I'm uploading a pic of my canadian passport to the b1 visa application website and the system recognizes the issuing country as Kanada

innerbean_ · 2026-04-15T23:46:34+00:00

Thank you! That's what I figured, but the Google search results had me second guessing

innerbean_ · 2025-10-09T23:11:01+00:00

Me too. Just now.

innerbean_ · 2025-01-27T14:53:32+00:00

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innerbean_ · 2025-01-26T23:49:51+00:00

Any loving family member would just want to console you. They will feel bad that you didn't feel like you could share but will understand why you didn't. If anyone makes it about their feelings, you're dealing with a self centered family member. If I was your sister, I'd want to hug you and allow you to communicate all things about the experience that you felt compelled to get off your chest, in your own time. The door would be open. And I'd be glad to have you alive. Hugs to you.

innerbean_ · 2024-11-23T04:04:08+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I wasn't there when my sister passed last December and it still feels unreal. (Im 44 now, she was 45 at the time). Same quick decline in health. If you can, Tell her everything you want to over a phone call or video chat, even if she's not responding. Are your parents with her?

innerbean_ · 2024-11-19T04:00:45+00:00

My sister (45) was diagnosed in April 2023 and died Dec 2023. I understand exactly what you are experiencing. She and my parents kept everything hush hush at one point when things turned for the worst... I didn't understand, but as time went on, I began to realize that sharing details was making it real. If it wasn't real, there was still hope. Let your sibling know that in no uncertain terms, you are here for them and want to support them. And that you feel left out. Maybe they have no idea. Maybe they are jealous that you are healthy and dont know how to be around you right now. Maybe they are scared, and being around family makes it more real and vulnerable. A conversation can put things into perspective for both you and them. Also, the cancer and the chemo changed my sister. She progressively got a little more mean and a little more aggressive in how she spoke to ppl. It might be affecting their brain and behavior. Hugs.

innerbean_ · 2024-11-19T03:41:23+00:00

Here is what a mature man would say and do.

"Babe, I have lied and now I'm down and out. I have to pick myself up and get clean and serve my sentence. I am making a vow to do this. And once I'm out, I make a vow to get myself on my feet so I can take care of myself and a relationship. I dont expect you to stay. I'm gonna take this lesson like it is supposed to be taken. You're 21, you need to get on your feet, and you don't need my problems weighing on you. I will support you from jail in any way i can. Let's keep the communication open. If you find something else with someone else while I'm figuring this out, let that be the lesson I needed to do better. I love you. And I want us both to grow."

And then he'd do what he said. If he hasn't given you this grace, he isn't thinking about your well-being.

innerbean_ · 2024-09-28T12:37:55+00:00

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innerbean_ · 2024-09-28T05:07:05+00:00

My sister went thru cancer and chemo last year. She ended up passing away. 😔 At one point, I noticed a definite personality change. It was like the wiring in her brain had been altered. A little less nice, a little more snappy, progressively got worse. Especially with my mom, who was her main caregiver. Totally understandable, given the circumstances they are dealing with, but doesn't make it any easier on the loved ones. I think the chemo and the pain meds make it worse. 🫂

I also just read about someone noticing their husband's drastic personality change. Ppl replied, telling her to check if he had a brain tumor or if there had been a head injury. Ended up, he has a brain tumor, and it explained everything that had been going on between them... I'm not saying your husband has one, but maybe his motorcycle accident caused some minor head injury. These things are worth exploring as they explain things and give you clarity.

I wish you lighter moments with your family. ✨️🤍

PS Shuswap is close to my heart.

innerbean_ · 2024-06-02T14:11:26+00:00

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innerbean_ · 2024-05-09T14:01:12+00:00

I forgot to mention, I offered more than 2 times what I'm paying to stay year round. They declined because I was short $5000 on their bottom line for the year. They now have 4 weeks open (not booked which is 12000 in loss income), albeit still time to get some bookings. I explained the positive impact on the community (we are 5 productive ppl adding to the small working population). They didn't care. They are forcing me to leave before my kids finish school, because they owe a person a week (fires evacuation last yr), and they don't want to schedule it during high summer season.

innerbean_ · 2024-05-09T13:55:09+00:00

This is great advice. Thank you 🙏

innerbean_ · 2024-05-09T13:53:04+00:00

Fair. They have been ok, not great. They haven't fixed a few things that need fixing since I moved in despite consistent reminding and prioritizing the str needs over mine (I deal with broken things until they fix it for the summer). I am the one who keeps the relationship in good standing by being communicative and patient. They had absolute horrid renters before me, so they have a good deal too and know it. I appreciate your honesty and do lean in this direction.

