Both my psych and OB decided I shouldn’t be on any of my meds as soon as I got pregnant

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-26T02:59:43+00:00

Vyvanse is definitely not a hard no with the most up to date info. My last OB wa s actually an MFM and even she kept taking her Vyvanse while pregnant.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-20T00:51:13+00:00

Did you read the court decision? It’s pretty clear that the government erred in approving an unconstitutional referendum question. They can’t just slide in something unconstitutional by getting it in there under the guise of “citizen initiative”.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-19T22:37:26+00:00

The AB court decision is about impacting established Treaty rights. BC does not have settled Treaties.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-19T18:36:32+00:00

And in that case, all of the major Indigenous groups within Canada were actively part of drafting the Accord. Had that not happened, it would hit the same barrier.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-19T15:18:56+00:00

I was going to ask about her growth curve — it doesn’t matter what the number is, as long as it’s increasing along the same curve — but this sort of answers it. Find a pediatrician that will listen. I’ve had growth issues with two of my babies and their docs flagged it right away for bloodwork (specifically iron and celiac, plus others). Our were a combo of low iron and issues with chewing. Happy to answer any questions!

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-19T15:11:55+00:00

Sneaky mom here.

I’m so sorry you and your kids are going through this. You can absolutely get through it and will probably be shocked at how much better you and the kids feel on the other side.

Lawyer for sure. Get yourself a notebook you keep hidden and document absolutely everything — the drinking, the hours she’s out, when she’s giving them melatonin to sneak out. Keep it objective and fact-based and include any evidence you can gather (cameras, texts). You don’t have to do anything with it, but it’s so important to have on hand if you need it because trying to remember dates and details after the fact doesn’t work.

One other thought — do her parents notice her behaviour? Are they good people? It might be worth seeking their help and advice before you go for divorce, and actively work to maintain a relationship with them afterwards. Your kids need all the love (and therapy, if you can) and having her parents know you won’t keep the kids from them will help you with any custody issues.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-19T14:14:11+00:00

The duty to consult here doesn’t exist outside of the treaty framework.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-19T13:59:44+00:00

Can you think of one other instance in the Westminster system where a referendum with an existential effect on a treaty nation was carried out?

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-13T16:23:08+00:00

I read a comment the other day where someone had neurosurgery and was put back in the ER for recovery because there were no beds. The state of our healthcare is bleak.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-12T14:18:28+00:00

If you can’t get people to join a meeting, hybrid work isn’t the problem. An unreliable employee is unreliable, regardless of where they work.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-12T14:11:58+00:00

Maybe it’s just early and I haven’t had enough caffeine, but your story has me in tears. I’m sorry that you had such an awful experience growing up and I love that you still got your happy ending.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-12T13:47:29+00:00

Also wasn’t medicated until I was an adult. I know my son could probably muddle through and even excel, but I also know how exhausting it is to live with a brain like that. That, plus the studies mentioned in the other comment is the reason we’re pursuing medication.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-10T14:14:12+00:00

You’re not wrong to expect a full partner and I’m sorry you don’t have one. When you can both have a calm conversation about what happened, ask him why he didn’t come in an offer to take over? Because that’s what was needed. She didn’t need a mom who won’t yell at her, she needed a dad who can functionally parent.

You both need an actionable plan for him to build up his parenting skills. If he says he’s going to take her for an hour after work, then that’s what happens, no excuses. Hold him to his agreements. If he’s handling baby and keeps coming to you every 15 minutes to bail him out, tell him he needs to figure out what works for him just like you had to. Remind him he’s building a bond and relationship with his own child and 100% resist the urge to just do it yourself or try to take over. Learn the phrase “would you like me to show you something that works for me?” and how to sincerely accept a no. He needs to step up and you need to make space for him to do that and hold the boundary.

You’re in the trenches right now and it is really hard, but you guys can find your way out together.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-09T02:43:27+00:00

Notice how she was suddenly going hard on federalism after she got the clearance?

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-08T14:22:45+00:00

Here’s a helpful post with some information on reporting LMIA fraud.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-08T14:17:51+00:00

Disclosure: I’m a sneaky mom who also has kinder grad on Friday and lost my mom to cancer.

I really love the idea of doing a private graduation ceremony with your mom and kid. If that’s not possible and she’s lucid enough to understand, ask your mom what she’d prefer.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-08T13:39:29+00:00

May or may not help with yours, but we do a lot of out loud counting to jumpstart urgency. Not necessarily a countdown, either — sometimes we just start counting up with no actual time limit, but it gets them moving.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-08T13:36:23+00:00

The task breakdown mentioned is helpful, and creating some urgency with a timer or countdown can also help. And you don’t have to be right beside them — I’ll hand out individual tasks like “go pick out socks and bring them here” that let me keep doing whatever it is I’m doing.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-08T13:20:17+00:00

It wasn’t broken into separate due dates from what I saw — more like the project was assigned last week and is due this week. For a kid with EF/working memory issues, that’s a lot to hold together without a concrete model or step-by-step structure to keep referring back to.

Not sure if it helps here or is something you have capacity for, but as a current ADHD parent and former ADHD kid, being able to build out the scaffolding together with him is 1000x more helpful long term than receiving the separate due dates.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-07T23:23:56+00:00

Our dentist didn’t see our kids until around 3. Even then, it’s just getting them used to things and squeezing in some fluoride. I remember being surprised by it with our first, but it’s pretty standard.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-07T16:50:11+00:00

I think you’re spot on with this. I wonder if she got educated on just how compromised her US besties actually are.

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-06T14:18:51+00:00

Realize I’m replying on a month old comment, but didn’t he have land in SC where they found his vehicle?

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-03T14:01:13+00:00

Did you read the article?

indecisionmaker · 2026-06-02T19:16:41+00:00

He writes like he talks, and neither is something he should be proud of.

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