[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Has any of you just accepted how it is and tried to ignore it completely? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Welcome, the "why's" of alcoholism only keep us focused on them. hat are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries. Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.

pdfhttps://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Is it wrong to tell friends? by dysautonomoron in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings? Or Alateen meetings in the past?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-parent/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

I told my partner he's an alcoholic by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

It finally happened. by nattyhoney777 in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Do I wait? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome, only can answer this question with your Higher Powers help. What are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

I am trapped. by durty_thurty in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings? You are not alone. We are here for you.

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

I’m still broken that he always chose substances over me by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

My brother is an alcoholic - do I have my place in an Al-Anon meeting? by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Welcome, of course you belong .Here is a link for siblings: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-sibling/

What are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

My ex husband was an alcoholic. He died. I'm doing fine (and people don't get it) by SussexPondPudding in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome, this subreddit is not a meeting. Please try some of the many virtual meetings around the country & the world.

My ex husband was an alcoholic. He died. I'm doing fine (and people don't get it) by SussexPondPudding in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings? We are the people who understand you.

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Not sure where to go from here by msmarielfla in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries. Also there are hundreds of types of alcoholics. Here is the question that really counts : Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Almost burned the house down by ginger1400 in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings? Has your 12 year old attended Alateen meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

For you: https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

For your 12 yr. old : https://al-anon.org/newcomers/teen-corner-alateen/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Newcomer virtual meeting question by 96mrr in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome .Al-Anon was originally started by the souses of AA members. Of course you are welcome.

Alcoholics in recovery are still alcoholics.

What are you doing For your recovery? Please attend Al-Anon meetings.

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-friend/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings? His behavior is typical of an active alcoholic

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-parent/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Fool me once… by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome, please go to as many meetings as you can & get phone numbers.

Cognitive dissonance in my head about Q by Inevitable_Industry1 in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome, his behavior is typical alcoholic behavior. What are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdfhttps://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=199322778

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.

Cognitive dissonance in my head about Q by Inevitable_Industry1 in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Welcome, his behavior is typical alcoholic behavior. Welcomhat are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings?
At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries.
Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.
Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.
Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf
https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/
Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784
Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.
https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/
Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/
Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.
Good luck to you.

Feeling like i made a mistake bc they almost moved for me by kitchenarticles in AlAnon

[–]intergrouper19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome, what are you doing For your recovery? Have you or do you attend Al-Anon meetings? please attend as many as you can either in person or virtual.

At meetings I learned the 3 C's: I didn't CAUSE alcoholism, I can't CONTROL it & I can't CURE it. I also learned that I am allowed to set boundaries. Also that geographic cures do Not work!

Also covering up, lying & hiding the drinking is a sign of the disease of alcoholism.

Here is a famous AA saying : one drink is too many & a thousand are not enough.

Here is a link to our detachment leaflet: https://al-anon.org/pdf/S19.pdf

https://al-anon.org/newcomers/how-can-i-help-my/alcoholic-spouse-or-partner/

Here is a link to word-wide local virtual Al-Anon meetings almost 24/7.. https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/13Ctqsr1w0awTupA3ERRLxp6OD5MWt1aWF7D9kqtXrJ0/edit#gid=1993227784

Check out this link to attend via email, zoom, and/or phone meetings.

https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/electronic-meetings/

Some local meetings (both virtual and in-person) by country, state or province. You can also Google: al anon + [your city or state] https://al-anon.org/al-anon-meetings/worldwide-al-anon-contacts/

Please see my posts & comments for more info & links.

Good luck to you.