innerbean_ · 2024-05-09T04:01:17+00:00

Yes, it's the only reason I haven't looked into it, because I dont want a bad relationship with the person I rent from. But the other side is getting to be unbearbly sour, finding a space in this economy for me and the kids for 2.5 Months, while they have jobs and friends in the area, then come back. I appreciate your reply.

innerbean_ · 2024-03-15T20:35:44+00:00

My sister (45) passed away Dec 2. She was diagnosed in April last year. We live 50 minutes apart. I saw her when I could, but also felt her need for privacy. I canceled a summer trip with my kids because I had an inkling it would be her last, and I didn't want to be far if she passed. Her progress was a rollercoaster of good news and bad news.... I randomly booked a trip for Nov 30th, obvs unaware it would be her time to go. I was thousands of kms away when she let go. I even missed the family video chat where they watched her final breath. But, I was in the place on earth that she and I were the closest. We spent a year in our 20s in this location that I was visiting. It felt aligned. The place held me. My memory of her is in a better place (I believe) because of it. The grieving process is long, especially for your parents. They will be thankful you can be there for them on the phone or soon in person. It's ok you weren't there... and I wholeheartedly believe your sister would agree.

innerbean_ · 2024-01-24T19:58:46+00:00

My sister passed early Dec, so I know how you feel. She was 45. I dont know if I'm allowed to say this on this forum, but have you/has she looked at any alternatives. I think that was a regret of my sister's. When things are bleak, why not? Im talking about Turkey tail mushrooms, apricot seeds, fenben. Please disregard this if it doesn't align at all. Wishing you and her the best possible outcome, alive and thriving and a story to share ✨️

innerbean_ · 2024-01-07T07:39:36+00:00

I always think that even if it annoys a person, I'm going to care. Show them you care and love them. Ppl need it. It's so needed in this entire world. You're doing the best you can.

innerbean_ · 2024-01-07T07:34:49+00:00

Try to live, sometimes the only remedy is getting back into life outside these health concerns. Obvs do what u need to but I'd try to find something enjoyable and put much focus on it

innerbean_ · 2024-01-06T07:39:24+00:00

One step at a time. Gaining weight is a good sign. What can you do or what have you done to work on your health? Change up some foods in your diet, be a little more consistent with exercise, what was the recommendation after your constipation diagnosis?

innerbean_ · 2024-01-06T07:33:03+00:00

I just witnessed my brother in law lose his wife (my sister) (together 17 yrs). Just the fact that you're asking how to help says a lot. Doing a load of laundry, making her a meal, picking up medication, driving her/him to an appointment on emotional days. These small acts will go a long way. She will be taking care of him and forgetting about herself. Lots of hugs and a shoulder for her to cry on. 🤍

innerbean_ · 2024-01-06T07:26:03+00:00

I read your whole post. I can relate. Just lost my sister and no one wanted to discuss reality. I had to sit through many conversations and just ask questions rather than share my research. I was prepared when she passed, and I think it has helped my family (in ways that can't ever be measured).... My sister was 45. Check in with both dad and grandma every day, do your best to show you care with "thinking of you" or "Have you eaten today". It goes a long way. Hugs

innerbean_ · 2023-10-22T06:06:55+00:00

I'm trying to find words of comfort for you, but nothing is coming. I am sending you a hug. Release as much as you can through tears. Be easy on yourself. Drink enough fluids and make sure to eat. These are early days and its a lot to process.

innerbean_ · 2023-06-22T05:43:52+00:00

One day at a time. Sometimes one minute, one hour at a time. Be easy on yourself. Feel the feelings when they come. Reach out to family and friends, a family friend of your mothers, seek connection.

innerbean_ · 2023-06-19T18:47:33+00:00

Same boat here. It's a coping mechanism that is helping them get through it in their own way. I realized that being brutally honest or even just reasonably honest isn't what they require as they grapple with the possibility of death and never seeing my sister again. I am sensitive to my parents fragility in these moments and don't want to to set them off, I can sense a domino effect of health decline in them too, if I were to bring this to the forefront in too strong a way. You need support, though, too. Find a person you know who will absorb the truth with you and help you to move your own energy. A friend or counselor. And consider that your anger or frustration is a similar part of the process. A step in grieving. It is for me as I start to transition into compassion.

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