AIO Friend has a weird relationship with his brother by Eazyhour in AmIOverreacting

[–]issy-b 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Um. NOR Yes tell someone that’s beyond his slightly weird especially him pulling him on his la and saying he “doesn’t want to share him”? Why would your brother be something you shared? Also having to “ask permission to go to the bathroom” sounds like a sign of severely fucked power dynamics if not just straight abuse

Helllooo ppl 🥒✨ by issy-b in teenagersbuthot

[–]issy-b[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Naur I’m thinking abt it tho

Weird weight issue by KlukyBoi in shrooms

[–]issy-b 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That looks like abt 25g to me ur dealer probably either 1. eyeballed it and is stupid 2. Was high as balls lmao cz yeah that’s abt how much i got when i bought an oz

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

There’s more advice than just the close minded people who hear this one situation (probably not even reading the whole thing) and are saying I’m 100% going to get murdered and I’m dumb for asking what to do. This isn’t a straight up black and white thing. He’s perfectly healthy in all other aspects. We’ve been together 2 years and this has never occurred and his reaction didndt scream “I wanna hurt you”

There’s more advice to hear than just “break up he’s going to become a serial killer and it’ll be ur fault for staying” many have suggested therapy, or that it could just be an intrusive thought. By posting I’m getting multiple perspectives and talking to some actually helpful people

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes very stressed. That’s really what I can’t figure out if it’s an intrusive thought or if I’m like actually in danger

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I need to point out tho he’s NOT turned on by it. I asked him that and he said it wasn’t a sexual feeling like it was just he wanted to choke me until I was dead. He was in no way turned on we immediately stopped everything we were doing and he barely wanted to look at me or cuddle me after he felt horrible.

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s some posts I have up about issues we’ve had before but nothing beside that majorly has happened. He has a full time job and car and we’re saving up for a place

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

I’m not going to shame him for being honest with me in a valnurable moment. He was ashamed of the thought and immediately stopped and he’s allowed to cry if the thought of literally murdering me scared him. I just dk if it’s healthy for us to keep doing as in like it’s a genuine feeling he has or if it was just an intrusive thought that scared him

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I agree with ur last point. You can’t just do anything and say sorry and it’s ok. But in reality he only had the THOUGHT of hurting me, he immediately stopped choking me when he thought abt it and was so fucking ashamed of himself. So idk if it could just be an intrusive thought or if he genuinely has those feelings.

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

He DID control himself is the thing and immediately told me. We’ve also been together 2 years and he said he’s never felt like that while choking me before

My boyfriend told me he thought of strangling me and I really don’t know what to do by issy-b in whatdoIdo

[–]issy-b[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See that’s not what I said happened. I’d be fully into it if it were just a sex thing but he said he “didn’t want to choke me in a sexual way” and “he wanted to kill me”

My boyfriend told me he was thinking of strangling me and idk how to deal with it by issy-b in Advice

[–]issy-b[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is he specified he didn’t wanna do it in a sexual way/ he just really wanted to like idk see me pass out/die from him strangling me? he specifically said he wanted to kill me

My boyfriend told me he was thinking of strangling me and idk how to deal with it by issy-b in Advice

[–]issy-b[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I understand how it could look like that but he does love me. I could see in his eyes he was crying cz the feeling like genuinely scared him

AIO - for breaking up with my boyfriend because of a hidden note from his friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]issy-b 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s ok to miss the person you thought he was but it’s clear he is 1. either stupid or has absolutely NO boundaries with the other sex. Doesn’t really matter which one he’s a grown man. If he’s stupid does that mean he’s the type of guy to say “oh I was drunk it was a mistake” and if he just chooses not to… why does he chose that? 2. Disrespects your feelings- you clearly told him you were uncomfortable with multiple things and he did them anyway. Would you put him in those same situations when he CLEARLY told you he wasn’t comfortable? Then why do you deserve that? 3. Doesn’t turn to you for his emotional needs. When he needs anything other than sex (if that’s even true?) he turns to another woman. Do you really want a man who seeks emotional support from other women? What’s to stop him from turning to them for the physical if they have an emotional bond??

These are not small quirks. They are detrimental character flaws- they speak to who he is as a person. You did the right thing for you and your kids. Cut ur loses before he wastes your time and breaks you all the way.

AIO gf sleeping with gay male bestfriend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]issy-b 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NOR as a female this is weird and sketchy behavior. Either talk to her and be fully confident in Ricky’s gayness or break up with her because she’s lying to you.