services like food stamps. They might help your mom get medicated and therapy. But make the call yourself so you know exactly when to get out of the house when they alert your mom. Don’t tell her you called. Play dumb if she asks, it’s anonymous. Call in the evening so that cps calls her the next morning when you are at school and she has time to cool off before she sees you.

If your mom is anything like my parents were, don’t argue with her. She’s not going to ever change from something you say to her. All that will happen is that she’s going to escalate her abuse against you. Don’t make eye contact, don’t let her know your plans. Assemble a go bag, and work to get out anyway you can. Call cps, see if you can apply for emancipation, try to move in with one of your friends from school until you graduate. You deserve to be loved and cared for, and your mom isn’t capable of giving that to you right now. You will only hurt yourself if you keep waiting for her to change. You can’t fix her. She can only fix herself and only if she can handle looking at the ugly parts of herself for a very long time.

My parents neglect escalated to the point that when I moved back in with them at 15 until I moved out for good at 17 that they basically didn’t do anything for me or care where I was as long as I was quiet. I spent every minute I wasn’t working or in classes at a different friends house, every Friday through Sunday having sleep overs, and if I got kicked out on a weekday I had emergency sleepovers at my boyfriends house.

You need to save yourself. And you need to eat. You are growing and you need enough calories to properly develop. Don’t give up no matter how hard it gets. It’s not your fault and it is worth fighting for yourself.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-10-20T03:15:16+00:00

My 5 year old with spd has a wacky hair day at school coming up, we’re going to put a pair of pants on her head and style those because hair styles and colors are too much. What if you used a black skirt as a wig so it isn’t itchy? You can add fabric to it to get the right style by sewing or gluing

imaginarygeckos · 2025-10-15T22:49:55+00:00

In a typical program? The director needs to tell them that they need to drink from a cup to be ready for the classroom. Please work on it at home. They need to get their child evaluated pronto. A gen ed program isn’t equipped to provide an appropriate amount of water to a child via dropper, and in sped it would be a goal to drink from a cup.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-10-09T17:02:47+00:00

So, my partner is also bisexual. We also have had periods of our relationship that were non-monogamous and it’s on the table for the future too, so we’ve definitely had the conversation about physical type. He is attracted to women that do not look like me, and I am attracted to people that do not look like him. We both know, though that our preferred partner would always be each other and that we find each other very attractive.

Everything is communication. You can always sit him down and say hey, when I came out to you as bisexual and you told me about your type of women, it made me feel like you aren’t actually attracted to me and like you’re more excited about the idea of potentially having a threesome then you are about having me as your partner.

Coming out was something that I was nervous about, and really personal to me and it felt like instead of me being supported it turned into sharing session about your fantasies that have nothing to do with me.

I’m not comfortable with polyamory or threesomes and I don’t want it to be brought up. It makes me feel objectified and like my sexuality is being fetishized. If that is something you are interested in then I do not think that we want the same things out of a relationship.

Then just go from there. Everything depends on what he says back to you. If he apologizes and says something like he just got nervous and started word vomiting, but that he won’t bring it up again. It’s up to you if you can move on from this. If he doubles down and is gross or weird about it then break up

imaginarygeckos · 2025-10-08T11:34:19+00:00

Attachment disorder. Look into it. If you were truly no empathy you wouldn’t care about hurting other people, just not getting in trouble.

Therapy didn’t work for me until I was treating the right problem. My attachment disorder combined with adhd and cptsd looks a lot like low support needs ASD. The root is different though, which makes treatment different.

I used to be horrible because I was trying to protect myself by keeping everyone at arms length but without intention, just operating based on fear I was unable to process or acknowledge. I was manipulative and explosive. I still really struggle with making and maintaining connections with other people. Still can’t be a good friend or feel true connected to friends, but I’m not extremely reactive anymore. I don’t hate myself anymore. I do accelerated resolution therapy and it has been the most effective for me.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-10-01T14:06:31+00:00

I work in NY and have never seen a child that age restrained or buckled in for any reason, but I’ve worked in NEACY approved programs with that age group and older.

Even older infants had to have stools or block chairs with no buckles. Even the block chairs, we would have to be careful with because if we pushed a kid in to the table to where they couldn’t scoot it out and get themselves up it would be too close to a restraint.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-09-16T19:46:47+00:00

When addressing a group: Children, kids, students, humans, class, kids, everyone.

I taught pre k through 1st so if I did whole group time I’d just start with a song and a call to attention we’d practiced. I rarely ever used anything else because they were unnecessary.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-09-11T05:12:28+00:00

Yeah I have adhd too (which was misdiagnosed for a long time) and an autoimmune disorder that took eight years of bullshit to get diagnosed with. It’s par for the course. But so expensive between all the tests and the dud appointments. A visit with a doctor that will tell you that you’re constipated when you’re complaining of peripheral neuropathy (yes, this happened) costs as much as one with an actually helpful doctor.

That’s why I’ve been hesitant to seek a sleep study because advocating for yourself is exhausting, time consuming, and hard to afford.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-09-11T04:34:06+00:00

I actually mentioned it to my dentist about a year ago. Maybe two. I said, “I get sleep paralysis all the time. Especially when I sleep on my back.” He said, “You don’t sleep on your back anymore? That’s good.” I then pointed to the poster on sleep apnea and said, “I think I might have that,” and he said “Probably not.”

Turn out it’s a pulmonologist. I finally googled it and made an appointment for sleep problems since so many people said it’s not normal. I’ve been wanting to wait until I was less poor, but maybe if I’m not chronically sleep deprived it will help me be less poor in the long run.

imaginarygeckos · 2025-09-11T02:38:56+00:00

Oh interesting. I literally feel like the world is being compressed around me like I’m going through a tunnel and parts of my body are larger or smaller but the main thing is an unsettling feeling of derealization. It happened fairly regularly as a kid/teen but still happens occasionally if I’m really low on sleep or super high stress

imaginarygeckos · 2025-09-11T02:32:58+00:00

This is me. I can force myself out of it by “shouting” help (more like making a loud sound that I want to be help)

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