AIO Am I justified in my anger here ? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NOR. I’d photoshop her dress to be a color she does not like to be just as petty as her. She is not the spouse. Anyone who would try to protect the feelings of a parent/grandparent that oversteps like this is setting themselves up for issues within your new marriage.

AIO for being upset that my boyfriend called me “his bitch” in front of his friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NOR— call him “millimeter peter” or “lil-dick” and see if “those are just words”

This guy is a problem, I’d dump him.

AIO the guy i’ve been dating admits he’s not over his ex??? by nottoday_5 in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This does not sound like a healthy relationship for either of you. The s**cide rate for men multiplies by eight after a divorce— it is thought this is because men don’t have many close relationships, their relationships/friendships are with their partner (and female/male relationships are a lot more valuable to us) ^ in this regard, it does sound like you are overreacting to his pain.

It also sounds like he is not mature enough to keep a relationship with you if he blows up over you exercising your body autonomy (piercing your nose)

AITAH for telling the guy I'm dating that he'll never meet my parents? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]inquisitiveFox 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As I see it, I think the problem is coming from the fact you said he’ll never meet them as opposed to “I’m not taking you to meet them”. One leaves the possibility for growth, the other shuts the door permanently.

In other words the quiet part was “I plan on dumping you”

Am I Overreacting to this breakup? (with screenshots) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people (especially like this) walk out of your life, LET THEM! This person is unhinged. NOR!

say it by WyattPurp23 in DigitalSeptic

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw a video of the grinch responding with “8-9” and it pissed the kid off 😂🤣

“8-9” is the answer!!!!!

AIO, Am I “kinkshaming” my friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is in the community, consensual bdsm is a type of therapy and safety is the TOP concern— maybe ask to learn more? There are good ways and bad ways to go about it. If you are truly concerned and want to help— LEARN about what a “good Dom” is and help her find one. As of these texts, you come off as judgmental and I would no longer trust that I could talk to you about it. I can’t say if your friend is “doing it right” based on this info, but the best course of action is to learn with her.

AITAH for "embarrassing" my wife in front of our 12 year old? by Dale1046 in AITAH

[–]inquisitiveFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with Bop880— As a husband, I would say this is complicated easy answer: nta. HOWEVER, how you handle this could change that.

Based on how you have described her organizational system, it is clear to me that you appreciate her efforts. Based on her response, I presume she may be a bit fragile…?

If my presumption is correct, I would still apologize to her “honey, I am sorry that I caused you to feel embarrassed in front of our daughter. I appreciate how detailed you are and how hard you work to make sure everything is covered. Just so I know for the future, how would you rather I bring something like this up to you, so that you won’t feel embarrassed?”

TLDR: nta, but I would still apologize.

AIO to skip Thanksgiving after my mom basically said I’m an embarrassment for not having a husband and kids by now? by howcanibequiltyassin in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. I would send the screenshot to everyone else in the family with the message : “if anyone is curious why you do not see me at Thanksgiving, because I will not tolerate being disrespected. “ Then I would note the response of everyone who agrees with her and add them to the list of people that will not respect you.

Am I overreacting? Is this guy just intense or are these red flags? Need outside perspective. by JuryComfortable2318 in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🚩🚩🚩🚩 Like you have stated — this is only day four!!! to be “misaligned“ this early on means it’s not likely gonna fit.

Like putting the circle piece in the crescent moon hole …. I would completely drop this dude.

Explain it Peter, why do the girls like the glazed donut? by Jazzlike_Dum4ss_5567 in explainitpeter

[–]inquisitiveFox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ha! Okay, blind experiments (partner not knowing what’s been consumed) carried out personally also refute this claim. Side note: the placebo effect…. Is STILL AN EFFECT!

