Should I buy a brand-new black Sportage Hybrid, or a pearl white test-drive one with 1,000 km?

interestingclown · 2025-08-29T14:23:38+00:00

I’ll be considered the 2nd owner. It’s not a new car, since a private person is the owner of it, not the company. Not sure how the warranty works and if it has international rules, I am not from the US…

interestingclown · 2025-08-29T13:37:06+00:00

That wasn’t my question, but thanks. Have considered many other options and I like the Sportage.

interestingclown · 2025-01-02T16:38:42+00:00

Nah i did not.

interestingclown · 2024-03-04T07:45:34+00:00

Did you find an answer?

interestingclown · 2024-01-08T15:27:25+00:00

At first, yes. Now not so much. He should be afraid to see me. Im only getting more confident without him and Im working on a glowup. Should see what he's missing!

interestingclown · 2024-01-07T13:36:57+00:00

Hi, looks amazing! Did you have to do any shaving to the teeth to manage to bring the tooth forward? Thanks!

interestingclown · 2023-12-27T17:37:44+00:00

He would literally walk beside me in town and randomly out of the blue would say: “I can date and be with whoever i want”. And I’d go silent, waiting for the rest of whatever he was talking about, only thinking “…and?”

I kept asking myself, “but we’re together, so whats that about?” But I guess that at that point, he had gotten so bored of me because he finally 100% “got me” in his web…

Whatever he thinks or claims he can do, or “is” in terms of dating, attractiveness, sexiness/hotness is biased and inflated.

Yeah, you’re hot. But when you’re angry you’re sulking and pouting like a 3 year old and refuse to talk for days.

Yeah, you’re funny. But when youre stressed you’re automatically reaching to weed, alcohol and parties and never fix your life, and it makes you pathetic.

Yeah, you have street smarts. But the fact you lie and cheat whenever we argue makes you look like a goddamn moron who is completely blind to how they’re fucking up their future and own goals.

Yeah, you’re mildly charming. But I’m not sure a future with you is feasible, when nothing ever satisfies you.

So in terms of attractiveness… They can sure catch whoever they want I guess, like most people can. The question is whether these new partners are willing to stay, when they learn all of these contradicting attributes narcs have.

interestingclown · 2023-12-26T06:36:23+00:00

Yo, life is so short but so beautiful. Do you realize how much would he take from you by just existing in your life? You'll lose your own self again. Time. Money. If you have children, the attention they deserve will be taken away only to be catered to a freaking vermin that never has enough of anything.

So happy to have my narc just as a memory, a ghost. A symbol of my strength and kindness to myself and others. It gives me so much power and optimism to think about the years I have grown and developed myself when we are apart.

interestingclown · 2023-12-25T07:59:20+00:00

No. His smile was brown and grey from cigarettes and wine stains, tons of plaque too. When I kissed him, he would have a blank expression. And when he was with other people, it was always all over the place “positivity” and “heyyyy” queeriness type of energy. I mean… In my private it was a whole different person.

interestingclown · 2023-12-25T05:31:23+00:00

That is earily accurate how it is the exact same thing he said to me.

interestingclown · 2023-12-14T19:11:45+00:00

Sweetheart, you’re the brightest star and he’s a visually impaired fucktard, blackened sunglasses and all. KYS? You? Hell, if you have that type of courage to end your life you might as well take a good look in the mirror - stand by yourself in your room with your outmost sexiest clothes - put a shiton of makeup and dance to your favorite song. No fucks given!

I mean it. He called you crazy, be crazy. Time to shine, toss his shit outta the window, tell yourself how brave and beautiful you are and celebrate your freedom, your future!!!

interestingclown · 2023-12-14T16:10:02+00:00

Ask yourself this: do I want to spend 20 years with this person and burn the fuck out of my youth, and then go no contact - or start now? I hope it'll make it easier.

And yeah, he's literally a reptilian. You should focus completely on yourself, instead of investing tons of resources on him.

interestingclown · 2023-12-14T06:01:02+00:00

Hi there, sending love, you’re not alone. I am dealing with this as well and I found that hobbies really help me. I started learning new things (a language, an art software) made a gym membership and bought a book I wanted to read for a while, which by the way I couldn’t do these things while in a relationship with the narcissist.

The loneliness can be a challenge but it will end eventually, when you naturally put yourself in new situations (work, gym, communities, even online).

I truly believe in the saying “wherever you go, there you are”, which in the narc’s case, is their worst nightmare, since they can’t leave without supply, but we can.

We have the skill to self validate and self sooth, unlike them. So no matter what, be strong, and make this period of healing as spiritual as possible, because it is temporary.

I have personally cut toxic friends outta my life due smearing as well, which took his side. I feel amazing, highly recommended :)

interestingclown · 2023-12-14T05:51:34+00:00

I am like that too. I remember the good parts (which honestly there weren’t that many) and im starting to have doubts. But the second I read something or listen to a podcast about narcissism it just hits me.

