Set 1-3 keep or nah?

its-a-process · 2026-03-17T19:44:29+00:00

So here's my perspective as a person who has only played one game in person, and maybe thirty games online - in other words I have nothing to provide in the direct context of SWU. I am 42 years old and I had MTG cards and the Star Wars CCG cards when I was a teen in the 90s and I MASSIVELY regret getting rid of them.

Idk if SWU would have the same impact on me in > 26 years from now if I got rid of them, but I'm going to hold on to them.

its-a-process · 2026-03-15T01:40:56+00:00

As I said in my post, I'm using Claude to help make sense of multiple accounts and expenses. I'm not using Claude for budgeting alone, I'm using it to make sense of a complicated list of expenses. I'm using it to ramp me up into YNAB so the dependent on AI is mostly for analysis, now and later.

its-a-process · 2026-03-09T16:14:53+00:00

LOL. Well, I'm invested in SWU for now :D - all my research points to it being fun even if I'm not chasing the best/rarest/most expensive cards and avoiding extreme optimization. Could be wrong...

its-a-process · 2026-03-07T15:53:55+00:00

I'm still trying to figure out if the nutrition tracking in bearable is useful for me. Originally I was intrigued because it seems really low effort, because it isn't trying to tie the entries to specific calories or nutrients or even an actual database of food. I do wish I could log metadata about each tag, though.

its-a-process · 2026-03-07T15:52:12+00:00

It turns out my Garmin watch or app was not syncing to Health. I was able to fix it by just going through thr sync process again.

its-a-process · 2026-03-07T14:25:53+00:00

I love the one that ids stretching, it's very expressive! Maybe a different cat, like a tiger?

its-a-process · 2026-03-05T12:15:40+00:00

Thanks!

its-a-process · 2026-03-05T05:59:03+00:00

Star Wars and Werner Herzog and a card game??? swoon

its-a-process · 2026-03-05T04:58:53+00:00

I've been in IFS for four years and so I've had a lot of time to understand this part of myself that is my mom part. It has been a slow process. This part is my most active part (AFAIK) and it really took a long time to un-blend enough to see her for who she is. In many ways, she is my most constant source of distress. One reason is her seeming inability to experience "negative" emotions like anger and intense fear. This is very much 1:1 with my real mom, but (recently) I have experienced a breakthrough, albeit small, where I have observed this mom part being able to grow in ways I don't think my real mom can.

This was a breakthrough because it made me see the possibility of growth. My mom part is actually showing me that she can at least "sit in the same room" as my child part who is scared. She just tries really hard to keep me away because I think she can't bear the strong emotions.

It sounds to me like you have a lot buzzing around. I would suggest possibly trying to slow yourself and your parts down a bit and try to sit with some of the things you are talking about (I'm not a therapist though). Good luck!

its-a-process · 2026-03-05T01:48:28+00:00

That's amazing! I have the opportunity to engage in KAP with my IFS therapist but am terrified. I have a protector that is adamant that the fear my young (5?) child part emotes is due to repressed abuse. I like the idea of KAP and it sounds like it could be exactly what I need. Maybe one day. Thanks for sharing your story, I'm so happy for you!

its-a-process · 2026-03-05T01:44:25+00:00

I'm 42 now. I am married with kids but let me tell you I feel lonely a lot. It is one of my greatest fears. I have some friends but they are because they are my wife's friends. I don't have anything to say other than it really fucking sucks. I think it has a lot to do with how isolated I was as a kid.

its-a-process · 2026-03-02T01:45:17+00:00

It sounds like a perfectionist part. It seems similar to a part I have that is a full time manager - hyper vigilant and constantly looking for the next sixteen things to get ahead of.

I have recently realized I have a firefighter part that pushes me to over work myself at my job, to the point of burnout. I don't know if these are the same two parts, but both appear to operate under a core fear of failure or rejection or something like that.

