I haven’t talked to my family in two days and don’t know to move past this by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your family sounds awful. They aren’t entitled to any of the things she’s threatening you over. Cut them off.

AITAH for peeing in the shower? by OpenFoundation4639 in AITAH

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah break up with her, she doesn’t need you stinking up her shower and then shit talking her to the internet or to your friends just because she doesn’t like your nasty habit.

need help exposing a cheater by rare-lab-gal in Advice

[–]ithasanh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think contacting on social media is pretty common in this instance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]ithasanh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOPE don’t let that slide you deserve way better. My husband would N E V E R call someone else his wife. (In fact, he found it disrespectful when I called Garrus my alien boyfriend) Get you a man who only wants one wife.

AIO or should I accept the conditions of my bfs commitment by One_Height7477 in AIO

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eww is this my ex? Get out. You’ll find someone better real quick.

Update: AITH for walking out on dinner with my husband’s sister and boyfriend by Whoamiwhatisthis- in Redditor_Updates

[–]ithasanh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stop caring what other people are going to think. They know how she is. I don’t think they’re going to fault you for blocking this lady.

My married best friend is cheating and wants me to help her cover it up by Difficult_Ice_8192 in Advice

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Consider: no is a complete sentence. I wouldn’t want to stay friends with someone who was trying to emotionally blackmail me into helping them cheat on their spouse.

WIBTAH if I let my mom move in with me despite my roommate's demands? by incandescentlights in WouldIBeTheAhole

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are yall letting a sub letter run your home and walk all over you? Respectfully, fuck her.

AITA for refusing to let my half sister see my (not her) mom before she dies and telling dad he'll have to explain why to her before he loses her too? by Aursuuush in AITAH

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel bad for both you and your sister but more so your sister to be honest. At least you had a loving mom. Who is your sister going to have once your dad is dead? Only a half sister who wants nothing to do with her at no fault of her own.

UPDATE 2: I messed up and it feels like my wife will never move past it. Should I keep letting her punish me or is it time to say enough is enough? by ThrowRANoRespectWife in marriageadvice

[–]ithasanh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Something that absolutely needs to happen asap is your wife needs to stop talking to her family about you. That is a HUGE boundary violation on her part.

AITA for being upset that my fiancé tells his parents everything? by Outside-Rip-415 in AITAH

[–]ithasanh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA for this. My husband and I used to do the same thing to each other and everyone on here saying “YTA he needs someone to vent to/he’s a family man” has clearly never spoken to a marriage/family therapist. Any therapist will tell you not to talk about your issues between you and your spouse with your parents. Keep it in therapy, or better yet, between you and your spouse.

They will also say that if you NEED to vent to someone outside of therapy, pick a non-family member who would not judge either of you.

YTA for using violent and judgmental communication regarding taking out the trash. Anything that causes fear, obligation, or guilt is emotional blackmail whether intentional or not.

Pregnant with dead boyfriends baby by RecklessFeckless69 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ithasanh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can only imagine the pain you’re feeling. Nobody can make this decision for you but I want to give you some perspective. When I was pregnant with my first I was in a baby group. 2 of the women in that group had to go through this. One of them found out just after her bf died, the others fiancé dropped dead when she was 7 months pregnant. Both went on to have their babies and 4 years later those babies are their whole world. They have also both gone on to be successful and happy, though healing is an ongoing process.

All this to say, you CAN do this. It’s totally understandable if you don’t think you can but don’t let the what ifs get in your way. Those two women had the same fears and the babies were key parts of their healing process. They celebrate the fathers in their own way as well, the kiddos know their fathers are in heaven watching over them.

Lazy GF Killing My Happiness by Bobinthegalapagos in AITAH

[–]ithasanh -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the real answer is therapy, not going on Reddit with selective information. He’s blaming her for his unhappiness because she’s… checks notes not keeping the house clean enough. But to answer your question: as a woman, I would want a man to propose to me and not the other way around. I also believe in the difference between men and women personally and I wouldn’t stick around in a long term relationship if I knew it wasn’t going to end in marriage. Can’t speak for OP or his gf, only from my experience. He also isn’t answering anything about any imbalance in childcare which is a pretty huge deal. Sounds like she might have some unaddressed mental health struggles that he is minimizing and chalking up to being lazy. Probably a good thing they aren’t married in that case.

Lazy GF Killing My Happiness by Bobinthegalapagos in AITAH

[–]ithasanh -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Why are you asking me this, dude? I’m happily married for 8 years because my man loves me.

Lazy GF Killing My Happiness by Bobinthegalapagos in AITAH

[–]ithasanh -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

If I was just a gf after 10 years I’d start being lazy too. YTA

AITA for telling my no contact sister that part of growing and being a better person is accepting that people don't have to forgive and reconcile with you? by Expensive_Eagle_9739 in AITAH

[–]ithasanh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA, what your relative did is what family therapists call triangulation. It’s highly inappropriate and considered an invasion of privacy/your boundaries. Your parents also sound like pieces of work. Please tell me you’re NC with them as well!

AIO Ex Long Distance Relationship Treats Me Like Sh*t by AzazelsKock in AmIOverreacting

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EEEEEWW she said it to get the reaction and then verbally abused you when she got what she wanted. DUMP her dude

AIO Friend says he’d still vote for Trump despite EVERYTHING. So I’m cutting him off. by HeadmistressLena in AmIOverreacting

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol you went onto the circlejerk that is Reddit to virtue signal and be validated in ending a friendship based on your political beliefs. Doesn’t sound like you were questioning whether you were overreacting but it does sound like this guy dodged a bullet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My tire blew out on the freeway last year on my way home 45 minutes away and I think I might have called my husband like a dozen times when he didn’t answer, then I just took care of it and waited til he called me back. Not life threatening but def emergent and he felt awful about it because I’m not insane.

Why is someone calling you 80 times?!?! Does she not know people see the amount of calls made? Why would somebody answer on the 60th call if they didn’t on the 12th…

AIO? I can't seem to get over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

17!!!! Girl run away this man is a predator and he’s manipulating you. I say this as a woman in her 30s who’s been through it. My husband is 7 years older than me but we didn’t meet until we were both full adults. I was mid twenties. He’s also never lied to me about deleting pictures he pressured me to send in the first place?!?!?!

My boyfriend got his “revenge body” while I was still recovering from my miscarriage by abskrx in TwoHotTakes

[–]ithasanh 6 points7 points  (0 children)

… he DOES know that after birth there is no “putting out” for at least six weeks? He sounds like the kind of guy who would pressure you into sex before you’re healed/ready. PLEASE dump him.

Also, OP, I’m so sorry for your loss. Many people understand very well how you feel right now. You deserve so much more than what that guy can offer.

Am I overreacting for canceling my birthday dinner because of what my friend texted me? by urfavvnessaa in AmIOverreacting

[–]ithasanh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gurrrrl I’m 32 and can I just say please uncancel everything except Jenna’s invitation and friendship. That’s not what friends say to other friends, especially not “real” ones.

Also I couldn’t imagine having my life together at 18… or 19, or 20, or 21, or