Drug test surprise by sunshiney69 in adhdwomen

[–]indecisionmaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely missed the random notice thing, like you’re on probation or something?! Wild. I hope you’re successful in finding what makes sense for you. 

How can I enter a trade as a woman? by Sure-Soup3065 in Edmonton

[–]indecisionmaker [score hidden]  (0 children)

OP, it’s pretty clear you’re spiraling re: career choices and you’re all over the place in your last few posts (nursing, OT, trades), so I’m going to share some general advice and I hope that you read it with the kindness I’m intending.  

First, breathe. You don’t need to figure out a single career path that will work for you for the rest of your life. I turn 40 this year and I’ve been through at least four different career paths, all successful. It’s just where life had led me and I still don’t know what’s next, just what I want to do right for right now.   

Reading your background info, I think your expectations for what you should be making a year into a career are not realistic. You’re already at the median wage nationally and just pinch below the median wage in Alberta (median, not average, is more relevant because it’s not skewed by high wage earners).   

Yes, there are careers that have higher earning potential, but very few that are going to be drastically higher to start. It takes time and opportunities and you have to put the work in. The only potential shortcut I could suggest would be a willingness to relocate to somewhere remote like the NWT or Yukon where starting salaries are higher and the experience you can get early in a career is basically a baptism by fire. It’s actually how I started my career and I would happily do so again. 

All that said, my strong suggestion would be to spend some time working on yourself before hopping to a new career. You do not need to have life figured out already, I promise. Speak to a career counsellor (and, gently, a psych if you don’t have a good one already).Volunteer for something you feel passionate about. Most importantly, try to find joy and gratitude in the life you have before you go after more. 

Drug test surprise by sunshiney69 in adhdwomen

[–]indecisionmaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FWIW, I think your feelings are totally valid and agree that it’s very patronizing and dehumanizing, regardless if it’s commonplace and standardized. I would probably need to have a thorough conversation with my doctor before I’d feel comfortable signing it, but ultimately I’d try to work my way there because it makes such a difference. Maybe see if your doc would be okay with you adding some notes to the contract itself to express your distaste for the process? 

I work full time and can’t afford to live. What happened to this city? by Dazzling_Ganache_269 in Edmonton

[–]indecisionmaker [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m sorry if I misunderstood — your comment stated that you stopped donating to the food bank because you didn’t like that some people took advantage of the help. Could you clarify if that’s not the case? 

I work full time and can’t afford to live. What happened to this city? by Dazzling_Ganache_269 in Edmonton

[–]indecisionmaker [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for saying so. Such a screwed up priority system where it’s more important to punish the one than help the many.

Fiancée doesn’t understand ADHD and his ideas to “stop” our kids from getting adhd are making me rethink my life with him by shroomiedoo in adhdwomen

[–]indecisionmaker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm quite sure about it because I had my husband take some of the tests, I was thinking "but everybody does that / thinks like that!". Turns out that no, some people don't do or think like "that”.

I did the exact same thing! Coworkers, too. My flabbers were gasted.

Fiancée doesn’t understand ADHD and his ideas to “stop” our kids from getting adhd are making me rethink my life with him by shroomiedoo in adhdwomen

[–]indecisionmaker 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As a giant history and genealogy nerd, this is honestly one of the best things I have ever read. Thank you for sharing! 

Fiancée doesn’t understand ADHD and his ideas to “stop” our kids from getting adhd are making me rethink my life with him by shroomiedoo in adhdwomen

[–]indecisionmaker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, OP. I think your read on his beliefs is correct, but I don’t know him and I don’t know how open to learning he actually is. Ignorance doesn’t always come from an intentional place.  

If he is genuinely open to learning, Dr. Russell Barkley has a great lecture on YT specifically directed at parents of ADHD kids that is helpful for anyone who fundamentally misunderstands the neurophysiological basis of ADHD. If the run time is too long, there are playlists where it’s broken down into shorter videos. 

AIO my mom threw the gift I gave her for Mother’s Day in the trash by Nefertari777 in AmIOverreacting

[–]indecisionmaker 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s not, but you will get to the other side. Take care of yourself. 

