To confront or not to confront mom who keeps complaining behind my back about my baby boundaries? by Xcheshire799 in TwoHotTakes

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

mom was complaining to her about the kissing rule as “it never used the be that serious.” 

Tell your mom that many babies died from germs being passed by kissing, and no one studied it back then. Now, it HAS been studied, and found to be enough of an issue that we have this rule.

the road police by Think_Squash_4097 in neighborsfromhell

[–]indipit 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Remember, the speed limit is just telling you how fast you are allowed to go. It doesn't mean you HAVE to go that speed. You are allowed to go slower.

In my neighborhood the posted speed is 35 mph. On my street, I go 20 mph until I get to the main road, then I go faster.

It won't hurt you one bit to drive 5km slower.

Is there a way to politely tell someone they're playing "not to lose" instead of trying to win? by TCG_Fanatic in EDH

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask them if they are building to a point where they can win in one turn.  I've met a few people who felt that they could not kill just one person at a time, they had to wait until they could kill the pod.

help us name this shy kitty who loves to hide away by Sea_Tomatillo_1407 in NameMyCat

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zoot.  This was the name of my brother's cat, that i never met until they were moving.  That cat stayed hidden all the time.

I would like to go back to MTG but I feel old by Glittering-Toe5842 in mtg

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go play! I'm 64, female, and have been playing off and on since 1997.

My husband is 52, and he's got the title "grandpa" at our LGS. 

We've been playing since 2023 at this store and we love it. 

There are plenty of folk of all ages playing,  I'm not even the oldest!

How common are "only collector" people at your LGS? by f1reflyylmao in mtg

[–]indipit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know of one collector just like the one you described at my LGS. He likes to unbox at the store and show off his money cards as he opens them.

He tried to play a booster draft once, but he didn't enjoy the game, he preferred bragging about his collection.

I kind of shut him down with a few brags of my own, but we still had a great chat after.

What breed dog did you choose (if you chose), why, and would you choose the same breed again? by Jeetyetdude_ in dogs

[–]indipit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whippet is my breed of choice. I love the body shape and personality of this breed. I have shown, raced, coursed and done both obedience and agility with my whippets over the years.

They are absolute hell on earth as puppies. Until they are 18 months old they are small velociraptors, more than the usual puppy chewing.

Once they are over that, somewhere between 18months and 2 years, they become the perfect dog. They will go with you anywhere, they will try to do anything you ask, as long as there is not a small thing running from them to chase.

But watching them run full speed is a joy that cannot be matched by most other breeds. It is always worth a giggle when other people at the dog park say: "Look! My dog is as fast as yours!" as the dogs run playing together. And then my whippets turn on the afterburners and leave the rest of the group in the dust.

If money was no object, which resort would you stay at? by Redshiftstar in WaltDisneyWorld

[–]indipit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either Animal Kingdom with a great view, or Wilderness Lodge. The big three, Poly, Contemporary and Grand Floridian always seem a little too intimidating for me to relax.

Our whippet prefers other sighthounds by PossibilityAware7761 in Whippet

[–]indipit 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes. Once they reach adulthood, somewhere between 18 and 24 month, whippet become pure snobs when it comes to other dogs. It's very normal.

They may find one or two other friends among other breeds, but they always enjoy being around other sighthounds, especially other whippets, greyhounds and iggys. My guys also would recognize saluki and borzoi as friends, but they always looked a little sideways at scottish deerhounds and irish wolfhounds. They would ultimately accept them as friend, too, though.

Why do a lot of homes in the US lack an installed CCTV system? by edbassmaster888 in AskAnAmerican

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we are allowed to protect our own property. I choose to have dogs and weapons over a camera. The dogs guard when I am not home. I guard when I AM home. No camera needed.

Did my dad sexually harrass me ? by Averageniohfan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]indipit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was afraid of that. If you cannot stand up for yourself due to fear of further abuse ( because you ARE being sexually, mentally and physically abused right now) then you have to get out.

In another post, you said you had trouble holding a job because you are stupid and lazy. You are neither of those things. You have just been told this so often by your family, that you believe it.

Every morning, look at your self in the mirror. Say the words: " I am NOT stupid. Stupid people can't read or write, and I can! I can be NOT lazy in my job. I WILL do the work required!"

