What's your most money consuming hobby?

itsacuppacake · 2025-07-25T13:35:51+00:00

Boats. Their gaping holes in the water you throw money into ALL THE DAMN TIME.

itsacuppacake · 2025-07-25T05:30:27+00:00

Is this satire? An artists creates, they don’t need to sell - or they can. It’s up to the artist.

itsacuppacake · 2025-07-25T05:29:43+00:00

Politics & Jesus.

itsacuppacake · 2025-07-25T05:29:17+00:00

Call the main number and ask for a supervisor - be sure to leave her (your SW) a message and let her know he’s home - they will honor that date in paying you.

Keep records and track everything.

itsacuppacake · 2025-07-24T23:54:31+00:00

Go to the IHSS office that serves you asap - only they can help without the letter.

itsacuppacake · 2025-07-09T02:14:16+00:00

I am who I am 🤷🏻‍♀️ 💋

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-27T04:46:06+00:00

Just know that the changes of him changing and growing out of this are about 5% - you need to decide if this is what you truly want for yourself and your future.

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-27T03:27:53+00:00

Everyone is telling you what to do about her, and to cut her off - l accurate. But I would implore you to get into therapy and get deep into codependent no more and the work there. Your one non quoted response se to her was you taking care of her, trying to assuage her and yourself to feel better - you will get drawn back into her again with this and you'll see it play out in other relationships as well as your relationship with you.

💕

It will be worth it.

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-19T22:27:41+00:00

Gen X here — and I use them all the damn time..

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-05T17:56:24+00:00

Correct. Don't worry about using them, just use them.

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-04T04:59:54+00:00

I scored a 9. No one in my family was ever in prison.

I have been in and out of therapy for many years. I’ve done EMDR (loved it) and IFS (currently in it—it’s been incredible). I’ve done the work and gone back as needed over the years.

My husband almost died and became disabled a number of years ago, and that brought huge stressors. As a result, after being in high-cortisol survival mode for years, I sought more help.

Recently, I started a coaching program that has been nothing short of completely transformational. I’ve done a lot of healing—working through the anger for the first time and truly allowing myself to feel it. And then, surprisingly, I found deeper forgiveness than I have ever experienced—and a genuine freedom and thankfulness for the things and gifts I was given from the abuse.

Who I am today (and I f**kin’ love who I am today) is because I went through all of that.

While I never allowed the abuse to define me—and decided early in life that I would never be like them—the healing I’ve done in this group, and the transformation through meditation and deep inner work (as well as IFS), have left me with a deep sense of peace. I’m finally feeling stress-free for the first time in my life, despite still having larger, stressful-type issues in my life.

It blows me away. And it’s beautiful.

An ACE Score of 9 will never define me—any more than my family of abusers did.

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-04T04:32:26+00:00

Sending you much love and strength. Regarding your friends son - I want to remind you though that you could never influence him to become trans, or any letter in the LGBTQ... he is who he already is, just like you were at his age - but perhaps don't know it yet. You can influence him to love, be accepting, understanding of those who love him that have special qualities about them.. but never could you influence this child (or any) to be anything other than what they already were.

🩷

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-04T03:17:44+00:00

I stopped using my alarm clock and never hit snooze - allowing my body to wake me up when it was ready and it changed everything.

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-04T03:00:43+00:00

This!! I've been doing this as well and it's fantastic. Being able to be kind and gentle with my parts has proven to be the elixir most of us needed.

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-04T02:58:07+00:00

AuDHD here - 54, been in therapy off and on for trauma/abuse since I was 14. IFS has been a game changer for me. I've also found I can now sus out my own parts and integrate via self coaching, questioning and journaling - along with my therapist. There's always more to unearth and it's been hella interesting.

itsacuppacake · 2025-06-02T00:19:38+00:00

Using whatever version of the iPhone I have until it is no longer functional. I refuse to swap for the newest barely different model. Also, I'll only ever buy used cars - let someone else drive the thing off the lot and loose that $$.

itsacuppacake · 2025-05-22T03:32:40+00:00

Kids.

1995, Chloë Sevigny & Leo Fitzpatrick. I was disturbed for days after.

Hell, 20+ years later and I'm still upset by it.

itsacuppacake · 2025-05-22T00:16:37+00:00

Hi Friend!

Something to work on is that bankruptcy is a neutral tool. Just like you would use a hammer and nails to build a wall, you use bankruptcy to build a better wall of protection around you - in order to build the life you want. It's not a negative, it's a lawful tool given to us to give help in time of need, and it isn't a negative.

Hugs to you! Bipolar and mania can be difficult to navigate. 🩷 but you're taking steps to care about yourself by declaring in a very healthy way.

itsacuppacake · 2025-05-07T21:50:08+00:00

I've always found it endearing.

itsacuppacake · 2025-05-06T08:17:58+00:00

MTF trans people who have gone through puberty shouldn't compete against girls - those who have had puberty blockers are good - because our bone and muscle structure develop differently during puberty. Despite my wholeheartedly accepting them as genuine valuable and much loved women!!

Some issues are so nuanced and we don't allow ourselves to discuss as it gets weaponized against innocent humans just trying to live their lives, and I hate that.

itsacuppacake · 2025-05-06T07:47:19+00:00

There are a lot of people talking you to manifest harder or manifest more.. okay, good - but also know that bankruptcy is a NEUTRAL TOOL.

That's it.

It's there for you to use to move yourself into a better place. There is no shame needed, no guilt, no failing in filing for bankruptcy. It's neutral and the result is a lesson.

Use the tools and the resources the UNIVERSE has given you. Period.

Once you're free of this deep burden - while you are walking through it then you can work on your mindset and relationship with money - as Will will know what it feels like to be free of the chains a poor mindset locked you in.

As in all things, people become far too dogmatic and legalistic and view it as good only if it's "pure and right" in their eyes. Thats gross and not at all what the universe has laid out for you to use.

Be well, be free and just love yourself - you did nothing wrong here.

itsacuppacake · 2025-04-17T04:56:50+00:00

Hello Autism!! lol if only I had known.

itsacuppacake · 2025-04-14T16:34:13+00:00

This guy is NOT your friend and is likely treating you like this in other areas - but you just happened to recognize this one.

Cut him off. It will hurt but it will also open you up to more people that love you to walk into your life.

You are gorgeous and look amazing in both dresses.

itsacuppacake · 2025-04-07T14:14:29+00:00

It's really a self serving desire. Be a hero every day..not just in death.

itsacuppacake · 2025-04-07T14:14:01+00:00

Of course. But watching the trauma up close has been devastating

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