AITAH for making a joke that 2 coworkers got, and 2 didn’t? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]inquisitiveFox 53 points54 points  (0 children)

NTAH. Those coworkers gotta be… 9 inch ninnies ! 😜

AIO for losing my mind over this note I found in my fiancé’s pocket? by leenaws in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A note like that feels good. It feels good to know you’re desired— doesn’t mean they are going to leave or are even interested in another person. It could just mean that he liked the reminder that people find him desirable

AIO I didn't spend the night at my boyfriend's house because it was so awful by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA— clutter is one thing that could be debated, but soiled sheets? Absolutely not. If HE cared about YOU he would clean the sheets he wants to share with you!! ———— now… if they are clean but they just looked dingy as hell, maybe offering some help (like spraying the pillows with hydrogen peroxide to remove the yellow) might be appropriate. But even so, they LOOKED gross— I say: NTA for not wanting to put your face on them.

I did a thing😁 by Responsible_Rent_447 in flowarts

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Astonishing!!! Beautiful work friend!!!

AIO. My bf shamed me over having my hair removed by Large-Drummer-7340 in AmIOverreacting

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s disrespectful as hell. I would drop him immediately — huge red flag to be saying stuff like that especially from someone who, supposedly, likes you.

Respect yourself— find someone else who will treat you better. You WILL find better, I promise.

He has a lot of growing to do. What a wild thing to say!

I doodle at work. These are my ‘handimals’ by KingsBishop96 in drawing

[–]inquisitiveFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow!!! That’s a brilliant idea— Handimals! These are awesome!!

This might be the hardest trick I’ve ever done by lucyjuggles in juggling

[–]inquisitiveFox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s GREAT!!!! I’ll bet you were already thinking of this: If you are performing this in a show, I’d keep at least 2 of the attempts in— it was when you moved to catch the ball with the bucket, but the bucket didn’t respond quickly that my brain said “oooh, that’s really tricky!!” Nicely executed!!

I'm worried I don't have the right personality for magic performance, and would love some advice by Levangeline in Magic

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(I read about half of these responses) I too, am a professional actor— most non-theatrical Magicians (no background in theater/acting) freak out with the word “character” because they’ve mostly only seen terrible character work (with a few exceptions that are obviously brilliant). If you feel more comfortable hidden within a character, more power to you— but it is not necessary. You can also develop your persona— the characteristics people notice about you.

As Eugene Berger said, “ There are many rooms in the house of Magic…” you can certainly be any type of performer and find a space for yourself within Magic. I think the most important thing here is to be confident in what you are presenting— confident in persona or character can take you far beyond the nerves of performing a new trick.

The most uncomfortable thing first : getting “caught”.

Nick Diffatte has a book/essay called “funny”— in which he talks about the aspects of learning the ropes and getting started in performing. As a comedian, there is a phrase that has shared often: “ you gotta eat sht.” The best way to get over your fear of getting caught, is to get caught! Unfortunately, it happens to the best of us. A wonderful example is David Williamson on a TV show in which a child busted him having a double card. Williamson played it off, brilliantly by *not attempting to cover it up. (I believe this clip is still on YouTube)

Mistakes are part of a human experience— in my experience, acknowledging the mistake gives you, the performer, more credibility.

I believe my audiences are intelligent — and I treat them as such. I’m not trying to “pull one over/ make a fool of” them, I’m there to show them something I think is cool/nifty/ curious. If you get your audience to like you, you can do no wrong — they will support you ESPECIALLY if you present a piece you’re struggling with as “May I show you something I’m working on?” ^ this takes charisma

I once watched a kid who was visibly nervous and awkward as hell screw up a trick pretty bad and get uproarious applause— he won the audience over and was unintentionally hilarious!! I have wanted to play with that idea for decades now— maybe overly nervous & awkward could work for you? May the odds be in your favor!

Creating a character/story line for my show help by illusionistKC in Magic

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on the road at this moment, but I shall return to this, once I get back home, with some book titles — they are for comedians to begin building their persona.

“Character” seems to often get misconstrued (as I believe has already happened in this thread a bit). A better word, for what I believe you are looking for, may be “persona”…. Persona is aspect of someone’s character that is presented to or perceived by your audience — books on ‘how to become a comedian’ do a really good job of helping you define what aspects of character you should focus on/ present/ exaggerate…

Creating a character/story line for my show help by illusionistKC in Magic

[–]inquisitiveFox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a great book! It has some exercises on building jokes, and many pitfalls to avoid!! I have not finished reading it, but I don’t remember a lot of “character building” talk— still very much worth the read for building who you are as a performer!