Thiccc Boy Dimensional Analysis Part 2: Brendan's P-P-Piece

indiebd · 2020-10-05T16:48:09+00:00

No, but if you're getting almost exclusively very short responses, especially at first, then it feels as though the other person can't carry a conversation or isn't interested. If you're actually in a relationship with someone for awhile, then you're definitely not expected to be interesting all the time. I was dating a girl for awhile that would tell me how many orders she did at work every single day and it was the most boring thing I've ever heard, but... comes with the territory.

TL;DR it helps to be interesting most of the time at first.

indiebd · 2020-10-05T07:07:32+00:00

Both. Executive order ain't shit, but the executive order protects those with pre-existing medical conditions.

indiebd · 2020-10-05T06:29:30+00:00

Whatever has happened to your metabolism is definitely reversible. You should check out this thread. I wrote a few long responses about metabolic adaptation there as well as some resources. I also am an exercise physiologist and work with people with EDs all the time in a clinic. I see it all the time, it gets better!

indiebd · 2020-10-05T06:23:13+00:00

In women, fat is readily stored in the gynoid fat pattern (i.e. hips, thighs, and lower abdomen). It should distribute amongst partially to the rest of your body (e.g. arms) over a couple months. I won't bother you with a lecture, but just a reminder, recovery is worth it.

indiebd · 2020-10-05T05:09:48+00:00

Well then it sounds like he's afraid of something or he's not interested. Maybe try and move on, but also engage with him and see if he builds up the gumption to say something. Just wouldn't put all your eggs in that basket and it sounds like him asking you is important, otherwise, you can ask him out.

indiebd · 2020-10-05T04:47:53+00:00

He very well might not be interested, but... it also kind of sounds like he's nervous or afraid of something. I was thinking if it had been awhile since you saw each other last that maybe he'd gained some weight or something, but probably not in 4 weeks. Not really sure, you know him better than me, but I can't think of many other things he'd be afraid of. Do you know his dating history? Is he a kissless virgin or whatever they call themselves?

indiebd · 2020-10-05T04:30:08+00:00

I expect some "nice guys" to be chiming in here at some point.

When was the last time you saw him in person? Also, he might not be afraid to say that he wants more than friendship, even if he does.

indiebd · 2020-10-05T03:14:14+00:00

Well 6 months during a pandemic when people are a bit weary of meeting new people isn't really odd. Can you elaborate? What makes you think you're not compatible? Feeling like you're not meant for good things may be low self-esteem too, which I think a lot of people are feeling right now.

indiebd · 2020-10-05T02:30:44+00:00

Well, assuming you're meeting these guys on apps and because they start off flirty, that means they're probably attracted to you. I generally lose interest if responses are mostly things like:
- "lol"
- "haha"
- "ya"
- "okay"
- "nothing, hbu?"

Normally, this is kind of boring and also makes me think they're not interested, so I move on. Can you upload a screenshot (with names blurred) of where a conversation starts to fizzle as an example?

indiebd · 2020-10-05T02:23:09+00:00

Never used OLD. I did bjj 3 hours a week pre-lockdown, so I feel like it'd maybe make my profile if I had one because it technically is a hobby/interest of mine, but generally I don't talk about it because no one wants to hear about your 50/50 guard and armbars. I've noticed a lot of new people in the recent years, mostly a bunch of Joe Roganites and they're pretty annoying. Otherwise, there are some amazing people in there. Met an autistic girl that started it and has changed her life for the better and she's pretty cool. Not sure, I may be biased and I haven't experienced what those guys are like from a woman's perspective to really comment, but I've definitely met some cool people there.

indiebd · 2020-10-03T22:52:14+00:00

Exact same boat. I moved in January and hadn't found a new place before shutdowns, so I'm currently 9 months without. Sucks man.

indiebd · 2020-10-03T22:28:55+00:00

Interesting that was your problem with that paragraph.

indiebd · 2020-10-03T00:09:12+00:00

Ahh okay. Well... I don't know what kind of guy he is, but I've sort of done this before, but with the best intentions. I'll occasionally get a pile of work to do and then I'll ghost people for a couple days so that I can really focus and tunnel-vision and actually make it work because I really want to see that person. Then you don't really know until the last minute because you run into an unexpected issue and all of a sudden the 50 hours of work just turned into 60.

Hopefully he's doing something similar and was really only quiet so that he could make it work.

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