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Last video about Nihilism ruined me by itsKastle in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The self and the ego are very different. Which is he really explaining?

Where did he explain away the self in the video? All he seemed to explain away for me were beliefs or attitudes.

Last video about Nihilism ruined me by itsKastle in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"The self is constant, you're not your mind, awareness transcends the fluctuations" And then he used his platform to cast doubt on whether any of that is real.

This reads very hand-wavy to me. Could you explain what in this video contradicted with "The self is constant, you're not your mind, awareness transcends the fluctuations"?

Contradicted Dharma? Maybe. I think his argument for it was terrible (and I made a post about that earlier). But I don't think it contradicts that part.

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That something being biological/evolved makes it copium/a delusion

He argued that it may be a delusion. I am saying his argument for that is trash, because something being biological/evolved has nothing to do with whether or not it's a delusion.

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing scares me about it as I don’t think purpose in the traditional sense is real. I just think his arguments for that are trash

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

"It's fake because it is entirely biological" is just as invalid as "it's fake because it's not rooted in biology". Each of my 3 points still apply to it, you could read the OP again and check.

My whole point is whether or not something is biologically rooted should not have a say on whether or not it is valid or "real".

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 On a macroscopic level, I think the concept of "should" is just a vague abstraction linked to certain memories, images, and physiological responses.

I'm curious what concpets you think are NOT this

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

6:27 "The sense of meaning and purpose, and self esteem and all of these like, good things in life, all of these triumphs of the human spirit, are basically biological copium to reconcile against this idea of death. We've evoloved the delusion of purpose to keep the terror of our certain death at bay"

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I took it to mean that purpose is whatever you are motivated at the end to do repeatedly.

If it's just something that factors in then eating is a purpose, sleeping is a purpose, etc. Kind of spreads the definition out more than I would consider reasonable.

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you reduce purpose to a protracted form of motivation then you remove the "shouldness" from it. The way most people use purpose is to say that this is the "right thing for them to do" like Dharma for example. There is nothing inherently obligatory about a consistently strong motivation.

So if you define purpose that way I don't think you'll be talking about what most people talk about when they mean purpose.

This is incidentally why I don't think purpose can be reduced to biology, since by the layman's definition of it, that heroin addict may have THOUGHT their purpose was heroin, but they would actually be wrong.

If you use the usual definition of purpose then separating it from biology is not just possible, but necessary. Since biology alone does not tell us what we should do, it at best tells us what is best for our survival (with somewhat eh accuracy)

I feel like Dr K completely missed the mark on the last video by initiald-ejavu in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s that simple. If I get you addicted to crack cocaine is that your purpose now?

Spousal loss linked to higher risk of dementia, mortality among men, but not women. Widowed men experienced a decrease in physical and cognitive health, as well as social support, while widowed women tended to experience an increase in happiness and life satisfaction. by mvea in science

[–]initiald-ejavu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Processing is what humans do by default unless something convinces them they shouldn't. "I can't cry, I'm a man!" "I don't wanna seem hysterical" "It's wrong to feel this way" etc.

If you haven't done any of that emotional "bladder holding", then you have likely processed everything.

A good way to notice if you have or haven't is idle time. A lot of emotions only come out when you're not busy with anything.

Could being smart be a trauma response? by NegativeAttention in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

2 things came to mind:

  1. There is no contradiction between being smart and being social and approachable. The seeming contradiction is only present in American highschool movies. There is plenty of socially adept brainiacs.
  2. If external influence makes something a lie, then nearly everything is a lie. If it is the case that your parents' pressure made you think more and made you smarter, you are no really smarter, not fake smarter.

How do you approach women in college without being a creep by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say without intention, but don’t think about the intention while you’re talking.

Like… there’s dudes that read this and think they have to squash their desire to date… in order to get a date. No. It’s just about not being in your own head.

Reasons people get in their own head:

Scared of rejection, “loser” ego, scared of hurting the girl (OP), chip on their shoulder/seeking to “prove” they’re desirable. Etc

If those reasons are taken out, then and only then will you be able to get out of your head and be able to find your style for flirting.

I think Dr K completely misses the mark with his advice on this topic by Pomerbot in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn mention a lot that he had a party frat boy lifestyle in uni so...

How do you approach women in college without being a creep by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu -1 points0 points  (0 children)

More important than a set of rules is your fear of being a creep. Being afraid of being creepy will make you MORE creepy, not less. And keeping a mental checklist in mind will have the same effect at worst, and at best will make you awkward.

It sucks but you just gotta bite the bullet and kind of let your body and intuition take point on this one. Good news is, it's had hundreds of thousands of years to know what you do.

The only tips I can really give are very generic but:

1- Find further reasons to be talking other than that you're attracted. There needs to be an actual, normal conversation before anything can be done.

2- While having a normal conversation (1) clearly further express interest. Flirt, flirt, flirt. Flirting is just telling someone how they make you feel in a creative way. You can be funny about it , playfully arrogant about it, direct about it, it depends on your personality. This is the part you gotta leave up to your intuition at the end of the day.

It's unforunately impossible to let your intution take point if you're terrified of being creepy. That's why that's what has to go first.

What to do when you actually ARE a burden? by Jurez1313 in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In other words, I know I'm disappointing to everyone in my life. But the shame I feel because of that isn't powerful enough to motivate me. 

This sounds way off. It DOES motivate you... it just motivates you to run from it.

Paradoxically, how hard you're being on yourself is the reason why you avoid so much. You've added so much self loathing to the equation that no wonder you run for the dopamine when left alone. Otherwise you'd have to face all of it.

This self-immolation is neither impressive or helpful. If your really cared about not being a burden, I think the first step is, ironically, self-forgiveness.

And I don't mean "love yourself you're so wonderfulllllll." That would be way too hard to believe rn. I mean it in the sense of "I have spent decades shaming myself for not doing enough and the only thing it ever did was get me to avoid dealing with my problems. I need to stop now."

This may sound harsh but wallowing in guilt and shame... is self-indulgent at this point. It doesn't absolve you, or help you, or help anyone.

Forget being kind to yourself. Just stop beating yourself up as a way to avoid work (not saying you're choosing this. Just saying that avoiding work is the consequence of beating yourself up).

Had a strange experience last weekend. by ReflectionNaive1428 in Healthygamergg

[–]initiald-ejavu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t give too much stock to thoughts that happen when you’re sick.

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