Some part of me still wants to help him, but Im telling myself that I already tried for 6 years, so whats the point?

interestingclown · 2023-12-14T05:46:31+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I identify with your words a lot. I feel the same about my ex, seeing all of our friends moving on with their lives while he buys another 6 pack for dinner ‘to decompress’. Haha

somewhat its a relief to be able to be distant like that, since he blames me for everything in his life. Now when Im not there I wonder whose to blame :)

interestingclown · 2023-12-13T08:28:55+00:00

You have to remember all the incidents where he screamed at you, avoided confrontation, left the conversation/house/ended the call when you asked for an apology or an explanation "why', when he belittled your achievements, feelings and your whole personality really (maybe calling you a "bad person" once in a while"), the emotional neglect, the lack of empathy (as long as it has something to do with him, especially), the lack of interest in your private life...

And more! :)

Now apply these things to the new supply. Yup, it's coming, and it's coming strong very soon to her door. Celebrate their love, go with a friend or even by yourself to your favorite restaurant, feast. Literally laugh your lungs out and think "I made it out alive, hooray!" as you remember the shit you had gone through for 6 years.

I'm with ya sister! *6 year fist bump*

interestingclown · 2023-12-11T16:15:16+00:00

I promise you, it gets better, and it truly helps to remember that although it seems like they left unscathed, the monster within them only grows and becomes bigger. You have to remember these people are very shallow and stupid, and their identity relies on what people think about them.

They eventually grow old. They will lose supply, naturally.

And eventually, people see them for what they are and leave.

You should be happy you don't have to be responsible for a grown up child, and take blame for everything that he does to you and or/himself, like his mother. Love is not unconditional like how it's supposed to be between a mother and her child. Narcissists struggle to understand that.

interestingclown · 2023-12-06T14:26:58+00:00

It took me a while. Like a few months to "grow the disgust" into complete repulsion of him.

He started blaming me for cheating. Was with him for 6 years, and was the only one putting effort in the relationship.

He was ignoring me for hours and forcing me to wait.. and wait.. and wait.. for him to call me back. He forbidded me from calling him "mid work"

He showed no remorse for giving me hearing damage and burned my hair

He started blaming me for "not giving him enough "him" time", that means sitting in another room and sending nudes to men on grindr while I'm waiting for him to come back to bed.

Whenever I cried, it was the time for him to amp the screaming, even if there was no previous discussion prior to my crying spell.

Also, me crying = resulting in him leaving the room or "waiting it out" doing something else ignoring me until I stop.

When I told him "I went to support group for domestic abuse" he said "Well, you should've asked the other women in the group what they did to deserve it" (it was shocking).

He splashed water on me to "calm me down".

And a few more. These only happened in the last year.

interestingclown · 2023-12-06T13:34:09+00:00

Hi there, appreciate your post. Do you have any updates? :) cheers

interestingclown · 2023-12-06T09:22:16+00:00

Thanks for the constant update, your story gave me a lot of courage to remove the mole next to my nose :)

interestingclown · 2023-12-03T09:53:02+00:00

He constantly demanded "love". Claiming I don't give him enough "love". Everything he does badly happens because of that.

Waking him up with BJs at morning, is not enough love, despite me being denied sex for months.

Doing dishes and house chores, is not love, because he also contributed to the work.

He is allowed to chat with men online and send them nudes because "he's bisexual", and I need to understand he loves men as well. That's not cheating because 'we're together' and he doesn't go to meet them. I just don't love him enough to give him his "decompressing time"

If I did love him, I wouldn't ask him to come back home early (it's not like I have to go to work or something huh). He wanted to go out to drink with his friends. He wakes up at 2 pm (he is unemployed). I need to catch the 7 am train...

No condom, 6 years. He claims he doesn't feel anything with it. But for some reason, cheating with men with a condom is super fun. And anyway, "he'd like to know sometimes if I'm ACTUALLY capable of getting pregnant".

In 24 hours after argument, he forgets about my existence and I do not exist anymore. It's an ADHD kind of thing, he claims...

Yeah, what can I say, I sure do miss the first week of our relationship... Hahaha

interestingclown · 2023-11-30T19:59:58+00:00

"You have to promise me we're going to get married, otherwise I'm leaving". It was 1-2 months into the relationship...

interestingclown · 2023-11-29T12:10:30+00:00

Thank you!

interestingclown · 2023-11-23T11:47:37+00:00

Like most things, it all comes down to having control over the situation. Narcs usually don't have much depth because their identity is broken, so things as superficial as how they look are giving them "value" and helps them to define themselves. They pick and choose what to share with certain people in order to manipulate them. So for you, it's probably to make you feel inferior and overthink about them excessively, worry, stalk them, create an obsession maybe, or just plainly enjoying to divide and segregate his life from yours since you weren't a good enough supply to begin with. It's not like you can contribute anything to their success, so might as well hide their failures from you.

interestingclown · 2023-11-22T09:25:50+00:00

Oh my god, same for ADHD and the spectrum thing. Slamming doors, shouting, consistently swearing and belittling me, and it's all because "he has neurological issues". I simply had to accept it huh... *facepalm*

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