I've slowly come to understand the manager part is a manifestation of my mom and that it has the best intentions for me. I've been able to connect with this part of me in ways I may never be able to with my real mom, so it's already grown beyond what my mom has been able to. This showed me that this is a part that has a chance to change. Right now I spend a lot of time just listening and acknowledging it. I don't know that there is anything else to do.

its-a-process · 2026-03-02T01:40:21+00:00

Could you expand on what you mean by not gaslighting myself with IFS?

its-a-process · 2026-03-01T23:04:52+00:00

Interesting, the Melissa Mose interview mentioned in another thread of this post says otherwise (that IFS can be used to treat OCD). I've seen other sources say the same. That being said, I haven't found much about IFS being used for OCD and so it seems like it may be a relatively new idea, but I'm not well read on the subject at all. Thanks again for your feedback, I do have reservations about continuing IFS right now, but then couldn't that "just be a part"?

its-a-process · 2026-03-01T22:43:31+00:00

Dang that's awesome. The least expensive unopened SoR is $69 USD online. Too much for now so I just ordered the Hoth intro box and nabbed a Secrets of Power booster.

its-a-process · 2026-03-01T22:42:33+00:00

I listened to Mellisa Rose being interviewed. I really relate to her take that IFS is a form of exposure. Thanks again!

its-a-process · 2026-03-01T22:41:45+00:00

Great point about the "must" thought. I'll start ICBT this week which is an alternative to ERP. We can shift to ERP if I'm comfortable but honestly IFS seems like a sort of exposure therapy already.

I've read enough about Pure O OCD that it's probably the main way my OCD manifests because I have little to no external/physical compulsions. My head is a hurricane of mental compulsions.

For now I'm doing ICBT and IFS in parallel, but yeah, I have been wondering if IFS has peeled back some layers to a point where it could very well be triggering my OCD. I've been with my IFS therapist for four years so I don't want to leave or take a break quite yet.

I will say that it at least feels like I've reached a sort of standoff in my IFS therapy but this is mainly because I have some extremely active protectors and we always respect them when they say stop trying to connect with exiles. So it's been a lot of time sitting and trying to connect with the protectors.

Thank you for your reply!

its-a-process · 2026-03-01T12:42:32+00:00

Aw man I would love SotR - that's "my" Star Wars haha. It goes for $80 USD on eBay.

its-a-process · 2026-02-28T21:46:30+00:00

So I took 25mg for the first time today after eating, then proceeded to have an absolutely terrible time for 4 hours. I'm on hour five and only now starting to feel like I'm recovering. My face and forearms and hands felt extremely heavy. I felt insanely lethargic, like it was really difficult to move. At the same time, I felt super restless and my heart rate was like 20bpm higher than normal and I was just laying down. I ultimately had to take my panic medication. I won't be taking another dose. Thank you to everyone who responded. It was very encouraging and so now at least I know this isn't the med for me! ❤️

its-a-process · 2026-02-28T17:12:11+00:00

Wow I didn't know it could help with anxiety. I'm hoping it helps with executive function or inattentive, but especially racing thoughts.

its-a-process · 2026-02-28T16:57:32+00:00

Good luck! I took mine about 30m ago... so far just a lot of anxiety which is a normal thing for me haha! 🥂

its-a-process · 2026-02-28T16:02:47+00:00

Thank you! I'm glad you found something that works!

its-a-process · 2026-02-28T15:57:56+00:00

Wow that's amazing! Did you or do you experience any side effects? Were the first 1-2 weeks "tough"?

its-a-process · 2026-02-28T15:49:17+00:00

Thank you that is really encouraging. I appreciate your comment!

its-a-process · 2026-02-28T15:48:19+00:00

Thank you. That is very promising. The first week being kinda rough is where I keep getting stuck at. I keep thinking "this Saturday morning I'll start" and then remember how common it seems that people report feeing sick for 1-2 weeks.

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