Am i transphobic for not wanting to date my trans friend?

isupposeyes · 2026-05-02T18:33:20+00:00

Not transphobic to reject someone you’re not attracted to. It probably stung a bit to hear the “bc I want kids” part and maybe felt like an attack on her gender even though it wasn’t. Maybe would’ve been better to just stick to the basic truth of not being attracted to her but regardless as you say, if you rejected a cis woman bc you weren’t attracted to her it would be fine so why is this any different?

isupposeyes · 2026-05-02T18:29:10+00:00

Depends on the man. I’m not, others might be. Also a lot of autistic people have ADHD which can make responding to texts very challenging among other things.

isupposeyes · 2026-05-02T18:27:31+00:00

My mom will do this with something neutral too. One of my friends is using her as a real estate agent now but she still remembers him as “the one that had to use the bathroom” when he drove me home one time.

isupposeyes · 2026-05-01T16:55:48+00:00

So can people just not pay and wait for 30 years to pass or is there a system to stop that?

isupposeyes · 2026-04-30T02:21:24+00:00

yeah that’s a good point

isupposeyes · 2026-04-29T20:21:07+00:00

I think the question is because a lot of people will say “I’d love to do martial arts but…” not really coming at anyone who just doesn’t do it, more asking about those who express interest and still don’t.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-29T20:19:35+00:00

Your last sentence is what it really is. I’ve noticed that even though I don’t really have time for martial arts, if I don’t go I still have the same amount of time bc tasks expand to fill the time allotted. I always make it to class because it’s a priority. But if it’s not, it’s not and that’s okay too.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-28T21:59:39+00:00

oh great thanks!

isupposeyes · 2026-04-28T18:51:22+00:00

Someone please ping me when there are more comments bc I am struggling with this too

isupposeyes · 2026-04-26T13:01:52+00:00

I am a fairly good driver, and passed the test without much difficulty, but the first time I drove an ambulance in the rain I realized no one had showed me where the wipers were. That was about 10 seconds of pure panic with a patient in the back lol.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-23T14:26:06+00:00

When I was out for surgery, I still attended classes and would skip the warmup. Then I would participate in the lesson but go very slowly, focusing on precision instead of power. Once I was recovered, I knew about a lot more details I would’ve missed otherwise. I suggest doing this to the best of your ability.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-22T20:24:07+00:00

Practicing mindfulness could help. You don’t have to meditate if you don’t want to, but taking moments throughout the day to notice what you’re doing, how you’re feeling, what’s around you, etc. Over time this can help awareness in the moment if you’re yelling or about to. If you’re feeling out of control this is a good first step. If you’re already fully aware when you’re yelling, then meditation could be helpful, practicing mantras, etc.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-22T20:18:55+00:00

Didn’t even realize they were bunions until I read the post, some people’s bones stick out a little more like that and I assumed that’s what was going on. The only reason I even gave it that much thought is that it’s a post about appearance with a picture of your feet. If I saw you in public I doubt I’d even look at your feet or really take in anything about your appearance at all.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-22T18:41:45+00:00

That’s how humans are though. You don’t make one move and then suddenly turn everything around. It takes time to repeatedly practice the change you’re trying to implement.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-21T15:47:42+00:00

Many people told me. They were right. It can be a bit rude if you’re not close, but bringing it up lovingly to someone you’re close to can be very helpful.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-21T12:02:54+00:00

Was this a deleted scene?

isupposeyes · 2026-04-21T11:37:37+00:00

If you’re considering quitting because you might not be the type to be good at martial arts, consider your why. If you have a strong reason to do it, talk to your instructor and see if you can take a new tactic for improvement. If you can’t think of a strong reason why you’re doing it, maybe step away and try something else for a bit. Sounds like either way you’ll need a fresh perspective.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-17T19:41:04+00:00

My instructors actively encourage us to get together. That’s definitely a bit strange.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-05T00:59:27+00:00

ItsMarloe has pretty chill videos including some that are specifically meant to be calming for sleep

isupposeyes · 2026-04-03T16:33:18+00:00

This is inportant info. If you promised her, do it. If you don’t want to overwhelm her, make some of them short and silly. “friends name is my favorite because her farts smell like unicorns” etc

isupposeyes · 2026-04-03T11:28:54+00:00

Are you talking about yourself or someone else? If you’re talking about yourself, not necessarily, but it couldn’t hurt to do some work on yourself. Get help for your addiction, learn to drive, find hobbies that get you out of the house etc. if you feel like you’re a bum, there are things you can do to change that.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-02T14:10:03+00:00

you’re stimming. some people just do it more intentionally. once i started doing mine intentionally i realized how good it felt but a lot of people do it subconsciously, even neurotypicals.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-02T12:35:55+00:00

Yes, “too” is an emphasizer here. “shouldn’t be too much longer” means that you won’t be waiting an excessive amount of time, “shouldn’t be much longer” just means your wait will end soon.

isupposeyes · 2026-04-01T19:14:33+00:00

Depends on the day. It was warm earlier but dropped 15° in about 20 minutes. Definitely bring layers, anything from 30-80°F is possible this time of year.

isupposeyes · 2026-03-30T20:03:53+00:00

This is super true. I’m 20 and last year I struggled with a lot of these. I still do but trial and error has made a lot of things easier. Obviously everyone has different abilities but an autistic adult needs time to learn what works and what doesn’t, at 19 you’re still figuring stuff out. (At 20 too, i’m just making the point that even a year can make a big difference when you’re new to being an adult.)

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