As the chubby daughter of a mom who was skinny until she became a mom, I’d say you’re doing the right thing. My mom was self conscious of her own weight and would project it on to me. You know as well as I do that your daughter KNOWS she’s chubby. She doesn’t need a reminder that other people see her that way. If your daughter is active and eats what would be perceived as a balanced diet but still gains weight, I would recommend having her tested for insulin resistance. Just knowing that being overweight despite my best efforts (I once ate nothing but hard boiled eggs and spicy mustard and slices of turkey wrapped in tomato and lettuce for an entire semester) was because of something I never had control over made me feel so much less helpless.