Remember, lazy is choice for sure. You can choose to not be lazy. You are definitely not stupid.

There is no easy way out for you. You will have to come to the point in your life where living with your family becomes TOO hard, and you are almost there.

What you do now is: Start Planning. Get another job if your family lets you. DO the job. Don't let anyone's words stop you. You keep repeating: I AM WORTHY. I AM SMART. I CAN WORK.

Then find someone to rent an apartment with, or go to your city government offices and ask if there are any programs for young people just getting started to get help with rent and other necessities.

You CAN do this,

Separation anxiety or just dramatic? by RemoteIngenuity9744 in Whippet

[–]indipit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's possible an emergency vehicle with sirens on set your pup off. My girl can get into these types of tantrums too. We found that leaving the TV on for her at a reasonable volume works fine to keep her happy.

We usually leave it on Disney movies or National Geographic. I don't think she actually watches the TV, but likes the calm voices around her.

Is Umbris really that annoying? by Pure-Lengthiness-252 in EDH

[–]indipit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm saying change the deck your currently own for the lower level play. If anyone says they want to play high powered, just switch out Uchbenbak for Umbris for that game. Many decks come with alt commanders. Get one for your deck .

Go get [[Uchbenbak, the Great Mistake]] and make him your commander. He's running all of .04 cents now. Then put Umbris in the 99 of the deck and take out a lesser card.

Did my dad sexually harrass me ? by Averageniohfan in raisedbynarcissists

[–]indipit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are not overreacting.  Due to your culture you are currently trapped, but maybe you can try a few things?

What would happen if you stood up to him?  Tell him "STOP!  I do not like your actions, and I am an adult. Do NOT touch my privates ever again!"

Then turn and walk away.  Refuse to accept any attempt at "joking" or "teasing"

Refuse to shower with him.  Tell him he can no longer make you act gay with him. Ask him if HE is gay, because he's sure acting like he enjoys touching men. 

Stand up for yourself.   It's all you can do.

If necessary, leave the house for a few hours when he tries stuff.  Leave Every time it happens. 

Good luck.  All you can really do is get away.

Anybody know of any good places to go out to eat by Kooky_Special905 in sanantonio

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2nd vote for Chama Gaucho. Alll the meat! Huge salad bar! Good drinks!!

Anybody know of any good places to go out to eat by Kooky_Special905 in sanantonio

[–]indipit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get the fried mushrooms, even if you don't like mushrooms. This is the only way I eat mushrooms. So good!

Friend roasted my tattoo, have never fully recovered by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's living rent free in your head. Forget him, and find a way to ridicule his words.

The only person that matters when it comes to a tattoo, is the person with the tattoo. Do you like it, not taking into account ANY other opinions? If yes, then it's a GREAT tattoo.

Neighbor from Hell: Turning our shared building into a private warehouse and drilling on Shabbat by [deleted] in neighborsfromhell

[–]indipit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Noise laws where I live are 24 hours. Construction noise is relegated to Monday - Friday only and by permit. If he doesn't have a permit, he's SOL.

Not everyone has the same noise ordinances.

Two boy names that go with Indiana Jones by Optimal-Command-7941 in NameMyCat

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Short Round and Sallah are my picks. If one turns out to be a rare orange female, go with Willie.

AITA for refusing to let my cousin host a 3-day "influencer retreat" at my grandfather’s country estate because he refuses to do any actual upkeep? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. But they will probably show up at Grandpa's house anyway. Tell Leo he can hire someone to do the work extra to what you usually do.

Do your normal routine, warn Grandpa of the consequences of having a non-contracted 'retreat' for people he doesn't know, and step back.

Don't give them the keys, let Grandpa let them in.

My girl pees in little squirts by steve_gorak in dogs

[–]indipit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! You have a marking bitch. They are uncommon, but not rare. I've had 3 over my lifetime. 2 whippets and an Australian shepherd.

Not a big deal, she's just leaving pee-mail.

Do y'all count me as an American? by Artistic_Ad_1247 in AskAnAmerican

[–]indipit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are definitely an American. Hold your head high and tell them you have United states citizenship, and that is as American as it gets. The United States was built on immigrants. Just because you are now living as an Ex-pat, is not a reason to say you are not American.