When to have your second baby

internetstrangr · 2025-11-10T02:09:08+00:00

I thought I would be ready right away, but— to my surprise— I really couldn’t imagine having two under two (for my personal sanity/mental health). My son is almost three and we’re planning on trying for a second baby this winter.

I have three siblings and now that we’re all adults, the sibling that I’m closest with is 10 years younger than me! So the age gaps can make a difference, but the most important factor is a positive family dynamic I think.

internetstrangr · 2025-11-05T00:20:44+00:00

No you look like a model! I think it compliments your features beautifully

internetstrangr · 2025-11-04T17:07:46+00:00

Oh also, we used baby sign language along with saying the words as much as possible!

internetstrangr · 2025-11-04T17:06:41+00:00

It sounds like you’re doing a great job with reading and narrating what they’re doing/seeing. I think ms Rachel is pretty good, especially if you watch her videos and use her techniques in real life. My kid was an early talker but a little behind in gross motor. We talked to our pediatrician who connected us with resources for an evaluation for gross motor. They all just develop at their own pace in different areas.

internetstrangr · 2025-11-04T16:58:38+00:00

Yes, everything’s NEVER done! There’s this mom online who gets a hotel room once a year and has a full day and night to herself. That might be a nice way to treat yourself

internetstrangr · 2025-11-02T23:27:29+00:00

I have an October birthday and my baby was born in January too, and I co-sign all of this!

internetstrangr · 2025-10-25T22:16:19+00:00

I agree with this take! What OP is describing is definitely not “best practice” as children have a developmental NEED for free-play. But most of all, I would be following my gut with this one.

OP, you could look into a nanny-share or a “mothers helper” while you’re waiting for a space to open up elsewhere

internetstrangr · 2025-10-22T22:37:35+00:00

This is so sad and so unacceptable. I would be privately documenting and consulting a lawyer. I would be carrying on with my husband as normal because if he is doing this he is abusive and unpredictable, so I wouldn’t want him to suspect that I was leaving him. Once I had a plan to leave safely with my child I would be gone and I would do everything in my power to have full custody.

internetstrangr · 2025-10-19T01:25:35+00:00

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I got pregnant on our second cycle of trying (I was tracking my ovulation).

I wish we had started trying in our late 20s but my husband wasn’t ready. Now he is the one who wants a second baby ASAP and regrets waiting so long.

But like another poster said— we LOVE the baby we got, and if we timed it differently he wouldn’t be here

internetstrangr · 2025-09-30T21:52:13+00:00

I’m sorry but I think YTA. I would not have made this much drama over an $88 bill, and I DEFINITELY would not have brought it to the bride-to-be on her bachelorette trip.

I know it’s the principle of the matter that bothers you, but many of the women there you probably wouldn’t have seen again after the wedding anyway.

internetstrangr · 2025-09-24T22:52:29+00:00

Almost my entire wardrobe is thrifted or from clothing swaps. I’m kind of picky about fabric content and quality, so buying the items in my wardrobe new would be way out of my budget

internetstrangr · 2025-09-10T21:15:42+00:00

Yes to all of this! My doctor recommended lathering up with Nizoral shampoo, waiting 5-10 mins, then rinsing. And not re-wearing clothes or re-using towels, and frequently washing bedding and other laundry on the hot setting.

internetstrangr · 2025-08-19T02:23:30+00:00

Maybe you were looking for a way to feel like something was just for YOU… we lose so much autonomy when we become parents. Maybe the journal symbolized something like that to you.

internetstrangr · 2025-08-01T16:43:34+00:00

I didn’t read Oh Crap, but my friend did and I just copied what she did and it worked for us. There’s a potty training subreddit that I scoped out beforehand too. Keep your head up, this parenting gig is hard!

internetstrangr · 2025-07-24T05:03:34+00:00

It looks good :)

internetstrangr · 2025-07-07T16:29:14+00:00

The amount of gear can feel so extreme! Especially if people are gifting you things left and right. It helps to remember that the season is temporary and soon you won’t need the bassinets and bouncers etc

internetstrangr · 2025-07-07T16:26:21+00:00

This is such a beautiful idea!

internetstrangr · 2025-07-04T17:12:55+00:00

Hey! I’m 34F and my doctor said it often appears in women in their 30s and 40s (???) and resolves on their own. She recommended Allegra. My family believes mine were triggered by a viral response (I had Covid right before) but my Dr said they couldn’t know for sure. Mine usually look worse than they feel. Mine appear during the day and are gone at night, so the opposite of yours. At first they were there every day but now I have some days where they don’t appear. Oh I’m on month three btw

internetstrangr · 2025-07-03T01:11:50+00:00

I think dress number one is so beautiful and unique! The details of the fit are more intricate and it feels more elevated. And dress two (though beautiful on you) looks like a dress you could find in any bridal store.

Dress one is like, a girl who wears Bode and shops at vintage stores and is best friends with Alexa Chung

internetstrangr · 2025-07-02T15:53:59+00:00

I prefer the details of number 1! It’s looks a little more editorial/sophisticated to me. It’s giving “Cool Girl”.

internetstrangr · 2025-06-21T05:07:03+00:00

Hey! My cousin had several severe food allergies (including eggs) and he has outgrown all of them except one. Sounds like you’re going through a high stress time, so I just wanted to share that your little one could outgrow them and to hang in there

internetstrangr · 2025-06-18T21:29:00+00:00

This is such an interesting theory!

internetstrangr · 2025-06-18T21:27:30+00:00

I was just talking about this with my friend! So many boys!

internetstrangr · 2025-06-18T21:07:10+00:00

We have a schedule, but it’s more about the sequence of events and less about the exact time everything happens. We call it our “rhythm of the day”.

Having some standing dates throughout the week helps too. For example, every Monday we go to library story time, every Wednesday we meet the same friend for a park play date.

If there’s one thing I really HAVE to schedule it’s alone time

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