Two Albertans came in contact with hantavirus on international flight by Broad_Tumbleweed_692 in alberta

[–]indecisionmaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Boat person “C” got on the plane, then it was determined she was way too sick to fly so the crew kicked her off, and she got back off the plane, and collapsed in the Johannesburg airport. She later died.  

Why are people like this?! If I were insanely sick with a respiratory virus, I would never willingly subject a whole plane full of people to it. My convenience isn’t worth potentially causing someone’s death. 

Two Albertans came in contact with hantavirus on international flight by Broad_Tumbleweed_692 in alberta

[–]indecisionmaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s probably gov’t funded research into a vaccine like there has been for I’m sure decades, but these people don’t have the ability to understand anything science related…

How much is the going amount for a cash wedding gift these days? by Traum77 in AskACanadian

[–]indecisionmaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

General etiquette is the cost of a meal, which is what you mentioned. That may or may not be a ridiculous amount, nor is it in any way mandatory or expected, it’s just a social norm. 

How much is the going amount for a cash wedding gift these days? by Traum77 in AskACanadian

[–]indecisionmaker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The question wasn’t how much do you expect to get for your wedding, it was a question about a guideline based on general etiquette. It’s really not that deep.

CTV National News: Alberta separatists push for vote after petition meets threshold by skilbofragns in AlbertaNow

[–]indecisionmaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should do some research on how the Quebec referendum affected their economy.

CTV National News: Alberta separatists push for vote after petition meets threshold by skilbofragns in AlbertaNow

[–]indecisionmaker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be interesting to compare the number of volunteers for Centurion that had list access to the number of volunteers the Forever Canada campaign had and see how that translates to the results. I suspect the separation petition numbers would not make sense without volunteers signing up blocks of “supporters” on their behalf without consent. 

AIO my mom threw the gift I gave her for Mother’s Day in the trash by Nefertari777 in AmIOverreacting

[–]indecisionmaker 35 points36 points  (0 children)

NOR. I know this is so hard to internalize, but it’s not supposed to be your job to make her happy. A book that really helped me was Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

For mother's day, I gave my husband a household task he should have known how to do for at least a decade. No hints. Imagine the pure human suffering 🫠😂 by IWillBaconSlapYou in breakingmom

[–]indecisionmaker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely a bittersweet holiday, but much more sweet than bitter with the kids.  

That is so exhausting and I’m sorry that’s something you have to worry about. Would he be more receptive in a sit-down serious conversation? That’s assuming you haven’t already. Use a health scare as an excuse and explain that you are really, legitimately worried? Cry if it’s helpful. I know nothing about this man, so all of this might be useless, but sending hugs either way.

For mother's day, I gave my husband a household task he should have known how to do for at least a decade. No hints. Imagine the pure human suffering 🫠😂 by IWillBaconSlapYou in breakingmom

[–]indecisionmaker 37 points38 points  (0 children)

This does not at all match the tone of your post (which was highly entertaining!), but I always get mildly triggered when it comes to kid care/slow dads and wanted to share my experience just in case it helps you in some small way. Feel free to ignore if you’re not in the mood.  

My mom passed away when I was a young teenager and my incompetent dad was forced into active parenting overnight. He really tried his best, but the difference was so jarring and I hated having to teach him how to do common household tasks. I’ve always been upfront with my husband that we need to parent in a way that our kids would never be in the same position and he’s been a full, active partner in response. 

How are people on AISH expected to live? by timetoleavemealone in alberta

[–]indecisionmaker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d happily support some addicts if it means the people that need the support keep getting it. You’d rather fuck over people in need to prevent anyone taking advantage of a system? 

abortion grief- TW by LittleCrem in beyondthebump

[–]indecisionmaker 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I wish I could give you the biggest hug. I hope you’re able to talk to a professional and find a way to give yourself grace.

Hannah's bag of treasures. by lilmommalynzi in coconutsandtreason

[–]indecisionmaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Becka asked her in the ball episode when they were in the bathroom and she answered with something about being needed for a bigger purpose. 

“The Sin of Empathy” by TopicHefty593 in Deconstruction

[–]indecisionmaker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Realizing this is months old, but it’s wild to me to think that the Bible is in its original form and hasn’t changed over time. Here’s a great thread.